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yorkc39 (776.8 days ago)
I live with my parents right now, and they watch her sometimes, or play with her while they`re at home. I`m a single mom so it`s nice to have them as helpers, and since I grew up with their disciplinary style, I agree with theirs. They tried to `parent` me a little when she was younger, telling me how to raise her, but now have let me do my own thing and respect my style of parenting, although I do mind their opinions once in a while. There are some things I don`t like, such as my mother spoiling her and such but some things I let go and some things I don`t, I live with them what am I gonna do :P. Now if it was a MIL it`d be totally different!

nmck (776.9 days ago)
My mom watches my son. I let her go by her rules at her house and she does indulge him more than I do. I figure that is the bonus of having a loving grandmother caring for him during the day while I work. When he is a little older, I know she will make him behave and help teach him good manners, but she will still be more indulgent than I am. I have learned by watching my sisters` kids there that the kids still know they have to follow MY rules everywhere but Nana`s house.

soon2be3 (777.1 days ago)
My MIL use to watch our kids every day(she passed away in August) and she was wonderful. She was slightly more relaxed with rules, but her rules were very consistant. I think you should both work together on this...as you will both be raising your child. In the long run, you must also remember that they are staying with someone who loves and wants them...someone you trust. Some things you are just going to have to let slide (unless they are in danger or are doing something seriously wrong). Once the kids are a little older, they will start regulating themselves too. I can`t tell you how many times my kids have told someone the things they are allowed or not allowed to do. Words that they aren`t allowed to use. Things they aren`t allowed to eat.

monkeymamma (777.1 days ago)
My mom watches my son Mon-Thur. It`s wonderful. There`s a few little things she lets him get away with though.

EllaG (777.1 days ago)
My MIL & I completely disagree on how to discipline a child. She made some comment the other day about how my DH used to write on the walls. I said something to the effect that if I had ever done that, my mum would have given me a smack (swat on the arse, nothing brutal!) & she was horrified - even more so when I said that if our LO does it when she gets older, she`d get the same. Her response was `Sure its only a lick of paint to get it right again` - excuse me for not wanting to repaint my house because I`ve not taught my children not to write on the walls! I`m not looking to get into a debate on the rights and wrongs of spanking. I believe that discipline should be consistent & fair, but how can I apply this if she mollycoddles my children?



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