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melliewald (697.4 days ago)
I have two different friends who decided to have one natural/biological birth and then adopt future children. It`s amazing to go through the birth experience once, but not everyone has the best time of it. I`m an only child and had great relationships w/cousins and friends and always related to adults better than many of my peers could. My mom told me recently that she had guilt that she couldn`t give me a sibling and she thought I must resent her for it. Not at all.

EllaG (698.8 days ago)
I don`t think your ready to have another right now, just going by the wording of your poll. I think it would be much better for your son to be an only child (if you never were ready again) than to have another baby out of a sense of duty - imagine how that child would feel if he or she knew that you only attempted to conceive them as a companion for your first? I know you would love him/her all the same, but I think that people should have kids because they want them and are able (emotionally, physically, financially etc) to have them. You never know how you will feel about it in a few weeks/months/years time!

Str8 As (699 days ago)
Not selfish at all. You may have different views later on. Enjoy the LO you have now. Only you can determine what is best for you and only time can tell!

domsmom2009 (699 days ago)
I think that you`re still young and so is your baby. you don`t have to have them close in age either. I have 1 now and I`m set on only having 1 for about 3 years IF i ever even want another one. it`s not a decision that I`m making right away and you don`t have to make it right away either :)

maimai (699 days ago)
its not selfish if you don`t want another. I agree with Luzaan though. I`d wait until you feel ready to have another baby then think about it again!

canadababy (699.1 days ago)
lol, I had a difficult pregnancy and a nightmare labour, but I`m pregnant with #2 right now :) This pregnancy has been easier (so far) and I`m trying to think positive about the labour, that there`s no way it can be worse than the first! It`s totally up to you though. Sounds like you`re not ready at this instant, why don`t you re-visit the idea in 6months and see how you feel then?

charliebaby (699.1 days ago)
Apart from the gender issue, it sounds like your last pregnancy is too fresh in your mind. Wait until you want to be pregnant again, if you want another child desperately enough, you will welcome pregnancy and childbirth with open arms, and your desire for a child, boy or girl, will outweigh your preference for a girl. And if in time you don`t think having another baby is something you want to consider, well it`s not illegal to have only one child. Naturally you`re going to get opinions based on personal perspectives, some will understand where you`re coming from and some won`t - it doesn`t matter what anyone else thinks, if you`re not ready or don`t want another child, especially another boy (because you could have another boy) then it takes strength of character to acknowledge that and be satisfied with what you have. Bringing a child into the world that isn`t wanted just because you feel you have to isn`t ideal either.

LKDream (699.1 days ago)
If I could replace the word `selfish` then it would be `scared`. I think you are more scared of the pregnancy bc if you were selfish, you would have never though of #2 so much. There is options for a better pregnancy. I wish I could have a doula with my pregnancy, I think they make every experiance much easier. Good luck!



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