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charliebaby (698.4 days ago)
Straight up, but I don`t look at it as scraping the bottom of the barrel at all - whilst a guy without kids might be put off by having a child - and that`s fine because before I had my son I would probably have run 100 miles from a single dad, but since having my son, its those single dads who are now probably more attractive to me because I feel that they appreciate that it`s your child (and their child/ren) who come first.
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achance2dream (698.5 days ago)
I am currently a single mom who is also going through the same thing. I always start off by saying `Hi I am Tabitha. I have a son` because they can either take it or leave it and I think it is better to get it out in the open right away because it is not only wasting their time but your time. If that isn`t something they are willing to be apart of then what is the point? I currently have been seeing a really great guy, I am 23 and he is 24 and I was in the same boat as the other girls thinking I wanted to be with an older man who would have his shoulders a little more squared out then someone closer to my age but this guy has his life together and we are such a great match. He has not met my son yet and he isn`t pushing it either but then again he is excited to take us to the zoo and things of that sort which is really nice to have a guy want to do things not only with me but with my son. Just be patient and don`t push a relationship, things happen for a reason and I think that you should just be upfront with any guy you can potentially see yourself having a relationship with. Good luck hun and if you need to talk I am here. =)
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domsmom2009 (698.6 days ago)
I am not single but if I was, I would tell them right away just so I don`t waste his time and mine and that goes both ways.if it`s a deal breaker, oh well it wasn`t ment to be. Good luck :)
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MommyOf3But4ToBe (698.6 days ago)
When i was single i would also let the person know right away that i had kids. Some guys are ok with it, while others are not. At the time i met my DH, i was done having kids, and was not even looking at that point, i figured when it happened it happened. Luckily for me he was ok with not having any kids of his own. He left that up to me if i chose to have more he would be ok with that choice also. Well we have one who just turned two, and one more on the way. But i did find when i was looking all i could find were a bunch of jerks that only wanted sex, since i wanted more than that i was picky. I also did not introduce my kids to them just for the sake of not wanting them to be attached to someone only for it not to work out. So take your time, and dont rush things, i know im jumping all over the place, but if you would like more thoughts on this from someone who has been there, feel free to message me on my page... good luck hun..
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mamaJO ♥ (698.6 days ago)
When do you tell the other person you have kids? I tend to tell them the moment I meet them so I don`t waste their time. I feel like I should be scraping the bottom of the barrel because I already have kids. I don`t want anymore kids, either. This is all so new to me... BUT I think it`s time to get back in the game... HEEEEEEELP!
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