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Name-poll poll My bf`s eldest son is nearly 10yrs and he is a monster! always has been, ive tried to give her advice with how i treat/discipline my own kids but i see the main problem is with her, you see when he does something naughty like throwing things at her,shouting,swearing running off etc her answer is to stand screaming at him for 10mins no matter where she is then drag him in the house,he usually either stands in the house screaming the or kicking/breaking things or runs back out, she always asks for my advice but then says `oh that doesnt work` ive told her to get him sent to his bedroom, remove his t.v.xbox etc or the one thing that really works with my kids is grounding them and getting them to help round the house..what would you all say?
(Name poll by Faith-star-x, 698 days ago)
I agree...she needs to ground him,get tougher
try talking to him,ask why he is being like this? ( i have told her to do this)
Give up?! no hope/no idea's
ask for outside help for both of them


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Comments: 5

cleebel (697.3 days ago)
I would say at the age of 10 there has to be some underlying issues. So 1 and 2 would probably be the best thing. The father issue is also a question. Young men need to be active year round, so positive engagement like sports would probably help. 10 years is a long time to be out of control and she needs to find a better solution soon. Having a good friend like you is important, so stay strong and encouraging.

Faith-star-x (697.4 days ago)
Thanks girls, its hard to watch and ive tried so many times to tell her that screaming will not work it just makes him worse as he just does the same, i know a friend of her`s today suggested a parenting programme so im trying to encourage her to go with it x

Str8 As (697.6 days ago)
A combination of choices 1 and 2. Ground him and then ask what`s up? If that does not rectify the situation, then some outside intervention may be needed. Is the father in the picture?

charliesmummy18 (697.6 days ago)
I agree with Leenieworm, if shouting is all that child has heard then thats all they are going to know! When i was younger and if i mis behaved my dad always took something that was precious to me whether it was my TV, mobile, internet etc and that gave me a wake up call and i would then get bored without the item he took and i would then tell myself that im not going to do that again! In my eyes thats the best way to go!

Leenieworm (697.7 days ago)
My sister is the same way. She thinks that yeling at her 3 and 4 year olds is the way to go. Then she wonders why her children scream all the time and act out frequently. They are only displaying the behavior they have been taught. If she has never taken the time to talk with her kids then they will never know anything but yelling and that will be how they express themselves. It`s a sad chain but it can be broken with some patience and hard work on her behalf, the only question left is: Is she willing to try something else because what she had tried doesn`t work and only helps contribute to the general problem of no respect of others.



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