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Other-poll poll My 4.5 yr old has been crying she hates preschool and doesn`t want to go since November. I kept trying thinking it was just a phase. Now I am trying to figure out if we should just pull her out since she doesn`t have to go this year, and just start kindergarten next year. What would you do? BTW, she knows/writes all her uppercase/lowercase letters, numbers, shapes, colors, many phonics, writes her name & some other words, and counts to 30.
(Other poll by hotpotaaaaato, 864 days ago)
Keep her in preschool 5 days/week (only option)- she NEEDS it for kindergarten!
Take her out, you are home, and she doesn't want or need to go to school yet. She will be fine going straight to kindergarten
I would be torn just like you.
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Comments: 10

katiea (863.3 days ago)
when my son (2 at the time) went to daycare he absolutely loved it! anyway after a few months he started crying every night before the days he went and was really difficult to get to daycare. anyway this one morning i was dropping him off and i saw a worker grab a tiny little 2yo by the wrist and literally drag her across the room and fling her onto the floor all because a little boy wanted a toy she had and she wouldnt give it. i took him out of that centre then and there and filed an official complaint against the staff member and moved him to a different center. he was happy again. my point being, if she was previously happy and now isnt then i would def look into it.

tto (863.3 days ago)
I would not pull her out or you will go through this all over next year- only worse because she`ll learn if she cries enough she`ll get to stay home (which can`t happen in K). Check to see if she is getting along with all the kids and teachers- see if there is she`s getting picked on or in a class with an abrasive child. My nephew stopped wanting to go because a child there had behaviors so severe he just couldn`t emotionally deal with it.

lin (863.4 days ago)
I dont necessarily thing that something is wrong or that something happened to make her feel this way...some kids just don`t lik being away from their parents. If she went for awhile and did fine and suddenly started the behavior, then i would suspect something happened that bothered her. But if she has acted like this since day one, its more likely just seperation anxiety.

missbunny (863.5 days ago)
does she really need to go to preschool, or does she just need to pass the assessment for kindergarten? My daughter just had to pass the evaluation to kindergarten readiness, she didn`t HAVE to go to preschool at all. If she doesn`t like it, she knows her letters/meets the requirements...then pull her out. No point in making her miserable. I would try some other way of getting her socialised though. Most towns have an early childhood education centre where children can go and socialise with other children...

soon2be3 (863.5 days ago)
I agree with the ladies. Something more is going on at pre-school. I wouldn`t sweat taking her out though if that`s what you decide. Preschool is nice, but totally not necessary if you can work with your child at home. My kids won`t go to pre-school and my oldest who is in 2nd grade isn`t suffering at all. The other kids didn`t have an edge on her because they went. For the social interaction and classroom setting, we enrolled her in gymnastics, a day camp one week during the summer, and a soccer team.

carolinagirls (863.6 days ago)
I don`t think pulling her out will do anything but prolong the problem. If you pull her out now, next year she might have the same issues and then you won`t be able to do anything about it bc she`ll have to go to school. I don`t think she NEEDS pre-school for any other reason than the social experience to get her ready for kindergarten bc it sounds like she`s right on track but I would try to figure out why she doesn`t like school.

res (863.6 days ago)
I agree with the others. Before pulling her out I would try to find out why she feels that way.

dkucy (863.6 days ago)
I would try to find out why she is feeling that way. At 4 years she should be able to be away from you for a few hours a day, so maybe there is a reason she doesn`t like to go. Just pulling her out and doing it next year won`t necessarily fix the problem. Have you talked to her teacher? My mom used to run a daycare/preschool and lots of kids would scream and freak out when their parents dropped them off and then as soon as the parents left, the kids were fine. Is it possible that this is happening? Having her be able to learn socialization skills is important, and you don`t want to be going through this when she is in kindergarten and really needs to be there.

lin (863.6 days ago)
Can you stay with her for the day? Try to stay with her at preschool, and if it takes a week or a month try to slowly wean yourself out of the picture. I think its important that she go, not so much for the learning material just to prepare her for being away from you for kindergarten. You cant stay with her there. I would try really hard to get the problem fixed this year because next year wont be any different once she enters kindergarten. Good luck.

kimmarie (863.6 days ago)
I would be torn too but I would first find out the root of the problem ~ this may help you make your decision. Perhaps look into enrolling her in a different school. If you pull her out, she may do the same thing when she goes to kdg, then what, home school?



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