over-the-moon for BLUE x3 (838 days ago) i very much want 3 or 4 kids but ive already told myself that should something come up where i am putting myself at risk i wouldnt intentionally get pregnant again...mybe its b/c im a nurse and i see what `complications` can do i dont know....have you thought about adoption instead?
honghuzhenni (838.1 days ago) I like lin`s suggestion- what about adoption? You can even adopt from infancy. Maybe it`s not what you had in mind but maybe it`s something you should think about. My friend did this and said that she was surprised at how much she really felt like HER daughter, right from when they picked the birth mom. I admit, I think I might be really afraid of attaching well at first if I didn`t give birth to them, but from their experience it sounded nothing like that & I think I would consider it if I can`t have children again before we`re really done completing our family. Good luck whatever you decide. :)
amber luvs jim (838.2 days ago) My first thought was the same as Mumbos! Steel Magnolias is a great movie but so sad. I personally wouldn`t risk it. Could you have a surrogate carry for you?
lin (838.3 days ago) adopt! Lots of lovely children out there needing a great family!
EmmaReed84 (838.4 days ago) Thank you everyone for your comments. I get where you are all coming from. There are days when I look at my kids now and just feel soooo warm and think `this is what it is all about, the children I have now, not what might be` then others I just get eaten up sooo much inside. I think the being in limbo is killing me. I would sooner be told yes go ahead or absolutely no way get your tubes tied! I can`t make this decision it is to gut wrenching!
Peytonsmummy (838.4 days ago) I wouldn`t do it either, but its your choice at the end of the day. Whatever you choose it hope it goes well.
hayley-france (838.4 days ago) I think I`d go for it and just make sure you are monitored extra closely. x
excited.4.our.first (838.5 days ago) If you feel so strongly about having another child, then I would do it (literally lol). I am not a DR or anything, but I know that they are VERY advanced with medical help these days. Just look at the miracles they perform nowadays. Unless your DR says, no, you shouldnt go through another pregnancy, then I would do it. The fact that they said they will keep a closer eye on you probs just means, that you will have more tests done and that you will need to go for more appointments.
EmmaReed84 (838.5 days ago) Have 2 kids lol (wishful thinking) xx
EmmaReed84 (838.5 days ago) Ok so I have two beautiful boys already aged 5 and 2 whom I worship, they are totally amazing and make me smile everyday without fail (even when I don`t feel like smiling) Anyway I still have this immense desire to have another baby. I just cannot shift it. I have put it to the back of my head and tried to get on with things but I just can`t seem to do it. Yesterday I was almost in tears about it. The problem I have is not that DH does not want another one as he has even said it would be nice BUT I have Kidney problems and I have been advised that another pregnancy could put a massive strain on my kidneys which not managed correctly could result in eventual kidney failure. The docs have not said NO! They did say that IF I did have another baby the doctors would keep a very close eye on me. However one doctor said that I would be risking my life and another said they wouldn`t advise it but would not say no and another has not really had an opinion about it. If you were in my situation what would YOU do. I know people keep saying `You should be thankful you already havew 3 kids` and Yes I am but that does ease my desire to expand my family