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Other-poll poll Not a poll or pregnancy related:: Really really need to vent and get some advice please. My MIL who is also my childminder has physically attacked me today punching me int eh face and slamming my sons ankle in the door! more info inside
(Other poll by EmmaReed84, 743 days ago)


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Comments: 21

bundleofperez (741.1 days ago)
Hmmm.. I`m sorry maybe I`m just in a bad mood today but doesn`t it seem realllllly obvious what to do here? You need a poll to tell you this biotch is crazy? And not for nothing but I`m 100% sure this is not the 1st incident with this nut job. People don`t randomly act this way. This is your husbands mother after all. I think you and you husband obviously know she has behavioral issues and something like this was bound to happen. With that said, It`s not your fault but you obviously need to remove yourself as well as your kids from the situation and stay away. I mean c`mon punching you in the face? What should you do? Hmm...Dysfunction does not go away.

rubes (742.4 days ago)
i would go to the police and have her childminding licence revoked. photograph your brusies and your sons and write EXACTLY what happened while its still fresh. if she could flip out over that, imagine if a kid wrote on her wall??? you do not need to actually go to court, if you dont want, but threaten her, she neednt know its a bluff, and if she bluffs right back, you go ahead and get in touch with a solicitor.

lin (742.6 days ago)
forget her....tell her to go ahead and take you to court....you will return the favor and charge the bitch with assault against you and your child. I would also remove your family from her life altogether...she sounds like an awful person.

KRbabyx2 (742.7 days ago)
Wow, unbelievable! I would report her ASAP! Get everything on record of what happened. She does not need to be caring for any kids, u need to let police know in case she is acting this way towards the children when no one is around. Remember if u wait too long u can prove nothing. Good luck. NEVER TAKE KIDS BACK!!!

monstie (742.7 days ago)
Press charges against that crazy bitch.

over-the-moon for BLUE x3 (742.9 days ago)
also i 100% agree you should file a report with the police, doesnt mean you have to press charges (although i thinki would) but you need to have it documented what happened def take pictures and file a report since that is a legal way to prove it happened. Again im so sorry, how awful for you guys :(

over-the-moon for BLUE x3 (742.9 days ago)
OMG i am so soory that is aweful, but im so glad that DH is backing you!! I think id let the money go for today as she already has it, but i df wouldnt pay her for another 2 weeks. And if that is how she reacts to something i dont think she should be looking after anychildren. I knw she is your MIL but i wouldnt want my child there!! You deserve an apology but my guess is you wont get it

TishFerguson (743 days ago)
First things first...this is not about you anymore. This is about your children. From this point forward you need to think like a mother who protects her children. Therefore, MIL will not longer be seeing you or your children. Second, screw the rest of the family. It`s not like they don`t know this about the woman, they just need to feel like they are protecting thier family. I`m sure there are a lot of complications in this but is there any way to move closer to your family? Is there any way that someone from your family can come visit? At times like this it even helps to have that one person that is on your side by your side for a few days while you decide what is next. I sounds like you don`t live in the US so as far as the daycare or (childminding) goes, take a picture of any marks that she left on you or you son, don`t pay her, when they show up at your door, if they do, show them why you haven`t paid her. I would also contact the other children`s parents and let then know what happened and what you MIL allowed them to witness. If you are made to pay, then pay but by no means do you allow your children to see that woman again! EVIL! Protect your child and keep you emotions to only that. That is what will guide you in your decisions from this point forward! Good Luck!

newmamaof3 (743 days ago)
Call the police!!!! Personally I think you were WAY nicer than what I would have been. In the end I would`ve been the one in a police car and her in a body bag!!! How dare she hurt your child! And her grandchild at that. Obviously she has anger issues and I would NEVER allow my children in her care. Do what you have to do, but you would`ve seen me on the news!!!!!!!

Allynne7 (Jaime) (743 days ago)
Also, I agree with the women. You need that documented otherwise it becomes he said she said type of thing where no one but you guys know the truth so you really do need to file a police complaint at the very least.

Allynne7 (Jaime) (743 days ago)
Havent read all the comments yet but you do not have to give your MIL 2 weeks notice becaus she physically abused both you and your son. The contract is now void and null. She can scream all she wants but had she not been abusive she`d still be sitting so she`s the one who broke the contract, not you.

carolinababy1 (743 days ago)
Yeah I would call the police and press charges. Some people...I`m sorry, I`m just shaking my head. I probably would have beat her ass especially after slamming my child`s foot in the door but since that time has passed, let the police handle her. She can`t go around putting her hands on people without repurcussions.

Baby Bliss (743 days ago)
Call the police immediately. That is assault on you and child abuse on your children. If someone did that to me and my child I would not be so nice! You need to get her arrested and also mention to the police the abusive threats. This is not ok. This woman, MIL or not should not be watch any children. Dont think about it call! Get a restraining order too otherwise you might get hurt!

Avas*Momma*09 (743.1 days ago)
If you feel like you should call the police then do it. I don`t know if I would necessarily call them or not but I deff would not allow my children to go back there. I`m not judging anyone for calling the police I think I would just feel like it would be better handled without them. If the family continued to harrass me and/or come to my house then yes I would call then. I would probably just find another sitter for my kids and go on with my live....without them in it. JMO

Claire1987 (743.1 days ago)
Definitely call the police. That`s BS, I agree with blessed, good for you keeping calm, I would`ve hurt her so bad. She shouldn`t have any contact with you anymore what so ever.

holly28 (743.1 days ago)
If I were you I would call the police. Stay away from her and definitely don`t let her watch your kids again. If she is treating an adult this way how is she with your kids when you are not around to see?

spelfrey (743.1 days ago)
I agree with missbunny. I dont know what her problem is, but stay the hell away from her and dont leave your children over there. And tell DH`s family that if they have a problem, act like an adult and quit sending text messages and take it up with your DH, since he was there too. Dont put up with that crap.

gavinsmum (743.1 days ago)
yeah... call the police this should not happened period especially while the children are present as well as other who arent yours.

My5Babies:) (743.1 days ago)
I agree with missbunny..no matter the circumstances, if she punched you in the face, I would call the police. I also wouldn`t let her have any contact with my child!

missbunny (743.1 days ago)
I don`t need to hear anymore. Call the police, make a report, and don`t ever see her again PERIOD. In fact, a restraining order might even be a good idea. Sorry for your husband, but your safety and the safety of your child are far more important...

EmmaReed84 (743.1 days ago)
This may be a long one and the spelling is going to d#be awful because I am so mad and typing a million mph! From the start. I buy a pair of shoes from her catalogue, they arrive, I take them home and throw the packaging! MIL calls me today to ask if I have it still as she needs to send a dress away. I tell her it is in my bin, so she asks me to fish it out. I tell her i would rather not as it is in a bin of rubbish and dirty nappies. In the end I just do it (its not worth the hassell or so I thought) I was annoyed about doing it. (hide sight i know I should have said no) anyway DH is on the phone to his mum then jokes and say `next time you want something out our bin, you can come and get it yourself` she kicks off calling him a `f**king cheeky git` Phone call over dh and I continue to get ready for work and go to MIL to drop off kids. I had her the stupid bag and get no thank you whatsoever so tel her not to ask me to do that again. She flips her lid and starts shouting. I go to walk out and she calls me an `f**king cheeky bitch` so I go back, she then tells me how dare I talk to her like that. I then remind her that I ALWAYS bite my tongue and I could have got on the phone to her last night as youngest DS came home with dired poo on him because she had not changed him in ages and he was red raw! She then told me to `f**K off and ger out and take my kids she aint having them and continued to scream at me. She then grabbed my arms sreaming at me and then punched me twice in the face 9yes while she had my children there and OTHER childminding children aged 2) DH got in the way. DH and youngest DS walked out followed by me and eldest DS she shoved me out the door and slammed it shut on DS ankle, she then tried to do it again and again got his ankle. DS screeched and squealed! she managed to get the door closed and didnt care she hurt DS. I had already paid her for today so told her i want my money back, now she is telling me she wants 14 days notice to terminate the contract or she will take ME to court! I eam is this woman totally do lally, does she not realise I will tell the truth and she will lose her childminding registration, not to mention risk a prosecution for ABH on me AND DS! I am furious DH has supported me and backed. I live down in essex with all this family all my family live else where. Now his family have all ganged up on me sending me abusive messages, and threats to come here in `knock me out` It just all feels like this belongs on a school playground! Sorry for the long vent. I could go on but I wont!



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