debsandgrace (526 days ago) Each family is different as is each child sometimes it doesn`t matter that they are family that maybe the only tie they ever have. I am 2yrs older than my sister and we were so different and never really close, i haven`t spoken to her in 7 yrs =( My brothers are 5 and 6yrs younger and i am closer to them. I have always been close to my youngest brother my other brother and i only became close over the past 9yrs =) My sister doesn`t have very much to do with my brothers either! My first 2 have 5yrs between them and were so close when they were younger as they have reached their teens they have drifted away from each other and argue more tahn anything! They are now 20,DD and 15 DS. My 3 yr old DD is closer to her sister yet still gets on with her brother. As one of the other ladies said it`s more important that they get on as adults than as children!
tto (526.2 days ago) Also, my third oldest sister is less than 2 years older than me. She and I had a lot of competition as teen agers and young adults because of that. That was a bad situation. She learned to drive late so we learned at the same time- so we had competition over who got to practice more or who got a car first. We were one grade apart so in high school we had competition over GPA and grades. We tried to share friends and that didn`t work. Same thing with money, chores and jobs. I didn`t have those problems with my two older sisters because there was so much age difference we had two different worlds. I couldn`t compete with an 18 year old when I was 10.
tto (526.2 days ago) I`m mostly concerned that my sons are close when they are adults and then the age gap isn`t as important. I`m close to all of my sisters- from 2 to 8 years apart from me. My personal opinion is based more on the finances. I was the youngest of four- spread out over 8 years. My parents couldn`t afford braces, wisdom teeth, a car or college for me. So my children are 4 years apart so I can do all of those things- one at a time. Right now they are 7 and 3- they play together a lot but not when the 7 year old has friends over. I`d say they love and value each other but still have sibling issues. They also share a room and it hasn`t been a problem. I think they`d be lonely if they had their own room right now.
Lookalike (526.2 days ago) I think that age doesn`t really matter when it comes to bonding between/among siblings but when you are considering sharing rooms, sharing toys, sharing activities like t-ball and little league, martial arts and dance classes it works better when they are closer in age probably no more than three years, but no less than two since two kids in diapers is a lot to handle.
RobinG (526.3 days ago) Sadly age spread doesnt dictact closeness, I was VERY close to my sister 6 yrs older then I. My 16 yr old is VERY close to my 4 yr old, more so than my 11 yr old. I love a 2-3 yr difference but more is fine. I never wanted two in diapers so less then 2 yrs wasnt an option for me. Family time and creating memeories is what bonds a family, not age. ((hugs))