KR (358.2 days ago) I had two children close in age. Mine are 20 months apart, so for me personaly having them close together made it easier. The begining was hardest for me because my son was already in a sleep routine, in bed by 7pm and up at 6am. This made me one tired mother. I was single at the time when i gave birth to my second so i was up all night with a NB and up during the day with a toddler. Of course my toddler didnt nap when my NB did which meant no naps during the day for me. I say this because most moms are up at night while their hubbys sleep (bc hubby works the next day) and then the moms are on baby duty during the day too. So try to find people who can come help. Friends or family who can watch the kids for a couple hours. After the first few months everything became so much easier and life became one big routine again. Because mine are close in age, they do many things together now, complete stages together, etc. I love having two! Now.. its just like having one.
FarisMama (358.2 days ago) I was very worried about my 2 year old when I had my second (third counting stepdaughter). She did surprisingly well though! But I made sure to give her one on one time as much as I could, an hour a day at least if I could when the baby was napping, even if it was sleeping next to her on the couch as she watched a movie. It still gave her some close cuddle time. Also including her in baby things like helping with diapers (gathering the wipes, throwing it away, picking out clothes, etc. It helped her alot! My stepdaughter however had 2 babies born (one her mother`s child and then our second child) all born within 4 months of each other and she did not handle it well at all! She finally adjusted just a few months ago (my baby just turned 1!!!) but she was a very needy child to begin with and her mother has an odd way of parenting :/ so I figured that was the reason for her issues. It does get better and communicating with your child will be the best for them. I am now pregnant with our 4th and due in January (our youngest will be 19 months) and I am pretty worried because he is super needy but I know in time he too will adjust. Dont feel bad, siblings are a wonderful thing to have!!
angie2008 (358.2 days ago) It`s a hard transition for any kid having a new baby around especially for younger kids like your daughter`s age. She will adjust in time. Try your best to include her when you are caring for the new baby and try to spend some special time with just her- even if its reading a story while the baby naps. My daughter was 1.5 when i had my son and it took her about a month to get adjusted. It will be hard on you too because you still have to physically take care of your 4 yrar old. the first time around you just have to take care of you and baby. You will get used to it- take all the help you can get. things settle down after a few weeks. good luck and congrats!!
jamie86 (358.3 days ago) Yes the first couple of weeks are rough but it does get easier. I`m expecting my 3rd in October and I`m really nervous about my youngest right now as she is extremely jealous of any other kids at the moment. I know it will be ok after she gets used to the idea but it does take some time.
nikkipearl (358.3 days ago) The first couple weeks are the hardest, especially with your hormones running wild. It will get better and easier.
mzmommyche (358.3 days ago) Aww thanks! I am just hoping (knowing) it will get better.. Its just when! I really want to know how others acclimated because i keep crying alot and i was never an emotional person before... I just hope my 4yr old understands as my hubby says im just imagning it and everything is fine... I just feel so bad for him as he was my 1 and only and now he has to share mommy, all changed in 1 day...
2babiesforme (358.4 days ago) Im afraid of just this :( I have a 3 year old and Im due in October. I know he is going to be jealous of his new brother and it scares me to death. I cant even hold my dog right now without him getting jealous. Im sure its normal because they are used to being #1. I think all we can do is our best and our husbands need to step up to the plate and really focus on our 1st children while we become acclimated to our new ones. I will just confirm to my son that Mommy loves him very very much and that hasn`t changed. I will be keeping up with your post because I want to know what the seasoned Moms say also about this. Good luck and maybe in 20 weeks you can give me advice too - you will be a pro by then :)