lilyxox19 (350.1 days ago) $10,000 is a lot for wedding. You could go even cheaper than that really. You can get married through the court then have a reception at a nice restaurant (obviously the guest list would just consist of close family and friends). You could get married in a church and use their hall for the reception, and you could have family and friends help cook the food so you don`t have to pay for caterers. Or you could get married on the beach and same thing, either go to a restaurant for the reception or even have it in someone`s backyard. Its usually the reception that is the most expensive part about a wedding. Wedding dress can be super cheap (I got my dress at david`s bridal for $99). Invitations and wedding cake can be made at home. Flower arrangments can be made at home. And you could even have a friend do the wedding pictures.
tto (350.2 days ago) I`d want a commitment before taking on another child or a house. I mean a real law binding commitment that is proof to the world. I also agree with wonderwall- weddings are a bit of a waste. I`d want something simple and cheap in a church with a bit of cake and punch after.
lisseo (350.4 days ago) I agree with Ash.a. What do you want most? A house, a baby or a marraige? If you have a small wedding, you could get by on $10 000 for it by penny pinching and not inviting a lot of people. Eloping is only smart if you dont intend to have a bit of a party when you get back. My friend eloped, and ended up spending just as much as me as she still wanted to have a party for everyone. You also could plan to get pregnant a couple months before the wedding (providing things work out like you plan) that way, you wont be showing, and will still get that age gap. Or plan the wedding for in a years time after you get pregnant? It will be tough getting a dress but do able!! See, so many options haha!!
ash.a (350.6 days ago) It depends what your priorities are I guess. If family is first, have a baby. If the house or wedding is more important go with that. I would figure out what your vision for your life is, and then do everything you can to follow that direction!
lilyxox19 (350.7 days ago) I would get married since where you are living at right now isn`t too bad (nothing that you have experienced yet anyways). But try to really penny pinch on the wedding as much as possible so that you can swing buying house soon after. Having a nice home is really the ultimate goal. But I don`t see anything wrong taking a little bit of the money and having a small ceremony and having a nice, quiet reception at home with family.
excited.4.our.first (350.7 days ago) We moved into this house to safe some money for a deposit, so we can buy a house. However, just before we moved here, OH proposed! Now, once we have to pay the repaymens for a new house, we wont be able to afford to pay for a wedding. So going by logic getting married first makes more sence. But the house we live in now is not in an ideal location. Its further from OHs work and the area has got a bad reputation (although we havent seen or heard of any trouble in the 4 months we`ve been here). I dont want to be pregnant when I get married, but DD is 10 months and idealy Id like a 2 year age gap. The whole point of us moving here was so we can afford to buy a house! IDK what to do!!!