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rubes (337.5 days ago)
I would like 3. My daughter is 2.5 years, my son is 5 months. Me and my husband are in a real rough patch right now. Real sh!tty. Maybe I`ll have a 3rd by my husband or by someone else (another relationship, married or not), but deffo not for at least 4 or 5 years. My kids are exactly 23 months, 3 hours and 2 minutes apart. Almost exactly 2 years between them. It`s been the hardest thing I`ve ever had to do. I need them both in school before having a third. Lol.

Lou-Li-Ro (339.7 days ago)
Ok, sorry for butting my nose in! I can understand the financial concerns and the concerns of getting preg... mind you if you`re bfing your 3rd there could be the added boon of contraception while ebf! ;) To answer the original question, we have 3 already, b/g twins 4 years old, and a one-year-old boy. I would love another but no time soon I could not handle that haha! It`s a mad house as it is! I`d love another daughter so my daughter could have a sister, but as long as we get a healthy baba I don`t mind!

alivia.and.sophies.mommy (340 days ago)
My husband and I both would like 4! As long as God is willing we will! No sex preference either!

alivia.and.sophies.mommy (340 days ago)
My husband and I both would like 4! As long as God is willing we will! No sex preference either!

MichelleMc(pink!) (340.2 days ago)
In a perfect world, I`d love 3 or 4, or maybe more! However, it`s not a perfect world, and our daughter will be our only child. And that`s ok- we are extremely blessed and grateful to have her.

jamie86 (340.4 days ago)
I do appreciate your concern though.

jamie86 (340.4 days ago)
Lou- I`ve done a lot of research. I`d rather my husband get snipped but because it will be covered for me to have the tubal it will work out better for us. My husband doesn`t have insurance so we would have to pay for it out of pocket and that would have to wait until next year before we could pay for it. I don`t want to be put back on bc because I don`t like the way it makes me feel and we are done for sure after this one and don`t want any oops as this one was already one :)

Lou-Li-Ro (340.4 days ago)
Jamie86 it is NONE of my business of course! But I just thought I`d put this out there - would your husband not consider getting a vasectomy instead? It`s just that tubal ligation for a woman is a major thing, but a vasectomy for a man is usually actually very simple and rarely causes any problems/complications. It is recommended that couples get vasectomies over tube ligation as tube ligation can cause many problems for women -- What are the health risks of tubal ligation? `Depending on the sterilization technique used, between 800 and 2,000 women per 100,000 can expect a major complication at the time of operation,` according to the Alan Guttmacher Institute.5 Minilaparotomy patients may suffer from such complications as infection, injury to the bladder or bleeding from a major blood vessel, and burning of the bowel or other structures. There also can be anesthesia complications.6 Laparoscopy has serious complications such as perforation of the bowel leading to massive infection of the abdominal cavity, complications from anesthesia, improper clearance of the windpipe during the operation, even pulmonary embolism.7 Dr. H.P. Dunn noted, `Every operation carries the risk of hemorrhage or infection... Some patients have died from cardiac failure during the inflation procedure. Others have suffered wounds of the bowel, bladder, and large blood vessels. Even intraperitoneal explosions have occurred.` 8 What are the long-term health risks? (in brief) severe mentral cramps heavy menstrual bleeding longer periods pain with intercourse uterine bleeding pelvic pain or pressure cervical erosion ovarian tumors increased risk of cervical cancer Studies and more information. Apart from these immediate complications of surgery post-tubal problems are so frequent they are now called `post tubal ligation syndrome.` A review of the literature on post-tubal ligation problems by Drs. Joel Hargrove and Guy Abraham revealed an incidence of long-term complications in as many as 22 to 37% of sterilized women.9 Dr. Vicki Hufnagel, a surgeon who specializes in restoring women’s reproductive organs, has written `Many post-tubal patients who come to my office seeking relief complain bitterly if more severe cramps, heavier. longer periods, dysfunctional uterine bleeding, pain with intercourse, and pelvic pain or pressure.`10 A study in Britain followed 374 post-tubal patients and found that 43% had subsequent gynecological treatment for such conditions as heavy menstrual bleeding, menstrual disturbances requiring hormonal treatments, cervical erosion, ovarian tumors, and recanalization of the fallopian tubes requiring a second operation.11 Another British study of tubal ligation found a 40% increase in menstrual blood loss; 26% of the group experienced increased menstrual pain. Women who had used the Pill before their tubal ligation reported more of these complains than other patients.12 A study by James G. Tappan found a 40.7% incidence of menorrhagia and suggested that cystic degeneration of the ovary may result from interruption of blood flow from the uterine artery.13 A longitudinal study of over 8,000 women five years after their tubal ligations found 49% of them suffered heavy periods and 35% reported an increase of severe menstrual cramping.14 The risk of cervical cancer among a study of 489 post-tubal women was 3.5 times the normal rate.15 As mentioned previously, many couples attempt to have sterilization reversed, though fewer than half of reversals are functionally successful.16 Women who do achieve pregnancy after the reversal of tubal ligation face anywhere from a 4% to 64% increased risk of tubal pregnancy, a life-threatening and psychologically wrenching experience. The rate of risk depended on the procedure used.17 -------- sorry, again I know this is none of my business, and sorry for hijacking this thread, but I just am always concerned when I read of women planning to get their tubes tied when if you do a little research and reading you`ll find vasectomies are far less likely to carry any risks of complication or lasting side-effects!!! Sorry I will stop copying and pasting stuff now! but can I just recommend to do more reading before you decide?...

SarahLJ - TTC2 (340.8 days ago)
I`d love four but as its taking me years to conceive each time I`m running out of time. I have one boy which was always my dream for my first child and I`d love to have three more, hopefully with at least one girl if I can but I`d be pleased with all boys too. Like I said its taking me years to conceive and still trying as I will be 30 this year my body clock is starting to tick louder.

a.Love::k.alexander (340.8 days ago)
Honestly at this point I don`t even know. All I know is I don`t want any more anytime soon my son is driving me crazy right now. lol. Maybe 1 more in 10 years =)

Jamie86 (341 days ago)
I always wanted 4 and my husband only wanted 2. We are expecting our 3rd which was a complete surprise. This will be our last though as I will be having my tubes tied after this one is born.

*Summer Babies* (341 days ago)
I have two and I love it!! I always wanted 4. DH is happy with 2 and I am for the time being as well, maybe in the future we will have 2 more since we are so young. :)

KR (341 days ago)
My dream was for 2. A boy first, a girl second. I got it and they are 2 years apart which made the situation even more ideal. BUT my husband and i are no longer together, which means my dream will change. Their will most likely be a 3rd child in my future after I get remarried. But the good thing is my children will be older. =) I dont think i would have more than 3 though. And wouldnt be holding my breath for a girl or a boy since i already have one of each.



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