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Waiting for Roland`s poll Show results | Hide results


Other-poll poll Is it better for a child to be over protected and miss out or to experience typical childhood experiences at a greater risk than we had?
(Other poll by Waiting for Roland, 345 days ago)
over protected but safe is best
well rounded with exposure to risks is best


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Comments: 7

tto (343.6 days ago)
I think it depends on each situation and the risk. But I won`t let them do things that endanger their lives. I let my kids climb trees because I can live with a broken bone. My son had a dirt bike and we did everything to make sure it was as safe as it could be- to control the worst that could happen. It had training wheels and made to go slow, and he had on protective gear. There was still a risk but not his life. I don`t let them ride without the proper carseat or booster or sit in the front seat. If it is an emotional risk, it depends on if he is ready for it and if it will help him grow. So I don`t think it`s a black and white thing.

Waiting for Roland (344.4 days ago)
I realky lovec sleepovers and playing at kids` houses. I really want to let her do those things but I get too paranoid.

Waiting for Roland (344.4 days ago)
She is four and a half....not old enough yet but I keep reading things like that ( and then yesterday this lady was telling me about how she as raped as a child on a car ride home from her friend`s dad after CHURCH of all places!) and I keep getting freaked out and I don`t know if I will be sane enough to let her go to sleepovers. She wants to go to the neighbor`s house a lot and I make them play at my house because I am pretty sure the dad is a bad person. His wife always asks me if tbeir fight disturbed us or if we ever see him deflate her tires it just means he`s mad and wants to keep her home...and they seemed like really normal, nice people from the outside. I stayed a lot at one of my friend`s houses a lot as a child and later as a teen she pressed charges on her dad because he had been molesting her and her sisters their whole childhoods....and he seemed like such.a nice dad! It drives me batty. I really do think most people are good people, it`s just that the bad people play good and get away with it so easy it seems. Hopefully it`s just crazy pregnancy thoughts.....

lisseo (344.4 days ago)
Bca, I think sleepovers is a bit different... How old is she? How well do you know the parents? My son`s only 10 months and I can`t even fathom letting him sleep at his grandparents. Its normal to be worried about those things when they`re this young. I thought you meant going to a park with friends or something.

Waiting for Roland (344.4 days ago)
Well, I actually was thinking of stuff like letting her go to a sleepover and the nice seeming parents are not good people at all ( we recently had a child porn case here where the girls were little kids just there to spend the night with the daughter and they were well regarded people) , or they let her play outside without watching or letting her walk home from school and she gets abducted and killed...you know, the big things. The arms getting broken, etc is just ` normal` stuff. I mean, you still get your baby back afer those things happen. I worry about how psycho people seem to be getting and how it just takes one second....one instance of misplaced trust abd your baby is gone forever.

Jamie86 (344.5 days ago)
As much as I want to keep my kids close and make sure they don`t get hurt I try to let them have fun and do fun stuff, even if I`m terrified they will get hurt. I love taking them to the park and what not but the whole time I am a nervous wreck lol.

Waiting for Roland (344.5 days ago)
This is something I debate with myself all the time! I still don`t know!



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