The things no one tells you no.18:
Missing the movement


Mumofsix` featured blog about things no one tells you.

`I thought I would, every now and then,
add a little bit of info that
took me by surprise with my first baby.`

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After the birth of my first baby I was on cloud nine. Even though she was quite settled and sleeping, I just couldn't sleep. I just kept gazing at her. I was in awe of the fact that she had come from within me and that she was so perfect. She looked so different than the picture I had of her in my mind and it was mind blowing that she was actually here.

It was a strange feeling though because although I was totally in love with her, I was also missing the movement in my belly. It felt quite lonely not feeling the wiggles and kicks and I longed to feel them again. I felt like the baby I could see was not the baby that had been wriggling inside me. It's not that I did not bond with her, I sure did, but I missed my internal companion.

I have not felt this as much after the birth of my other children as I was prepared for it.

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9 Comments on Missing the movement


carriebaby888 - Tuesday, 18 Aug
I don't even have my baby yet but I totally can understand this! I love every movement! It's the ONLY part of pregnancy I like.....everything is so horrible all the time with the sickness and heartburn and getting fat and stretchmarks and being crabby and emotional...then I feel a little kick and it makes me smile no matter how horrible I feel......it's going to be different. It's like my little sister!!!...she is 15 now and I love her SO SO SO SO SO much...but I miss the LITTLE sister...I miss when she was 3 and 4 and 5 and I will never see that little girl again...and when I tell her she's like, "i'm right here" lol..but she just doesn't get it. I don't love HER any less...just miss the little tot her! hehe

*AMANDA* - Monday, 11 May
aww i felt this way too after my daughter. i still miss that feeling, its such an intiamte feeling that is between only you and your baby. i occasionally get those "phantom kicks" i even googled them and it says that its your suc-conscience remembering something from before... so i just sit around and wait for my "phantom kicks" lol

goddess27 - Thursday, 7 May
I felt the same way with all my kids and really starting to get sad about having my son. idk maybe I'm selfish but when they are inside I feel this strong bond that I only ha e with this child and we have this unspoken language that only the two of us understand and once I have them I had to share them with the world!

aspiring - Saturday, 31 Jan
I can't see myself missing it. I only like feeling movement to know he's ok but overall I really don't like feeling him move.

krystasappleseed - Monday, 26 Jan
I totally agree. before i had my daughter i heard this and thought people were silly and how could you miss your baby when they are right there. but after i had her i did. i missed her and the little kicks. even though i would look at her and love her so much that i would cry. i still do miss the kicks and pushes and cant belive she is here. im excited to someday soon have another. i love being pregnant.

MillysMum - Tuesday, 23 Sep
Wow yes i agree! Some one told me this would happen but i thought nahhhh ill have my baby ive been waiting for right next to me to cuddle and play with. But it was true.. i still miss the kicks and movement. When i see pregnant women now its like awwwwww ... so beautiful. but at the same time i dont wish it upon myself just yet! I still remember the pain of those contractions and giving birth like it was yesturday!

cosita - Friday, 5 Sep
I miss being preggo 100%. I was on bedrest for 3 months and it was a very lonely time for me. It was just me and my baby. I love him so much. It's unbelievable when I think at how miraculous pregnancy and childbirth can be. I loved having my baby all to myself and feeling his every movement. Absolutely beautiful.

reneaj - Tuesday, 2 Sep
ABOUT A MONTH AFTER HAVING MY DAUGHTER I REMEMBER SITTING IN THE TUB AND STARING DOWN AT MY BELLY AND I JUST STARTED TO CRY. I FELT SO LONELY.

amiemae23 - Tuesday, 5 Aug
I feel almost ashamed but my little one is 6 months now and I still miss it almost everyday..I miss being pregnant all together.