The things no one tells you no.31:
Never claim to be an expert
Mumofsix` featured blog about things no one tells you.
`I thought I would, every now and then,
add a little bit of info that
took me by surprise with my first baby.`
My mood while writing this blog: Ok
This may seem like a funny topic but believe me, there are so many people out there that believe they have all the knowledge there is to know about birth, babies and parenting. Don't get me wrong, there are certainly things that we can advise people on but the way it is done is so important.
After 5 kids and being pregnant with no6, I do not claim to have all the answers about children and pregnancy. I do however have experience that I can draw on that has worked for me and I am happy to pass this onto anyone who asks or is interested. I have never had a C-section so am far from being able to give advice on this.
Just remember that after being pregnant or having a baby does not make you a sudden expert in all areas of child raising. Here is an example that happened to me and came back to bite me in the bum. My first born daughter started to get teeth at the usual sort of age, no crying and being unsettled, she just one day had a tooth and then another and another. The conclusion I drew from this was that other mothers were blaming bad sleeping habits, crying etc on teething when really it was probably more of a parenting issue. I never said this to anyone but my husband but I did think that I had made an accurate assumption. No2 baby then came on the scene and boy did I learn a lesson. She began teething late, at almost 1 year of age and she was miserable, drooling, crying, waking at night. You name it, she did it. I had to take my assumptions, screw them up and realise that having one experience with one baby did not make me a teething expert.
Every child is different and although there are definite skills and tips we can learn on the way we are always learning. Remain teachable and listen to others, never judge or give advice unless asked or given permission. There is nothing worse than a know it all mother. Share what has helped you and what you have learned but do it tactfully. Mother hood can be a very sensitive issue for some.
2 Comments on Never claim to be an expert
-newnaam - Wednesday, 9 Jul I just started reading your posts and have to say that I really enjoy them! I am going to be a first time mom and this information is stuff that I really need to know!
brandi j. - Monday, 7 Jul LOL...How absolutely true! :o)