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Added: 110 days ago.
Added by: mcrlover
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I`m 18 & 35 weeks along. My fiance just now told me he thinks we are way to young. Does anyone think 18 & 20 is way to young?

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mommy-of-3 - 101 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was 19 but I was also mature, working full time, etc. I think it depends on the person and how responsible they are. If you feel you are ready and are aware of the responsibility then I don't think you're too young. I would tell your fiance that it's a little to late to start saying things like that now, is he doubting his ability to be a good dad?

slnkl - 102 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i think as long as you're not 16 or younger, you're fine. back in the day, my mom started giving birth at the age of 12 or 13.

slnkl - 102 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i think as long as you're not 16 or younger, you're fine. back in the day, my mom started giving birth at the age of 12 or 13.

Baby3OnWay - 102 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I don't think its too young. My fiance was 18 when i got pregnant but 19 when the child was born... i was 21. then he was 21 when my second was born and I was 23 and now just 5 months later I sit at 16+ weeks and we are having our third. I will be 24 and he will only be 22.. tell him that and maybe he will feel alittle better!! congrats to you. age is just a number, and as long as you feel ready you are going to do fine. things change when the little one gets here! good luck, take care!

Jay-dee - 102 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am 20 now and will soon be 21 and I think its a huge responcibility for any age. My baby is 9 weeks old. Babies are alot of work that i surely didnt realise when I was preggo. When you are 18 & 20... being tied down isnt the greatest. HOWEVER babies are a great gift which should be cherished. Good luck. Have fun

lulizzle - 102 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) It depends. I know some 18 year old that act 30 and some that act 16. If you both are responsible, have good jobs, and are good hearted peeople, you will be just fine!

mattie4 - 104 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) it depends on the person, there are many 18-20 year olds that are more capable of being a parent then some that are older, it really depends on the situation and the individual. I know someone that is in her thirties and well i would never pick her for mother of the year award. I know some that are under 18 and are awesome parents. Good luck and congrats...it sounds like the daddy is just getting a little freaked out...that happens at any age :).

Carmione - 104 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was 21 with my first and everyone said I was too young. Parts of me think that yes, given what I know now because I'm older I more than likely would have chosen differently if traveling back in time. The fact of the matter is that the baby is on the way, and all babies are blessings. I wouldn't worry about your age, God wouldn't have opened up your womb to recieve this baby if it weren't meant to be. Take delight in knowing it's never anyone else's place to tell you that you're too young for something unless they are prepared to hear that they are TOO OLD to do something :)Take care of you and that bundle!

LMO - 104 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) personally i dont think that it is too young i had my daughter when i was 17. it all depends on how mature you are and can you handle the responsibility

MelissaJoanne - 105 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You are young, but I think that ages 18 + 20 are old enough to be responsible. You are both legally adults, able to work and provide and be emotionally mature. I wouldn't recommend that anyone actively try to get pregnant in their teens, or before they are stably married, but you will make it work. I think that new fathers of any age will panic at some point in the pregnancy!

hhall - 105 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Woah. I was married at 17, baby at 18, another at 19. My then husband was only 2 years older than I. Kids do it much younger than that! Besides, "you're as old as you feel" works both ways!

tamaraleigh - 105 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If you feel like you are capable of taking care of a child then you aren't too young.

ttasha - 105 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) No i dont im 19 and i agve birth 2 months ago and my partner is the same age as lon as you can lok after yourself and the baby theres nothing to worry about oh yea as long as you ahvce support from friends and family thats good too

sgtswifey21 - 107 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was 18 when we got married, and 20 when I had my first son, I think at 18-25 is the perfect age cause you can "grow up" with your children. You have more energy and your body bounces back to better shape more quickly. I am now 22 and having me second one, yeah I missed going to all night parties and stuff like that, but my family is my life and I think I had my son at the perfect time. Your fiance will love the baby and as someone said before, forget he ever said a thing about it. Good Luck!

agrodebush - 107 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I turned 20 1 month after having my 1st child. It just depends on what's going on if the father of the child is there (mine wasn't) your family etc..

christen - 107 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I WAS 17 WHEN I GOT PREGNANT AND 18 WHEN I HAD MY DAUGHTER....NOW I WISH I WOULD HAVE WAITED UNTIL I WAS THROUGH COLLEGE AND READY...SO YES I THINK 18 IS TOO YOUNG I WOULD HAVE WAITED TIL I WAS AT LEAST 22

Cindie - 108 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Guess what. I got married 2mo before my 19th bday. We've been together over 5 yrs and married 2 1/2. It's been hard,and we have both had to grow up. but we're now preggo (happy surpise) w/baby number 1. hubby was scared at first but he's very happy now.

ams8663 - 108 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I'm 20 and am pregnant with our 2nd child. With our first I was 17. It's understandable that your boyfriend would say that, he is just nervous but when he has that beautiful baby in his arms...he won't even believe he said that...Young people can be great parents, sometimes even better than older people. Don't stress out, you will make it!

captshelley - 108 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) It's alittle late for him to say that. My 26 year old DH told me I got myself pregnant at about my 35th week of pregnancy. Men are stupid. It won't be the last stupid thing he says. Also, I'm 29 with my first baby and I still think I'm not done growing up. Every age is too young.

kids0624 - 108 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Nope. I think 18 is a great age, actually! It's at 14-15 that I would be worried.

madisons-mom - 108 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) It doesn't matter now does it, he needs to start thinking of things that will make you guys move forward, tell him those thoughts wont get you anywhere and to start thinking positive for the future, of how you two can work TOGETHER.....I was 20 when i got prego for the first time and my husband (we weren't married at the time) was 28...we hadn't even been together a year, it was scary but we chose to look forward and be happy, of course we were scared but you have to decide together toleave the negative behind and be supportive of eachother and understanding....

julie80 - 108 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i think your fiance is just a little nervous about being a dad. i was 17 when i had my first child and the father was 20, so no i dont think 18 & 20 is to young. and even tho you are the one going thru the labor and the true hard part just try to be understanding with your fiance. once the baby is born he will be just fine. Good luck to both of you

mommagin - 108 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) HEY THERE...YOUR MAN IS JUST FREAKIN OUT...DON'T WORRY...I WAS 18 WHEN I HAD MY DAUGHTER AND MY MAN TOO WAS AAAHHH!! BUT WE ARE HAPPILY MARRIED NOW AND EXPECTIN #3!! IT DOESN'T MATTER THE AGE, JUST HOW YOU TAKE CARE OF YOUR LIL ONE...WITH ALL YOU HAVE...GOOD LUCK!

becki20 - 108 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) no i dont im 20 and 12 weeks pregnant i had to make a decicion at the start of my pregnancy. i made up my mind 2 keep the baby n me and the babys dad r still 2getha. u will be fine, all you have 2 do is put your baby first. its a little 2 late for him 2 change his mind now, maybe is just scared of the fact that the baby will be here in a few weeks, tell him to grow up and take care of his responsibilties it takes 2 2 make a baby it wasnt just you. u will do fine on your own, plenty of other people have been through the same as you. YOU WILL BE OK IN THE END. these things always work themselves out you will make the right decision in the end that is the best for you and your baby. good luck 2 u both

captlinda - 108 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Well did you tell him it's a little to late to think that now??

Laura Ward - 109 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) Age is simply a number. You and him will be the deciding factors on how good of parents you will be. By 18 and 20, you know right from wrong and should have a good understanding of how life works. As a parent, it is your job to teach that to your child. The best thing you can do for child is to provide them love, security and guidance. Not all days are easy and fun, but the bad days are just as important. However, it is also your job as a parent to provide for your child. As long as you are capable of providing food, shelter, clothing and other needs,(in addiiton to the love, security and guidance they require) you will be fine.

shai-zoe - 109 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) this is such a taboo among some people i was 15 when i had my son who is now 9 and well im 25yrs old and im pregnant aGAIN and u know what im very happy and proud of myself to have had my son even with all the neative reactions and bad looks from people i didnt even know .my husband which is the father of my son we are still together and married and hes the father of this baby im expectin so u kno what honestly i always thought of it this way...if i was having sex at that age i should know better to know what could happen..and it was get pregnant...so live your life enjoy your child and be happy becuase nobody lives your life but u....

Laurra83 - 109 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i don't think it's too young... my mom had her first kid at 16 and she was a wonderful single mother to all of us. it's up to you if you are going to be good parents or not! your fience may just be having some jitters... he knows it's getting close and it's all becoming real to him and he's nervous.... it's time to grow up and put the parties aside and time to take care of responcibilities... he's probably just nervous and isn't sure if he's ready.. but i can almost assure you that once that little one is there he will change his mind... good luck!

mommauv4 - 109 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) At this point I don't think it matters. You are going to be parents! What kind of parents you are is totally up to you. Too young is just someone elses value judgement anyways and really has no basis in reality. Take care and remember you have the power to be a great Mom young or not!

caitie - 109 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) i think it all just depends on whether you are ready or not maturity wise.

laceyj - 109 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hiya im 18 and 31 wks my daughters bioligal father is 29 and said he was to young n left me,iv since meet a lovely man ho wants to bring my little girl up as his own,if u feel ready then u r xxx

prittigrl01 - 109 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I read your question. no, I do not think that 18 is too young to have a child. Your an adult and since your 35 weeks along I'm sure you are more than ready to start being a mom to your little one! I am a firm believer that God does not put anything on us more than we can bare. I believe that every baby is a blessing and things happen for a reason. God knew that you needed your little one. I hope this helps. Ps- you'll be fine we have it instiled in us to be good mothers that's what we were made for!

deborah86 - 109 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was almost 19 when I had my first son, David. I was raped and that is how I got pregnant. I kept him and was a single mom for 2 1/2 yrs. before I met my husband. I know you can do it. It isn't always easy but it is well worth it. Besides you've made it this far you can make it work.Congrats to you both!

OurBabyBean0508 - 109 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I had my first at 21, and his father was 25. Being a young mother forced me to grow up very quickly and of course that changed me. My son's father (even at 25) never felt ready and had a very hard time accepting parenthood and all the responsibilities that go along with it. Over the next couple of years this caused many many arguments and frustrations between us, and in the end he was simply never able to adjust and become an adequate parent. I filed for divorce when I was 25 and at the age of 26 I filed an investigation with child protective services fearing neglect during his visitations with our son. Turns out I was right and now his visitation rights have been taken from him and he has not seen or spoken to his child in over a year. Some people will just never be able to accept the responsibility of parenthood and come to terms with the fact that their freedom is a thing of the past. I would suggest you talk with him, even start going to couples counseling together. He needs to work through these fears before the baby comes and he starts to feel trapped. Make sure he knows that his feelings and fears are of great importance to you and you'll do whatever you can to help him cope and learn to accept this life change that is on the horizon. Good luck babe I hope everything works out for you.

expectingnumb3 - 109 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was 20 when I had my first one but we did not get married for almost 5 years later after we had our 2nd. Today we have been together for 11 years and married for6! I think it all depends on the level of maturity of each individual person. My mom had me when she was 16/alost 17. She has no regrets and of course I was not planned. Her and my father only made it about 9 years before they got a divorce. If you are in a place in your life where you think you can handle it and know you want to be with your so for a lifetime then maybe yes. It helps to have support of others around you too! You are young enough to continue your education college, etc. after the baby is born.

sassybuttaphly - 109 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) No,I'm 20 and my bf is 18. But right now hes being an asshole. The ages 18 & 20 is not that young plus you are consider an adult at this age.

retta ann - 109 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I myself am a teenage mother. I'm only 17 and I am 14 weeks along. My boyfriend is 18 and i will be 18 two weeks after my child is born. From my stand point you're not too young at all. I know two girls who just turned 17 and already had their second babies last month. Some people might think they are too young because they are scared or just that they don't have the money to support themselves plus a baby. so hang in there and I hope all goes well.

mumofsoontobe5 - 110 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) No way! I had my first child 2 months after I turned 18, my second. 3 months after my 21st, my third when I was 23. Am now 27 and preggers with twins. I believe "young" mums have more patience. Best of luck with your pregnancy. :)

michaels mommie - 110 days ago Rating: 3 (2 votes) no!!

Andree-Anne - 110 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) its true its young but not way to young...hehe im 21 and i have birth to my first child at 20..and now soon (55 days ill give birth to my second) so well its all depend what kind of adult you are! but there is no rules really set what is too young or not..if you think youll be a good mother then you are not too young! ^-^