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NEED SOME CALMING TECHNIQUES
Added: 84 days ago.
Added by: my-lil-miracle
Section: Birth.
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I worry about my patience level when my baby is born... Is there any techniques that you ladies have that u use when ur little kids are getting on ur nerves??? I know counting to ten and taking deep breaths and things, but is there anything else?? thanks guys...

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selenia - 79 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) my sons doctor said to swaddle him and put him down in his crib or bassinet and go in another room to take a breather that 10 min of him crying wont hurt anyone

mommauv4 - 82 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think this is a pretty normal question to ask yourself sort of goes hand in hand with will I be a good Mom. I think one of the most important ways to keep your temper in check is to recognize the signs that you are loosing it. -try -putting the baby in a safe place and taking a short breather. -phone someone you can vent too -make sure you get a bit of me time -join mom's groups so that you don't let yourself get isolated. - go to coffee with mom's with babies so you can talk and vent. Belive me this helps!

mzmommy2b - 82 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) You should not be worrying about this now. If it is really bothering you, speak with your doctor. This could be a sign of post partum depression in early stages. They give surveys on it after you deliver (at most hospitals) and it questions how you felt/thought just weeks before delivery. Calming techniques however if you wind up needing them... here are a few for you and baby/child: 1. Reduce nagging. Eliminate lecturing, threatening, and warnings as much as possible - preferably eliminate them completely. 2. Provide your child with a great deal of time-in. Time-in is brief, nonverbal, physical contact. This is not meant to be a reward. Rather, it is meant to let your child know nonverbally that you love him. Whether your child is 3 months, 3 years, or 13 years old, you are encouraged to repeatedly touch them for 2 to 3 seconds while they are behaving in any way that is acceptable to you. Parents can nonverbally let their child know that he is loved when the child is playing a game, watching T.V., coloring, building with blocks, or just looking out the window. Time-in is touching, not talking. Talking to children when they are doing something often disrupts them enough that they never complete the task. Try to identify situations where your child has a history of bugging you. For example, if your child often bothers you when you are on the phone, train yourself to give her a lot of brief, nonverbal physical contact while you are on the telephone but before she starts bothering you. 3. State three words in a nonemotional tone of voice. When your child interrupts, say "Interrupting, calm down" or when he is whining say, "Whining, calm down." If you have been providing your child with a lot of brief, nonverbal physical contact when he is not bothering you, then, when he does interrupt you, all you say is "Interrupting, calm down." It is extremely important that you ignore your child until he is quiet or has regained his composure. During these calming-down periods, you should refrain from all warnings, naggings, and reminders of what he did or did not do. Basically, you should strive to completely ignore your child until he has calmed himself down. 4. Ignore your child during the calm-down period. Do not make eye contact with your child. For a calm-down period to end your child must calm down or gain control of himself for 2 to 3 seconds. Your child can call you a name or have a tantrum on the floor, but until he calms down, he does not exist. At first this will not be easy for you to do. Think of the situation like a broken vending machine. When a vending machine does not work properly, many people's first reaction is to push, hit, or kick the machine. As you know, the machine does not respond. It ignores you. Soon, you walk away. Eventually, your child will give up and calm down, too. Contrast this example with slot machines. Slot machines may go periods without paying off, but then unexpectedly pay off. For this reason, people will stand for hours putting money into a slot machine because they are occasionally rewarded for their efforts. If you sometimes give your child attention when he is whining or throwing a tantrum, he will keep doing it every time for that occasional payoff of attention. You are encouraged to be a vending machine to your child when he is trying to calm down. Stop paying attention to undesired behavior. Allow your child the opportunity to calm himself down without your assistance. 5. Let your child see you when you are ignoring him. While you are ignoring, your child needs to: * See you. * See you not upset or frustrated. * See what he is missing. You can start doing an activity that he might enjoy such as playing with his favorite toy or increasing time-in with a sibling. One mother perfected this one day when she slowly nibbled at the last piece of cheese until her son calmed down. After he calmed down, she shared the rest of the cheese. Remember, you are giving him the opportunity to learn self-control, a skill he will use throughout his life. 6. Start time-in again. After your child gains control of himself or calms himself down, wait 2 to 3 seconds, then resume time-in. Do not remind him or discuss with him the reason for the calm-down period. 7. Keep working at it. Even if it takes your child a month or two to learn how to calm himself down, having this skill can help to make your household a much more pleasant place to live.

christen - 83 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) try swaddling your baby tightly it makes them feel like they are back in the womb....and calms them down 9 out of 10 times

kater - 83 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) it is better for the mothers anxiety levels AND baby's, if the mother puts the baby in the crib and shuts the door for a few minuets if the baby is crying and crying for a reason the mother cant work out. that way the baby is safe, and the mum gets a (small) break which is a good time to take a few deep breaths, and re-group. deep breathing techniques can work really well, and calming exercise like yoga can be helpful too. if you have someone close to you you can go to for support, use them!! there is a saying that it takes a village to raise a child, and i really think this has merit!

mattie4 - 84 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) well know when to put your baby down and walk away (of course if the baby is in a safe secure spot) it is ok for them to cry for a min while you get your needed moment. Newborns are overwhelming, even for the more seasoned moms. I would make sure that i always got some time during the day for myself (usually a nice bath) when dad came home. No one was allowed to interrupt unless it was a life or death situation. Also if you can get out and find a mommy group, that really really helps, just having an empathetic ear is nice. also find a really great babysitter so that you can get out on your own every now and then.

gr8scottswife - 84 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) Are you doing calming techniques now? Hynobirthing is a thing you should check out. Just search for calming techniques on the web. You should find something.

wildberry - 84 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) i put on music that i like have mommy time one a week it's hard to do i know it could be something as small as taking a nice bath just remember to take care of your self to it will help you to be a calm relaxed mom

kelsul - 84 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) 1st put the baby down and walk away for a minute or two. then try again. if you have help around, pass that baby off and take a break. you are important too, the more relaxed you are, the more relaxed that baby will be. i would hold my daughter when she was cryng like mad and count outloud.....for some reason it always calmed her down. i would also go through the list of family memebers and tell her about them while she was screaming and she would stop too. you will be amazed what you will do just to calm yourself and your baby down :)

LMO - 84 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) i would put my daughter in her swing or i would take her for a ride in the car and that would calm her down

Laura Ward - 84 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) When my babies were little and the crying became unbearable, I would lay them down in their swing or bed and leave the room. SOmetimes, I would go outside and sit on the porch to get some fresh air. Usually, the crying would stop and I felt better about the entire situation. As long as your baby's needs are met and they are in a safe place, there is nothing wrong with leaving them by themself for a little while. It is actually good for them to learn how to be alone a little while. If you need to, call a friend or ask someone to come over and help out during the really hard times. Good luck and just remember there has never been a mother that has not felt the same way at some point or another, so dont feel bad about it!

michaela - 84 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) My daughter had bad colic and reflux so sometimes i would have hours of crying, ifound that sometimes i just had to out her in her cot, closethe door and go into the gardn to clear my head, also my parents were great, they would take her for a few hours to give me a break.

kayleighrobo - 84 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) i had very bad depression with my second and i had no patcience so i would take a couple minutes in the back garden then go back in just making sure he was safe in his cot if he had been fed windid etc but i am also a smoker so i would have a cig come back in and be fine when you've had your baby you'll be suprised how much patcience you've got for her/him coz there so cute you just wont have much patcience for anyone else lol x

Baby3OnWay - 84 days ago Rating: 4 (1 votes) I'm a smoker... BOOOOOO to me I know. BUT when my babies cry and I just can't take it I put them in their cribs, go outside for a breather, and then a smoke, and then another breather and go inside. Or I open a nice book go to another room, or floor, and read a few pages. Then I go back in and try to calm them all over again. I also gave my babies soothers, which they got rid of by 6months on their own, and if they didn't take their soother I found that dipping it in gripe water and sticking it their mouth calmed them completely!

slnkl - 84 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) you know once you see your little one's face, it might change the way you think! i was worried about the very same thing too! now that she's here, i try to forget all that other stuff! i see her face and just the way she cries or smile makes me want to love her even more! good luck to you!

mommy-of-3 - 84 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) When my oldest was an infant he had bad colic, no matter what I tried or did he would just scream bloody murder something horrible. It does take a toll on you especially when you add the lack of sleep factor. I would try to feed him and try to calm him and when I just couldn't deal with it anymore I put him safely in his crib, closed the door and walked away for a while. Sometimes you just have to do that to maintain your sanity, that or if you're lucky enough to have a relative close by see if they will watch the baby even an hour does wonders.

brandi j. - 84 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) If it gets too bad, put the baby in a safe spot, best place being his/her baby bed on his/her back, and leave the room. It is ok for the baby to cry for a few minutes in order for you to recompose yourself. Having a baby can be stressful at times, and it is best to leave out for a few minutes than to risk hurting your baby! Best of luck to you!