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Babies Last Name
Added: 98 days ago.
Added by: 1stimemommymel
Section: Babynames.
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Ok, I need some advice. I am 30 wks pregnant, in the process of getting a divorce (been separated from DH for over a year), my fiancee wants to give his soon to be son his last name and so do I but my mother says that I should give him my maiden name (I am taking my maiden name back as soon as divorce is finalized). I am planning on marrying my fiancee sometime this year... What do you all think. Mom says that giving baby my maiden name, I can always change it my fiancee`s last name when we get married. Need Advice!

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Melanie07 - 91 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) It depends on if your fiancee is going to adopt the baby or not. If not, you should give the baby his father's name.

selenia - 94 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i would give the baby your fiance's last name

2ndxmommy!! - 95 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I THINK YOU JUST GIVE HIM YOUR MAIDEN NAME AND YOU CAN CHANGE HIS LAST NAME ONCE YALL ARE MARRIED!!BUT IT IS ALL UP TO YOU!!

mzmommy2b - 97 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) It is a very personal decision, but I would definetley go with the fathers last name. Especially if you are planning on getting married to him soon. If you give him your maiden name, then when you get married, the baby will have a completely different last name then both of you!

lorijuan1024 - 97 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) The fathers last name.

cjmc2577 - 97 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i would say your fiancee's last name.

amandapmills - 97 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i would give the baby the fathers last name since he's going to be in his life.... you were married when you got pregnant and I would understand giving him your maiden name if the father didnt want anything to do with him but since he does give him his name....

christen - 97 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i have been through this.....give your child your maiden name....you wont regret it incase something goes wrong with your fiancee.....my mom let my sisters dad adopt me and i got his last name instead of keeping my real dads last name....im telling you i hated my mom for doing that...so please consider how your baby will feel

loveatfirstbump - 97 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would wait until you are married.

mandie - 97 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) it would make sense to give the baby your fiance s last name he is the father wethet u are married to him or not, its kinda a pain to change names good luck congrats on pregnancy

Jaimie - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You could always hyphen the two names (johnson-smith) so that your son has both of your last names and can later decide if he'd rather be referred to as one or the other if things don't work out. Just a though. :)

jamitom - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i think that whoever the father is that his last name should be the babies.even if things somehow didnt work out that is his father.

Carmione - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) This is what my parents said back in the day about last names...if a couple is unwed, a daughter should take the name of the mother- if it is a son, he should take the name of his father as he is the carrier of lineage as far as name goes even though women can do the same to an extent. This is what tradition would have been for anyone in my family that had this issue. ultimately it's your choice on what you want to do. You make whatever decision you feel most comfortable.

Holly28 - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am in the exact same situation. My divorce will go through within the next month and I am currently pregnant with my new b/f's child. Just like you, I too am going back to my maiden name. However, despite the difference in last names I am giving our baby my b/f's last name. He has been more for me through this than I could have ever asked for and is definitely earning the title "daddy." I could see not giving the baby the father's last name if he was refusing to have anything to do with you or your baby but in my case (and yours) he is obviously present and therefore that baby should have his last name. Besides what is the problem if in the end you two are getting married and you are taking on his last name anyways?

araya-sunshine - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would do what your mom says. If it doesn't work out between the two of you (Heaven forbid) you will be the primary care giver (I'm assuming). If your child has a different last name then you it makes life hard! When you get new insurance they will ask questions and make you produce the birth certificate. When you enroll your child in school, etc. There will always be issues. When my friend got married she changed her sons last name when she changed hers and they didn't ask any questions.

windchime - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was going to say that you should give your baby his daddy's last name (as long as daddy's involved). But then I think about my students who have a diff. last name than their mom and/or siblings and it is so sad. Not to be mean, but if your man hasn't made the official committment to you yet, then maybe you should wait until he does and then change baby's last name. "Fiancee" is not the same thing as husband.

Baby3OnWay - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I'm not married yet but these are my fiances kids and they all have his last name, why pay later to get it changed??? Just my advise

klasnaya - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) His dads last name!!! If your gonna end up with him anyways and the baby is his then i would do that. Good Luck!

Mommyof2boys - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Since you are going to be getting married to this man the father of the baby I would go ahead and give him his name. He is the father and is going to be involved I don't see why having the headache of changing it when you do get married.

michaela - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I agree with Kathleen, if you are marrying the father of your child then gie it his surname, especially if when you marry him you take his name.

Christina1984 - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i would say if u plan to take ur fiances last name eventually then go ahead and give the baby his last name. but if u are keeping ur maiden name than give the baby that name. i gave my daughter her dads last name, and well he turned out to be a dead beat, and i wish i gave her my last name now that im getting married. my fiance wants to adopt her but he wont allow it. good luck and do what u feel is best

gr8scottswife - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Does it look like you'll divorce your fiance? If not, then give your baby his name, especially since you'll be married soon.

mattie4 - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) if it isnt your soon to be ex's then he has no rights to it and shouldnt be given any with him having his last name. If it is your fiancee's son they he should have his daddy's name, but i wouldnt see anything wrong with you giving him your maiden name and then changing it later (one never knows what a year holds) ...just my thoughts on it. good luck :)

mommy-of-3 - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would give him your maiden name, if and when you do marry your fiance and feel strongly about it you can always go back and change your son's last name. I actually had to do this with my oldest because when he was born I gave him my last name, then his dad and I got married a year later and I was able to go down to the SS office and change his last name to my husbands.

wildberry - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i would give your baby your maiden name it sounds bad but that way if you ever split your baby can keep the same name i have had four last names in my life because of my mom things would have been easier on me if i had one name that stayed the same

kalliemae - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) its his kid, he should get his dads last name.....I am in the same boat.

julie80 - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) the baby should get your fiancee's last name (if he is the father).

LMO - 98 days ago Rating: 3 (1 votes) if your fiancee is the baby daddy then the baby should carry on his last name regardless of whether yall are getting married or not.

kathleen - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) well if your fiance is the babies daddy and your getting married this year then whats the point in giving your child your maiden name when your just going to change it. i also think children should have their daddy surname unless the dads not going to be around

brandi j. - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) This is a tough one. I agree w/ your mom, but then I think about the fact that if you give your baby your fiance's last name and put him as the baby's father on the birth certificate and he decides to bail, then you have grounds for child support. I know that sounds awful, and I hope this is not something that you will ever have to deal w/, but in today's society you can't be too sure. Best of luck to you!