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This or that?!
Added: 100 days ago.
Added by: Jaimie
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


I am struggling on what I should do as my due date creeps up on me. I`m in a situation that I dated a guy for six weeks and ended up getting pregnant. I had such terrible ordeals with him that I didn`t want him harassing me while I was pregnant or afterwards and told him I was getting a procedure done (which I had thought about because I didn`t want to deal with him and didn`t know how I`d do it on my own) Well thankfully I changed my mind and can`t wait for my baby boy to be here at the end of July. But in February my ex found out I was still pregnant and wants to go to court after the baby`s born to discuss legal and physical rights. I really don`t want him involved for numerous reasons but if he is he will be paying child support. So I don`t know whether I should go through with the court trial and get child support (my ex will have limited custody of the baby anyways since he just enlisted with the Marines and will be gone most of the time) which could greatly help with diapers and child care while I finish my schooling. Or if I should just deny his request and not have him on the birth certificate at all, voiding his rights unless he wanted to pursue a costly way to prove fatherhood of the boy. My family and boyfriend have helped a great deal finacially and said they would be happy to continue to help. I feel terrible because I can`t support myself right now and depend on them but then if I got child support I would be ultimately depending on it to help out. Am I being selfish? I just don`t want to have to but Riley through his biological father`s lying, controlling behavior and my ex end up telling him that he`d be better off with him or he`ll give him whatever he wants if he lived with him and just manipulating the poor child ( I dealt with this since my parents divorced when I was three). Another plus is that Riley would have medical coverage since he would be a dependent of someone in the service. I ultimately want the best for my child and if it`s it means being helped by family to be able to provide for him, than I will swallow my pride and do so. I`m just so confused on what I should do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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2xmom - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You're the only one who knows the details of how your ex behaves. I think as long as you put your baby first, then you're doing the right thing. However, your ex hasn't had the opportunity yet to show what kind of a father he'll be. It's possible that he could be a great father, but terrible boyfriend. Also, if you deny him his rights, then you are denying your child a father. Good luck in your choices.

momofboys - 98 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I can't advise you on this. It is to major. I can say if you can not afford medical coverage on your own there is Medicaid. Your child can still have insurance. It sucks he found out you were still pregnant......a life time of drama.

totallykatalicious - 100 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I'd probably do it ... no matter what (unless he was a killer or something) a child should have his/her father in their lives .. I know that your ex is probably not a good influence, but if he is going to be in the Marines, he'll be gone most of the time ... so get that money, get that health coverage .. it's so hard to get anything when you are a single mom to be.

LMO - 100 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) regardless of whether you put the babies father on the birth certificate if he wants to be in the life of the child he will and he will probably fight for it, i know in texas fathers dont get a lot of custody rights, and if in the end there are more benefits for the father being in the life of the child do it, like you said he will have health insuarance, can you get health insuarance for the baby without the fathers help? good luck