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telling my parents
Added: 22 days ago.
Added by: billo
Section: Pregnancy.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


Hi, I hope all is going well for everyone. I am currently ten and a half weeks pregnant (planned) and things are going well. I have a little belly now, which seems really obvious to me, but I think it`s because I know I`m pregnant. I`m 27 and have been with my dp for 6 years now, life is lovely. And yet still, I am totally freaked out about telling my parents that I`m pregnant. It will be their first grandchild and I don`t think they`ve really considered the idea of grandchildren. I have no idea how they`re going to react. We haven`t really told anyone yet (our choice) so I`m not really used to talking about it with anyone other than dp. Also, none of my friends have kids yet. Any help would be so much appreciated, I know all this sounds quite trivial, but this is really beginning to play on my mind. Thanks ever so much, billo

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niki - 17 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes)
I just broke the good news by saying in conversation im so many weeks baby is due to arrive in October.... my side where quite funny about it and no one said congratulations just dont get your hopes up as i miscarried - now that shes here my side have distanced thereselves but im a great mummy and wife and that is my family now....

joyfulnoise - 19 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes)
I waited until after week 12 or around the time I had heard the heartbeat with the doppler at the Doctors office. Then you know that more risks have been minimized, and you'll feel more mentally ready to share it.

athome - 20 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes)
I felt exactly the same !! I was 29 and had been married for 6 years but I was still apprehansive abuot telling everyone. I didn't have any friends with children and had never even seen a newborn so it was all completely foreign. Well as it turns out my family were really excited and 5 of my friends conceived the same year, in fact one friend was also pregnant at the same time and hadnt summoned up the words to tell anyone !!!Of course not everyone was positive my MIL just said "but i'm not ready to be a grandmother yet. I'm too young (at 59!) " you cant win them all. As long as your happy then share it with the world once you meet your bub you'll wonder why you ever hesitated in sharing the best news in the world.

billo - 21 days ago
Wow, so many good ideas! Thanks so much, It feels nice just to know that other people have had exactly the same thoughts. Thank you so much for taking the time to ease my mind, I feel a lot better having read all your answers! I'll let you know how I get on...X

sarahann - 22 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes)
First of all, congratulations! I was 32 yo and still found it a little bit embarrassing to tell my parents. I think some parents still think of their daughters as little girls regardless of how old you are, or how long you've been in a relationship of your own and that can make it feel a bit difficult. The day I told my parents, we called in to their house and as Mum was putting the kettle on I said, "Congratulations!" Of course they asked what for. I said, "Because you're going to be Grandparents!" They were overjoyed. Mine was their second grandchild, but my first. I think becoming grandparents may shock some people because it might make them feel like they are getting older, but I'm sure they will be very excited once it sinks in. Good luck!

ashleyandcaleb - 22 days ago Rating: 4 (1 votes)
wow,i bet they'll be excited=] no matter how you say even if you randomly blert it out,oh hey btw im pregnant.the first grandchild seems to always be a big deal...im not saying to randomly blert it out though lol.good luck=]

Mommyof2boys - 22 days ago Rating: 4 (1 votes)
I gave my Mom a gift inside it had a bib that said I love my grandma and she had the biggest smile on her face, you can also take your first ultrasound pic wrap it up and give it to them over dinner.

2b - 22 days ago Rating: 4 (1 votes)
I on the otherhand could not wait to tell my parents!! They are my support system when things are good I want them there and when they aren't so good I want them there. Last June we had a mc at only 8 weeks and i was soooo thankful that my family and close friends were there for us...It was definetly not something I would have wanted to go through alone. In my opinion, tell them. They will be so excited!! And they will be there for you :)

lady26 - 22 days ago Rating: 4.5 (2 votes)
I am 26 and married and I haven't told anyone I am pregnant yet as well. I think it's best to wait until you are in the second trimester. my reason for this is because miscarriages are very common in the first trimester. I personally don't plan on telling anyone until I am around six months.

deborah86 - 22 days ago Rating: 4 (1 votes)
I was scared to death to tell my parents as well as they are strict baptist and don't approve of getting pregnant outside of marriage. I was going to hide it and wait to get married at the JP and then tell them. But the same day when I went to pick up my son from her she could tell something was bothering me and I just started crying and came out with it. She was believe it or not very understanding. She wasn't that happy at first but she is so excited now!

lindamc - 22 days ago Rating: 4 (1 votes)
I was so horrified to tell my parents. we found out we were pregnant the day after our wedding! i was so scared, but they were overjoyed!!! It's the first grandchild too

Baby3OnWay - 22 days ago Rating: 4 (1 votes)
I'm nearly 24.. youcan read my reactions to pregnancy on profile if you'd like. With my first it was easy to tell my paretns as I am very close with them, with the INLAWS I waited until I had my first U/S and then sent it in a card for them... it worked the first time! I guess you should just tell them when you feel comfortable though... not too long or they might figure it out.

Christina1984 - 22 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes)
ive been there, in fact im dreading telling my grandpop that im 6 months pregnant again cuz im not married yet. but when i told every1 (family wise) i made it into a happy thing. dont say " u guys may be unhappy but..." or " sorry but..." say " guess what! i have some great news for u guys!" good luck

jamitom - 22 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes)
i would just send a bib that says #1grandma and pa.I think any grandparent would be thrilled.

Melanie07 - 22 days ago Rating: 4 (1 votes)
Send them a gift with something to do with being awesome grandparents and a note telling them. That way you can give them a chance to absorb the info on their own. I am sure they will be excited. They may have mixed feelings. It is hard to tell. Most people are really excited to become grandparents after they get over the initial shock. Sending the gift and note in the mail, puts less stress on both you and them. They can come to terms and be excited for you without putting their worries on your shoulders. Good Luck!! Congrats!!!

baby.bray - 22 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes)
I'm sure that everything will be fine, I was 21 when I fell pregnant (22 now) my husband was 25 (26 now) we were married weeks when I got my BFP... my dad is 40 my step-mum is 37 they were fine with it and they had even bought a bouncy castle for their first granchild before our baby was even conceived lol! the people who suprised me were my husbands parents who are both in their late 50's they had the biggest problem with accepting the up-coming first grandchild - it just goes to show how people suprise you, they are happy with it now thank god only got 9 days until due date :-) but what I'm trying to say is that I understand how it plays on your mind - I was thinking that a nice way to tell future grandparents that you are expecting a baby is to get a greeting card and put a copy of the scan picture inside and alittle note written from the baby e.g 'hi granny and grandpa - just letting you know that I am here and healthy, mummy and daddy are so excited, my due date is...' I was going to do this but I spoilt the suprise before I had the scan :-) sorry to go-on-and-on hope that this helps xxx sorry bonnieheather - just had to edit my message I didnt realise you had the same idea with the greeting card and scan - I didnt steal your idea honest xxx

vikki - 22 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes)
Oh it's not trivial! You will be surprised how they take it and it may not be what you expect! When I told my parents about my first, well, I thought my Calm Dad would be fine and that my freaky mother would, well freak BUT my DAD lost it thinking how he was too young to be a Grandad and my mother said "oh I see,.... oh we need to go shopping and get a craddle and this and that and...." talk about weired! They will either get over it OR be so excited your going to wish for alittle space. Don't leave it too long as that can cause it's own problems. like them feeling left out. My freinds also didn't have children but they enjoyed getting the first little one of the freindship group, special little things.:-) Oh and I do like bonnieheather's idea! All the best.

bonnieheather - 22 days ago Rating: 3 (1 votes)
i would get your scan pic. put it in a card and just write Dear Grannie and Gramps - i cant wait to meet you love baby.. Whos heart wouldnt melt at that!!

lmo - 22 days ago Rating: 4 (1 votes)
it might be easier to tell them on the phone i remember dreading telling my dad that i was pregnant so i took him to a resturant so there were people around! lol

gr8scottswife - 22 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes)
You could give them a gift, like a mug that says "Best Grandma" so that would be a tell tell sign.

mommy-of-3 - 22 days ago Rating: 4 (1 votes)
If you are having a really tough time with this you might want to consider telling them on the phone. This way you aren't forced to tell them in person and you can allow them time for it to "sink in" and realize what is going on. Then it can be up to them to come around when they're ready. You can also try something a friend of mine did, she gave her mom a birthday card that was addressed to a "grandma"!

LilMrsK - 22 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes)
Maybe you can get them "Grandma to be" type of gifts to break the news to them.....grandparents brag book (for pictures) or something like that. I wish you the very best and just remember; it will all work itself out in the end!!!

delia - 22 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes)
From my limited experience with friends in similar (if not worse situations, ie teen pregnancy) I find that even if it is a initial shock, families really tend to draw together and get excited when a baby is on the way. It is such an exciting time. So if it were me... I would try to tell myself, that if their initial reaction was not what I was hoping for it is temporary and soon they will be as excited as if they had been asking for a grand-baby for years :)

jaydsmom - 22 days ago Rating: 4 (1 votes)
I was freaked to tell my mom when I was pregnant the first time. She had a grandaughter already who was 2, but my mom is a very negative person. I think I called about 3 times then didn't tell her. Finally I just blurted it out. She said "oh" and that was about it. But.... as I got bigger, she started to get happier about it. When my daughter came, I couldn't keep her away. Literally I had to tell her to leave!! It will all be OK. You're 27, an adult, and in charge of your own life.