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stay at home moms
Added: 68 days ago.
Added by: Christina1984
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i was fired in february when i told my boss i was pregnant. so was my friend. my job was great cuz i could bring my daughter with me. now i stay home with her and im 24 wks pregnant. i like staying home with her and i feel like i was meant to. the thing is i feel like less of a person and quilty about not contributing to the income. my fiance says he is ok with me staying home but i wonder if he is just saying that. i feel horrible. does any1 else feel like less of a person? i feel like people are thinking i am lazy or unskilled. that isnt the case tho. i would love to hear from some other stay at home moms. any 1 with advice to make feel better would be great. thank u!

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suthrnrazdrose - 64 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would love to find a way to stay home with my children. I don't think for me that it would be guilt. I think that my job and my income is my control. By not working I am giving that control to my man. He is worthy, of course. But for some reason, I still would have to think twice to give that up. I think its because of past issues with my ex. but anywho.... if you can get comfortable with it, I would think it would be good for your kids. :)

LMO - 65 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) they cant fire you because your pregnant that is wrong. you shouldnt feel less of a person for staying at home the way i see it is he is contributing to the income and your contributing to the house hold!

Melanie07 - 65 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was a stay at home mom for many years with my first two. I felt like that sometimes. I started volunteering at the school my kids were in and was team mom for their sports teams. It helped me feel needed and let me know first hand how things were where they were at. Before they were in school I would sometimes babysit.

michaela - 66 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Do you have any skills that mean you could work from home? If your partner is ok with it i would carry on as you are, it's is great to be there for your daughter and new baby. If you do feel that he is resentful of you staying home then you need to sit down and talk it over. See of you can come up with a way of you both working, even if you work an evening job you are still contributing to the family income. This may boost your self-esteem too.

Jay-dee - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was retrenched when I was 4months preggo. In the beginning I loved it because Christmas was around the corner and I didnt have to work. As my pregnancy went on i started getting bored and lonely! I am STILL at home and my baby is 3mnths old. I wish I could go out and work but i dont wanna leave my baby. Everyone at home thinks im lazy...and it gets to me because as soon as she is a little bit bigger....im gooooooing to work. I feel as though im going crazy at home ALL day.

Debra - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I'm pretty sure its illegal for someone to fire you b/c you are pregnant. I don't know about the law where you live, but did you ever question it? It goes against human rights. As to staying at home, i do feel now like I should be at work- especially when I had to take my son to the hospital last night and it was busy. I kept thinking they would ask me to pitch in and I should... I think about staying at home with him full-time b/c I love it so much, but I know its better for my family, myself (and society) if I went back to work to a job that I love. I spent 9 years in post secondary education working to become an RN and I deserve to continue to persue my career too- its just about finding a balance so it doesn't harm my son. If your fiance is ok with you staying home now, i'd enjoy it. But if you can find childcare and want to- you might want to find a parttime job and strike a balance between the 2 worlds.

Mommyof2boys - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I'm a sahm and I don't feel bad because I do so much around here, and my husband appreciates what I'm doing, laundry,cooking and raising a child is no easy job for anyone. You should be proud of your self and what you are doing and be glad you can stay at home because a lot of women don't have that choice.

Brandi J. - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am a stay at home mom and I used to feel guilty, but then I think about the fact that I am raising my child and someone else is not having to. And I am told all the time by moms who work, that they wish they had the same opportunity. Think about the how much child care, work clothing for you, gas, etc, would you working really make that much of a difference??!? Also, think about the bonding that you are doing w/ your daughter, you are making her feel secure and safe by being home w/ her during these early years. I also homeschool my children, and I feel that I will be able to help my children find their purpose and help them accomplish their dreams,and this is my role, my God given role!! I know your Q wasn't about homeschooling, but I stuck that in there anyway! :o) The way I look at it is, my reward will be everlasting and that is not something that I could get from any job outside of my home. Also, I think of staying at home as a way to please my hubby, b/c he loves knowing that our children are safe and secure and things are done at home, so I think this is a way of showing my hubby I love him! Hope this helps!! Keep your head up, if you have this opportunity feeled blessed!!

mommy-at-home - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am a stay at home mom and I love it! I acutally wouldn't have it any other way! I started staying home when I was pregnant with my first. The time you spend at home with your children will impact their lives FOREVER. You are the very best person in the world for them to play with and learn from. Staying at home is a gift to your children and it will mean more to them than you will ever know.

mommy-of-3 - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I wish I could stay home with my kids, unfortunately our income doesn't allow me to do that right now. I am actually looking into finding some type of work from home job because to me your kids grow so fast and before you know it they will be grown up! Don't feel guilty about staying home, feel happy in knowing that you aren't missing a single bit of their childhood. :)

uhmanduh - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i wish i could stay home. My hubby makes enough for me too but i dont think he would like it if i quit my job. But taking care of the house is hard work. when i get off from work i have to work somemore when i get home. its tuff and taking care of a child is also tuff.

RandiLee - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I definitely feel guilty about not contributing anymore... But just remember..your job is WAYYY harder than going to work everyday...you're caring for another human being. It takes a lot more skill than going through paper work or sitting on a phone for 8 hours. And i'm sure your fiance understands....daycare is very expensive..it's probably better for the 2 of you for you to be staying home. Be proud.

kater - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i had my last day of work yesterday (i was allowed to bring my daughter along too)and im 28 weeks pregnant, i i know your situation well. also, my daughter goes to a private school where a huge number of mothers work full time, so ive noticed that theres the two groups who tend to socialize more, the SAH mums and the working mums. my suggestion is to find other mothers in your situation, join a mothers group or playgroup with your daughter, these groups are filled with intelligent supportive women who would never judge you for your choices-after all they have made the same ones!

lady26 - 67 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) Just relax and enjoy your pregnancy, pregnancy is hard work too. Most men don't want their wife or fiance working while pregnant anyway.

niki - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Look at it this way when your at home you will see your baby develop and first steps, first words etc - you cant turn the clock back so take your time to enjoy the time you have with your kids and dont worry what anyone else thinks.... People are just jealous of you being able to be in the situation your in. take care x

mrsbekki - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Being a mother is the most rewarding "job." I can't wait till I trade in my job and upgrade to mommy. Income shouldn't outweigh the wonderful times you will share with your children, that otherwise you wouldn't be able to experience.

Its-Chelle - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) im a stay at home mom, i have 4 kids, but im home with our 17 mo old son..i quit my job while pregnant and have been home since, we made the choice together for me to be home until whenver the time is right to go back to work..we struggle financially a bit, but we are making it on his income alone supporting all of us..i hve plenty of days i feel guilty for being home, having my husband give me money for the shopping and our needs..he does once in a while mention about me trying to find a job that would be suitable for me, but he doesnt pressure me..he says were fine how we are, he just thinks of me wanting to get out of the house and not be home..but im thankful to be the one caring for our son, my other kids are in school.dont think youre any less of a person being home..cause i tell you what, i couldnt do my husbands job, and he would have a hard time doing mine..lol..he brings in the money, and i care for our kids and home..so far works out nice..when the time is right later on, you can find a job again, but for now cherish being home with your lil ones...

mattie4 - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) When you see a stay at home mommy do you think they are unskilled? probably not. Dont be so hard on yourself about this. It is a job taking care of your children and a house. I have a college education and was working professionally before i became pregnant with my first. I had some difficulty with that pregnancy and ended up needing to quit. That was 8 years ago. I haven't gone back. My oldest also was diagnosed with Autism so there was no question in me going back or not. We are lucky enough that my husband's income is more than adequate for me to stay home with the kids. There are times i do feel bad that i am not bringing in any income, but i know that i am contributing alot more than any job could pay. I am now preggers with our 4th and well with the cost of daycare....whew...it really works out better for me to stay home. I have however gone back to school and working to change my career goals so that i can work from home. This way i can have the best of both worlds :). I suggest finding a mommy group near by. That will get you out, and you will see other mommies that aren't working and will give you some companionship. Thats one of the things that is hard, you become MOMMY and it is easy to loose touch with friends or even yourself.

agonzales - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I feel like that sometimes too but then again Id rather be home with my children. Times I did have a job I was miserable because I missed my kids and hubby so much. Cant live with them cant live without them lol j/k. My man is okay with it but sometimes I feel bad cause I feel like I could help out with the income. Its also a good think cause I dont have to worry about childcare or wonder how my kids are being taking care of. I think that was wrong that they fired you both because of that. Thats discrimination and I wouldve made a complaint about it.

monica9 - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Dont feel like that at all!! this may sound cliche but You do have a job... your children!! hey, if you can get by income-wise without having to work, then you are very lucky!!

ashleyandcaleb - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) isn't there a law about being discriminated against because of pregnancy?I went to a interview not too long ago and the man that did the interview told me that straight up...im sorry that happened to you,thats very unfair!

lilmissred - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Im not a stay home mom currently but once upon a time I was.. I had a REALLY nice paying job at bellsouth and I'd just had my daughter... I was so miserable that one night while at work I was crying on the phone to my hubby telling him how much I missed our babies... he told me to come home.. I walked out and didnt look back. I stayed home with our kids for 3 yrs... although we had to make financial adjustments.. we made it and I loved being there for our kids f/t. I went thru the phase of feeling like I was slacking on my part of the deal, but in reality I wasnt.. I stayed home with the kids(no childcare fees) I cooked everyday(no eating out) I managed the bills with hubbys income(so I knew exactly what was coming in/out) and I was able to do little things with our kids for outtings and keep the house. trust me until ur ready to go back to work(if ever) ur doing whats best for u and ur family. dont feel guilty about taking care of ur babies Momma! Good Luck! :o)

Baby3OnWay - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am a stay home mom.. well for mat leave which is a year here. I am getting maternity pay but its not a whole lot. I love staying home with my daughter and son but I do feel lazy and stuff at times and know that I can and should get out there and do something BUT I spend a lot of time with the children, teaching them, playing with them... it take a lot to do what you are doing, stay home mom is more then a full time job in my eyes!! I say enjoy it while you can and if you can financially...P.S. I don't think ANYONE can fire you or dismiss you for being pregnant... not here anyways. I would see if you can do something about that... DISCRIMINATION!!!!!!

wildberry - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i have felt like that there are still times that i feel like that i told my DH about how i felt and he got quotes of how much it would cast to hire someone to do everything i do (housekeeper chef full time nanny) and that made me feel better i also feel that raising my children to be the best they can be is worth a lot

gr8scottswife - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I can't wait to stay at home!

mtnwoman - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) First off, I can't believe they fired you! Thats horrible! BUT, being a stay at home mom IS a full time job. I have the greatest respect for my mom who didn't work the whole time us kids were growing up. She still worked very hard taking care of us and keeping a nice house/yard. Men love having someone take care of them, so being a stay at home mom gives you the opportunity to show him how much you appreciate his working and allowing you to spend time with your kid(s). If we could afford it I would LOVE to be a stay at home mom! Don't feel bad about it at all.

slg3233 - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I feel like that sometimes, but I also feel like we deserve that much too. This is my 3rd pregnancy and with my 1st I stayed home, with my 2nd I worked up until the before I had her and now I am 34 weeks with my 3rd and I stayed home with this one. But my husband told me that he didn't want me to work while I am pregnant. As long as he's bringing in good money to support my kids needs then I am fine with staying home. Hope this makes you feel better!! But just think you deserve the relaxation also!!

MelissaJoanne - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Being a mum is the most important career you'll even have. I felt a bit like a bum when I quit my job just before getting pregnant (in anticipation of being a stay-at-home-mama), but now I am very glad that my job is to take care of this unborn baby, and prepare for my new job of mum. I think that as women we are told that we should be able to do it all, have that great career and a family, but don't be convinced that it's anything less than a wonderful choice to stay at home and raise your daughter. (I will add - it is illegal for your boss to fire you because you were pregnant! Why did that happen?)