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What should i do?
Added: 77 days ago.
Added by: nutmeg
Section: Pregnancy.
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Im 17 and a student and pregnant and dont do what is best. Abortion, keep or adoption?

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skittles0607 - 75 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was pregnant at 17 in my senior year with my first child. I stuck with it and it worked out. Do you have support from family. I am now 22 and my husband and I are pregnant with our 3rd. I am in the military and just started online courses for my bachelors in criminal justice. As long as you have the will power you can do anything. Even while being pregnant.. I know some people who had an abortion and now they are so mad at themselves for doing it. Things will be hard but once you get the hang of things you will be ok. Just be strong and take everything one day at a time. Good luck to you. if you ever need to talk you can message me on my page..

sez - 75 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i understand what you are saying, in that you will be pregnant thoughout your exams ect, but you really have to think about when your going to take responsibilty , life has its ups and downs , and you have to make the most out of every situation, remember it may be a struggle down but 10 years down the track it will be a different story, do what is best for you though, just think long and hard about it, as there is nothing worse than regret, i was a solo mum in high school and gave birth to my son at 18, sure it was hard but i wouldnt change it for the world now. all im saying is you can do it if you want, so dont doubt yourself. and look at the big picture like the future ect, rather than looking from being in the moment hope this helps and i wish you all the best :)

toothfairy - 76 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Been there xxx - got pregnant the week i left college and just started work at 18. Could never abort, and despite the difficulty - i had my little girl. i lived with my mum. After a year me and her dad split up anyway and i got a flat of my own and began our new life.......... lots has happened since and now she is 20!! I have a 14 yr old, an 11 month old and im 6 months preg with twins!! Married to Ross who iv been with for 4 years. Life goes on, choices are made. You choose your path by the decisions you make. Im glad i had her 20 years ago, life could have been different, but children give you so much love it is well worth it. Good luck whatever you decide - and remember that the decision is ultimately yours. x

nutmeg - 76 days ago im seriously concidering adoption now that ive heard all the risks with abortion but i'll still be pregnant throught some very important times in my life (my exams, my 18th, starting uni) i just dont wana miss those times and have them affected cause im pregnant. those chances only happen once whereas i have the rest of my life for a baby.

onj - 76 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I know you have lots of good opinions already on this page. I just wanted to comment on how you said you will be very pregnant when you start university. No matter what you do right now, it will likely affect you starting university. If you have the baby, it will be hard, if you abort, it will be hard. You will have to be mentally prepared no matter what you do, and it won't be easy. But that doesn't mean you can't do it. If you keep the baby, you will have to decide what to do as far as feeding goes, etc, because it's hard to go to class at the same time as you have a newborn. But some schools will help you do it. If you have strong support with your family, you may be able to achieve much more than you'd expected. Maybe the father wants you to abort, but maybe this isn't his choice. I understand that it's his baby too, but when it comes down to it, you're going to be the one affected by this, you need to do the right thing. Adoption is also a beautiful gift. There are so many families who would be blessed to raise your child. You are going to have to be strong no matter what, but what you learn about yourself might be worth all the hardships... Good luck. God bless.

Brandi J. - 76 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Please do not abort!!! Abortion is never the key. I know a lady who now has 5 healthy children, however, her abortion has stuck w/ her, she was young and thought it was best, however she is still having to go to therapy years later and still feels horrible for her decision. I also have a friend who has 2 healthy children and didn't think that she could financially handle another one, so she and her hubby decided to have an abortion, she is considering counsiling b/c her decision still haunts her to this day. Both wish that they would have considered adoption instead. These 2 ladies are not the only women that I know of that wish that they would have given their baby a chance at life, even if that life meant being adopted. I am adopted and I am so thankful that my biological parents chose life for me. I do realize that not every woman feels guilty about their decision to abort and some go on to abort again and again, however there are very few women who feel this way. My suggestion to you is that God is knitting this precious little baby in your womb, if you do not feel like you can raise the baby yourself, then bless a family who is not able to conceive a baby on their own, but would love the opportunity to adopt a baby to raise as their own. God bless you!

agonzales - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think you should do what you feel is right for you not just your bf. If you want an abortion do it because you want to not cause hes telling you too. What if some time in the near future you two dont work out then you will feel that you aborted your child because of him. Really think about it!

1sttimebabymama696 - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) This is something that you have to decide for yourself. 17 years old doesn't mean you can't be a great mom, but you have to be ready and want it or your baby will suffer. Think hard about all 3 options and how they would change you and go from there.

xidja - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i realize 17 is very young to have a baby but plz do not abort it. there are too many women out there who cannot have babies and are struggling a great deal to. if u got pregnant then God has a special plan for that baby and reason for bringing it into this world. you do need to talk with people about it definitely. if u can try to talk to people who have had abortions also. most likely once you have the baby your age isnt going to matter to anyone, just your precious baby. all the focus and attention will be on the baby and not on you. adoption is a good route but you may not want to decide about that quite yet. once you start feeling the baby and bonding with it you may not want to give it up. good luck to you and i will pray for you to make the choice that is best for you.

shootinstarzzz - 77 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) honey you need to do what you feel in your heart is the best option for you and ur lil baby, can you live with urself if you got an abortion? if you give this lil baby, a human life a chance could you carry this baby then hand him/her over to someone else to raise and know you wont see this child? your in a very hard and very tough sitution, you need to talk to your parents, dont think of what they will do, if they will get mad or what...go to your mom or dad or even an aunt or someone who is in ur life and an adult and tell them ur pregnant, talk to them and between you all make that desision..I had my first baby at age 16, my parents were shocked, my mom was soo mad, my dad cried, but I had my daughter, my parents were there for me the whole pregnancy and were fine with me being preggo after they got over the shock of me being a pregnant 16 year old! and they love my daughter, my daughter is 19 years old now and my best friend, we are very close cuz we grew up togther in a way....but really, get off of here, go talk to ur parents and go from there. you can also email me on my page and I will look up in ur area for you a teen pregnacy center if you feel you need extra help, a school counsular would also have that info, they are soo many programs if you decide to keep ur baby and raise her/him or if you decide you wanna give her up to a loving family, there's someone right now wanting a baby so bad and would love to raise ur child so plzzzzzz go to ur parents and dont go thru this desision alone. hugs and it's gonna be ok.

monica9 - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would go for keeping or adoption. but you have to really know that you can raise this child b/c there are many people out there that are looking to adopt. Its great that you are considering adoption and realistic enough to know that you may be too young. good luck with your decision.

Its-Chelle - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) thats a tough question..i have 2 teen sisters who are moms, and they struggle,one is doing fine raising baby with her boyfriend, but the other is now single parent,and its tough no matter what.you never know what the future holds.but if that were me, i would opt to keep or give up for adoption.theres so many people out there who cant have a baby.... its really your choice though to make..wish you luck on it..

mayasmom - 77 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) I know this will be an unpopular answer among some on here who are pro-life, but I, too, have known women who had abortions and it did not ruin their lives, they do not regret their decisions and all of them went on to have children when they were able to adequately care for them. It is a very personal decision and only you know how you truly feel inside about abortion as an option. If you think it is immoral or that you will forever burn in hell if you have one, then you will likely regret it. I agree with others on here that adoption is a beautiful option. So many couples struggle with infertility and would treasure a baby....Having a baby at 17 is a unique challenge. It really does come down to the support you have and your maturity level. It means relinquishing your youth and putting the needs of someone else above your own at a time in your life when you, developmentally, should be focusing on your own needs. That said, I'm sure you know what is best for you and will follow your heart. Good luck to you.

nutmeg - 77 days ago my boyfriend rang me today and told me he needs to think. he wouldnt tell me what. Im hoping he's thinking about the other options and not just abortion so we can really discuss things but i'm also worried he's thinking about whether he should have anything to do with it. He didnt sound very happy on the phone.

ibudoris - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) It is a tough decision that as many have already said only you can make. I have never heard of anyone felt great after having an abortion, but I have heard many who have regretted it. Don't just make a choice you can live with because this choice is not just for you. You are deciding for yourself and for the baby in your womb, make a choice you both can live with.

jessicadarling - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If you are in this predicament don't do anything without thinking it through completely because you don't want to do something you will regret later in life. If you keep the baby things will be hard but if you have family and friends willing to support you and you really want it to work then you can keep the baby. Adoption is a wonderful thing! So many people want babies and aren't able to have them and it is great to be able to give them the most powerful feeling of love! Now with abortion I can see where the convenience comes in. I personally would never even consider it but being young it is easy to see how quickly you can solve your problems through abortion. BUT it will honestly not solve the problems. Don't do anything with only your own logic behind someone. I suggest telling your mom or someone close to you and thinking rationally about all options. I pray that abortion isn't your choice but I believe you have the right to choose for yourself. Pregnancy is a gift not given to all. Perhaps the best thing is to give the gift of a child to someone else

flowergirl0778 - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hi, Thats your decision. If i were you i would keep it. If you think about aborting your pregnancy then make sure you think to the future ... would you regret it when you are older??? I hope you make the right decision. You can always go back to college/uni (or where ever you study) afterwards, like a couple of years down the line. Good luck...I hope make the right decision.

Mommyof2boys - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think you should sit down and think seriously about it, do you have friends & family who will support you? Students get pregnant everyday and still are able to raise a child. Highschool & college either is both hard but it cane be done, women/girls do it everyday. I'm against abortion, unless there's something very wrong with Mom or fetus and doctor recommends it being the safe way to go but when you have a choice and nothing is wrong I think God has givin you this gift for a reason, the way you decide to go is up to you, no one can tell you. Just remember everything happens for a reason and you've been handed this for a reason young or old and you don't wont to regret anything. You will get by, you will be able to finish school and at times it will be hard but everyone has those times. good luck!

Baby3OnWay - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am against abortion but to each there own. if you feel you cannot do this then adoption as you can have an open adoption to stay in the child life as well. I have seen too many of my friends go with adoption to later regret it so maybe you should go and talk with someone about all your options before you make such a life changing desicion! Best of luck

Mommy2twogreatkids - 77 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) I have to say I am very against abortion. I know it is your choice but there is a growing life inside of you right now. Be open minded and strong. Even if that means overcoming issues between you and the father right now in order for you to go full term and give it to a couple who CAN provide for it. Please just research your decision, there are many websites that graphicly show you what happens to a baby when they are aborted. God Bless you and your baby.

KarenVG - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Some universities have daycare available, maybe look into that a little to see if that is an option. I think you need to talk with your boyfriend, If he is against someonelse looking after yours and his baby then you both need to talk out the options. He would need to step up and be able to finance the baby and maybe daycare. I think you need to look first what you would need to do to keep the baby rather than adopt, but Abortion is not good for you or your body or emotional state. Most who have abortions feel guilt the rest of thier lives. Adoption can have various options too open or closed. if Your Boyfriend wants the baby with you and him he needs to show you how he is going to ensure you have the support you need. You could do it, it will mean some sacrifices but you will be blessed by this little one in your life. See if their is a pregnancy support center in your area, they can also help with basics you struggle to afford as well as advice. I hope you have a good pregnancy and find a peaceful solution. God bless you.

Rebekahs-mama - 77 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) Hi! I want to first say how sorry I am that you're going through this. I really hope you have the support you need right now. While this decision can only be made by you, I want to encourage you to look into adoption. After almost 6 years of infertility issues my hubby and I started looking into adoption. We wanted a child so badly that we could honestly say we didn't care whether it was of our blood or not. There are soooooooo many families who would love to adopt your baby...people who are desperate to be parents. My heart literally ached at the thought of never having children to love and cherish as my own. I'm sorry if I'm pressuring you. I really didn't intend to do that. I just want to assure you that if you choose to put your baby up for adoption it will be loved more than you may ever know. We were very blessed to ironically have conceived after we made the decision to adopt, but we will still adopt in the future. Our hearts have been forever changed since we originally made the decision to go down that path. God bless you. I will be praying for you and if you ever need someone to talk to, I'm all ears!

fabeebabee - 77 days ago Rating: 5 (4 votes) Hi, nutmeg! First of all, I'm sorry that this happened at a time in your life when you're not ready for it. On the other hand, I can give you a success story. I am an adopted child. My biological mother (whom I did not know, due to a closed adoption) was 19 when she had me and had dreams of going to college. She knew she wasn't ready for a child. She placed me for adoption with a Catholic Charities adoption agency (one of many great organizations available). My adopted mother couldn't have kids. She was 28 and married and they really wanted children, but weren't physically able. She applied for adoption about a year before I was born. The agency put her through many stringent tests, including unannounced home visits to make sure she was a fit person to adopt. She got a call that I was ready to be picked up out of the blue. I was 4 weeks old when she got me. I had a wonderful childhood. I went to the best private schools, have a bachelor's degree from an excellent university and am now a pilot. I'm well-adjusted and happily married, expecting a child myself! The real success of this story is that about a year ago I decided to search for my biological mother. I appealed to the court system in the state I was adopted. They told me that the only way they could release the name was for them to first contact my biological mother and get her permission. Well, I didn't know if she wanted to be found. But I went ahead with it. She was thrilled to be found! She said the only reason she didn't search for me was because she didn't know if I would want to be found. I met my biological family (inlcuding mother, father, grandparents, aunts and uncles) last October. We called it the reunion of the century. It was wonderful. They were wonderful. But the most important thing I always wanted to tell my biological mother that I didn't know if I'd ever get the chance to say was "Thank you for the choice you made all those years ago. I'm happy and healthy and it was the right thing to do." She was so relieved to hear that. I never had any ill-will toward her. Only thanks that she was able to make such a mature and selfless decision. I know it's the hardest thing you'll ever do, but it's worth it. I want you to know that I'm not saying all this because I'm anti-abortion. I'm actually pro-choice! But I wanted you to hear that it would be a wonderful, selfless choice to give a baby up for adoption, not only for the child, but also for that family who so desperately wants children but can't have them. Also, remember that even though it seems like the end of the world right now, it's really only 9 months if you decide to adopt, and then your life can get right back on track. I hope this helps.

lindaynino - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hi, I'm pregnant too (18 weeks), and I'm scared most of the time, I'm 26 but believe me, I feel like I'm 15, specially because this pregnancy may cost my life or my baby's. The decision is entirely yours but please consider what I had to when I found out I was pregnant, your baby isn't hurting anyone, he's not a threat, his only weapon is to exist and you are his only and last shelter. Good luck and bless you.

christina1984 - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) unfortunately only u can make that decision. mentally an abortion can be tramatic, adoption can be very hard mentally as well but the baby would be with a family who can support it. keeping the baby involves financial stability, the ability to love someone unconditionally, tending to every need of a child. if u have a supportive family and or friends maybe u could do it, plenty of teen moms do really well down the line its just especially hard. my mom had me at 17 and then took off. if u do decide to carry thru with the pregnancy then u must realize that everything u do effects the child. there are plenty of clinics and support groups and financial assistance out there. good luck in what ever u decide and feel free to message me and let me know how u r

lv2bamommy - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) ~Nutmeg~ Please take the time and talk to someone. You really need to think about what is right for you and your baby. Not what's right for evreyone else. Are mentally ready to get an abortion? There are free clinics you can go to and they can sit down and talk to you and tell you all of your options! I wish you the best! You are the only one that can make the decision.

nutmeg - 77 days ago ive heard that more than once. the truth is anyone can have sex as it doesnt take much brains but motherhood requires alot of brains and knowing how to take care of a child and everything and i just dont feel im that mature enough

toti - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If you were old enough to have sex then you are old enough to have this child, if you cannot keep it after it is born then give it up for adoption, there are MILLIONS of men & woman out there who cannot have children and would love to adopt.

nutmeg - 77 days ago i am thinking of that but my boyfriend is against having someone else raise his kid and plus i'd be very pregnant at the start of uni

slg3233 - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You do have to do what is best for you like everyone else is saying. But in my opinion, I don't think abortion would be a option. I am against abortions, but that is me. If it was me in your posistion I would either consider keeping or adoption. But like everyone else is saying you have to do what's best for you. But I don't see why abortion should be an option to anyone when you can just have your baby and give it up for adoption right when it is born.

nutmeg - 77 days ago i am with the father but we dont earn near enough to support a child let alone ourselves and he wants me to have an abortion. I plan to go to uni in september but will have to put that on hold if i decide to keep

sarahann - 77 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) There will be lots of people on this site with very strong, different opinions. No one is right, and no one is wrong. You really have to do what is best for you and your baby. It is very hard to give you advice as to what is best for you and your baby when we don't know your circumstances. Things you need to consider are: Are you still with the baby's father? If he knows, what support can he provide, both financially and emotionally/physically? Is he happy about it? Would you be able to support yourself and your baby financially? What plans do you have for your future? Do you have the support of your family, financially and emotionally? How do you feel about abortion and adoption? Could you live with and accept your decision if you went ahead with an abortion or adoption? You really shouldn't rush into any decision if you are uncertain. Please try and find someone trusted who you can talk to about this. Ultimately think of this... Can you give your baby all the love he/she needs? Good luck with your decision, I'm sure you will do what's right for you and your baby. Only you can make that decision. Take care.

JennSever - 77 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) oh honey i am sorry your in this position. i got preg at 18, didn't tell a soul and terminated immediately. can't say i would do that over again as i have grown so much BUT you have to do what you can live with. abortion is permanent. going through a preg and then giving the baby to a good couple is a hard, selfless choice. going thru the preg yourself & keeping the baby is also a very hard choice. sit down and write the pro's and con's to each choice - entrust your fears and concerns to a valued friend, who can help you through whatever decision you choose. at 17, i would say that having a baby would set you back just a bit and it might take you yrs to catch up - however, it's still doable. my heart is telling me that you should give a loving couple a chance to raise a beautiful child. good luck sweetheart..