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Added: 75 days ago.
Added by: jodiie
Section: General.
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me and my partner keep having arguments we sorted everything out lastnight but today we was arguing again we dont normally but he keeps locking me out not taking an intrerst in me being pregnant( he does care for the baby though) and i told him he needs to grow up and he said im the one who needs to grow up ( im the one looking at cots and bottles and everything) he still sleeps allday i hardly see him or anything thesedays and he plays his game).. other things was said and i walked out my house sobbing my heart out my mum was lookingf or me and everything when i came home i went on the online game he plays on and he was still on i told him my mum had had enough of seeing me upset and wants to speak to his mum about how he keeps having me in floods of tears because hes not supporting me and everything he said that i was blaming it all on him and everything i love him so much!! and i cant do this without him but now hes said he dont want to speak to me again unless its about the baby he said im getting upset cuz im accusing him of stuff he hasnt done ( even though it looks like he was doing that stuff) and he sed hes had enough of it.. im crying that much i cant breath and i know it can cause harm to the baby i need him to get through this we never usually argue but now were really split up and i cant handle it anymore i cant ..

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christina1984 - 74 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) maybe u guys could sit down and talk calmly and tell him u will try ur best to work things out and all u ask is that he care a bit more about the pregnancy. also tell him u dont need this stress right now. everything u feel ur baby feels. ur heartrate goes up and ur baby gets scared. but tell him u would like to work things out in a way that makes both of u happy. when he sees that u are willing to do that and that u r taking in interest in how he feels about everything then he will be more likely to want to twork things out. good luck and hope things get better. i was there with my 1st pregnancy, the guy was a jerk and was very abusive both mentally and physically. he even threw me out pregnant and then wanted me back (of course i went back) then he actually caused my daughter to be born when she was. he is gone now. but i had alot of stress in that pregnancy and its not good

jodiie - 74 days ago bonnieheather im a runescape widow lol to top it all off i had a fall this morning and got rushed to hospital A&E babys heartbeat was ok but my BP is low they wanted to keep me in on a drip but i really didnt want to so they let me come home on tablets and bedrest..AGAIN

kathleen - 74 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i think most men do this, they don't no how to handle a pregnant women's hormones and the fact they have to become more responsible. my partner did this with both of my pregnancies he just become a slob and all we did was row then he would go out all night and not return till morning. with my last pregnancy we had a row he went out and came home 5.30am I went into labour the next day. I'm not saying the row brought it on as she was born on her due date. men are just pigs when it comes to women's feelings that will never change

bonnieheather - 74 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) are you a world or warcraft widow by chance? sounds like your expecting more from him that he knows what to do.. he prob does have a huge interest in you and the baby but just cant show it in the way that you want him to and as a result you are taking it as he doesnt care.. he sounds like hes being a bit of a dick tho playing his computer and ignoring you.. i would give it a few days then call him and meet up away from his house, out somewhere in public (so you cant argue) and just tell him how you feel then give him a chance to let him talk without interupting. dont criticise him but just tell him how you feel. and see where you go from there.. being pregnant plays tricks on yor mind it can make you really insecure tell him that. if hes anywhere near being a man he wll understand..xxx hope you are okxx

Baby3OnWay - 75 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think all men go through a stage like this. I haven't been througha single pregnany with my man, this is #3 where he wasn't childish and me ending in tears... hes walked out on me in the beginning of all of them and this one he was gone for 2 weeks. Sometimes we get moddier then normal and accuse and saythings that hurt them and make them want to leave. They don't understand us and what we go through or the hormonal ups and downs... hang in there girl!

jodiie - 75 days ago everyone says their partner / ex stayed in untill 1-2 pm mine stays in bed until like 5-7 sometimes if hes been up alll night until the morning i dont speak to him at all for a whole day.. im going in for my 20 week scan on wednesdaya nd i dont know weather i should say to him i want him there.. or to just call him after and tell him everything that went on it was like he broke my heart when he said he wanted nothing to do with me but he wants to b involved with the baby i know ill be 1 million times more upset after i see him ( if he comes to the scan ) but i feel kinda guilty if he doesnt.. because its our last scan

jodiie - 75 days ago everyone says their partner / ex stayed in untill 1-2 pm mine stays in bed until like 5-7 sometimes if hes been up alll night until the morning i dont speak to him at all for a whole day.. im going in for my 20 week scan on wednesdaya nd i dont know weather i should say to him i want him there.. or to just call him after and tell him everything that went on it was like he broke my heart when he said he wanted nothing to do with me but he wants to b involved with the baby i know ill be 1 million times more upset after i see him ( if he comes to the scan ) but i feel kinda guilty if he doesnt.. because its our last scan

jaydsmom - 75 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Your partner needs to realize that you and the baby come before playing online games. My EX (notice the word) husband was exactly the same. He played stupid online games all night and slept half the day away. Told me I needed to calm down. I was a hormone milkshake (his words really). We even went to councelling where he swore to the councellor he was just "getting it out of his system" before the baby came. Well... my daughter was 4 years old and it never changed. I got up with her every night when she was a baby because he was too tired. He slept in until 1-2 pm every day. I resented him more as every day went by until I couldn't handle it anymore. He never grew up. He wanted the perfect wife and perfect daughter but with no responsiblity to us. So, I left. I was the hardest decision I ever made. My only regret is that I waited until she was 4. I should have left while I was pregnant. It would have saved a lot of heartache. She is now almost 7, and he pays child support faithfully, and other than that has nothing to do with her. I have an absolutely amazing partner now and I am 15 weeks with our baby, and wow is it different. He takes such an interest in us. He rubs my back and feet and cooks and cleans (well sometimes cleans). I guess what I am saying is you need to take a very very hard look at where your life is going with your partner and tell yourself honestly if you can live like this for the rest of your life. I am here to talk if you need it....

mamis1st - 75 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hey New Mommy... First things first...I went through a similar situation when I got pregnant. My boyfriend was VERY immature, he stayed on his stupid XBOX or slept until 1 in the afternoon, he made NO effort to help me plan for the baby, he quit both of his jobs and IIIII was the one left in tears every night. We got into a number of arguments where he always blamed me, and I just got to the point where I couldn't take it anymore...He had never been in a serious relationship before and he was still learning how to be a man in life! But anyway...I realized that I didn't need anything else in this world but my little one; and that helped me get through a whoooole lot!! Yes there were tears, but You have to realize that there are a million happy moments to come! Once you see your baby's face you'll forget all about the drama......... In the end, once my boyfriend saw his son and held him in his arms for the first time he knew he had to grow up. His WHOLE mentality changed, and he only wanted to live life for his wife and his son! We've never been happier! Boys just take a while to grow up babe...you have to keep your head up for you and the little one!! Things will turn around eventually...I know it's hard to hear it but IT WILL!!! You have a great support system in your mom and feel free to hit me whenever you need to!! *Shantel*

KarenVG - 75 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) He needs to realise your emotions are out of wack because your pregnant. Maybe take a break for a while, but tell him you are not blaming him but want to feel supported. You need to get this figured out before the baby comes, otherwise the baby will not be in a good environment. try not to make it a war of words. Maybe tell him you are sorry for being so upset, just you are worried about the baby and your future... The let him be for a while. it sounds like you both need to cool off for a bit. saying sorry can go a long way even when you feel you are right. If you want things to work it has to be give and take and sometimes you only get give back if you just give and give for a while. It seems unfair but you should always be giving whether you get it in return if you love them, but just know when it is time to quit. Men are not into the pressure of doing what they are told, and feel uncomfortable when being whined or moaned at so they shut down hoping you will stop. So take a break when things are cool say you need to talk but try not to argue or you will get nowhere.