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selfish or hormonal??
Added: 1367 days ago.
Added by: christina1984
Section: General.
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ok im starting to get really upset about my fiances camping trip. he is going 9 hrs away for about a week or so. when he goes i will be in like my 9th month. i will be all by myself (well with my 3 yr old) at home while he is far away having fun. its not that i dont want him to have fun but what if i go into labor? and my family isnt close and i will have my 3 yr old. i was fine with it but now i have this strong feeling that i will have the baby then. he says i am being selfish. at 9 months it isnt gonna be easy to chase after a 3 yr old anyway. i dont want to be alone at that stage of my pregnancy. how should i handle this? he wont reschedule or anything.

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LGK616 - 1363 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I agree with all the previous ladies - there is nothing selfish about you not wanting him to go that far away, for that long in your 9th month!! What a tool! And I also agree with KarenVG!! Why isn't he taking the 3-year old with him??? Dig your heels in hun - ask him to kindly reschedule or move the location.

Baby3OnWay - 1365 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would be pissed needless to say and would demand and stomp my feet like a 14 year old wanting to stay out later at night HAHA thats just me though. My hubby I think knows at this point not to be a dink like that. I don't think you are being selfish you are being reasonable FOR SURE 9 months and home withanother is hard, and who would take you to the hospital or watch your son if you did have to go? I would be putting up the biggest stink in the world right now thats for damn sure!

Kaylaaa - 1366 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) Show him all the comments in response to this question!! Then he will see it isn't just YOU who feels that way and you are not out of line. He should probably have arranged his trip a little earlier

mayasmom - 1366 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If you are certain he won't reschedule, then all you can do is accept his very bad behavior. It would cause me to re think our entire relationship, frankly, and I would tell him that. "I can't make you do or not do anything, but please understand that I will not likely forget feeling so totally let down by you for a long time, if ever"...Seems a steep price to pay to get away with friends. Yikes. My baby was born at 32 weeks, by the way, so they really can come at any time. Good luck!

skittles0607 - 1366 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Men dont understand anything.. I would keep stressing the point that you wont have anyone there if you go into labor.. Tell him that he is the one being selfish because really he is.. he is just worried about getting away and isnt realizing how hard it is on you to stay home wondering if the next day you will be in labor and also chasing after a 3 year old.. Good Luck!

KarenVG - 1366 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Well men can be stubborn pigs and sometimes we have to be a little stubborn back without them realising. 9 hours away is excessive! Sounds like he is young and immature, most grow up once they see the baby so there is hope but maybe not much before then. Ask why he is not taking the 3 year old, what an adventure and eye opener for your fiance that would be! I would say he has to take the three year old or be closer. Incase he refuses have you someone you know who can watch the three year old for you at all? I would hope he comes to his senses but I wouldn't count on it! Sounds like he needs a reality check. Maybe you know someone due a little earlier than you? They could come over and maybe say to him he is an idiot if he is going that far away. I would agree with Bonnieheather and start making things a little difficult. play the pregnancy card! He really cannot say you are putting it on maybe he needs to see you are getting helpless! HA! just start now and add gradually to it... I hope you can figure it out. Compromise is best. Good luck

bonnieheather - 1366 days ago Rating: 4 (1 votes) hmmm.. if he wants to play that game let him.. takes two.. from now on you are too pregnant to make him dinner, clean his clothes, clean the house( within reason) i would really lay it on thick with him, DONT give him a hard time about the trip, but generally 'struggle' round the house ( be a little pathetic if you have to) .. men can be so selfish sometimes. hopefully he will see that as you get bigger you need him, and if this is what its like now.. you will need him more around the time he is due to go his trip.. enen say to him, "i would have loved you to go this trip but i really need you and im really scared" and if that doesnt work.. we will all help you to busy his ass in the garden

jessicadarling - 1367 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) my boyfriend was selfish the entire pregnancy but even he made sure that near the end he was constantly around and always reachable on the cell phone when he was at work and so on. Your fiance is being the selfish one! What happens if you go into labour? He should really reconsider

Its-Chelle - 1367 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) he is the selfish one..my husband made sure he was close by if he wanted to go somewhere, like fishing..he knew he needed to be there if it was time cause you have no way of knowing what day youre going into labor..not sure how to tell you handle it..he needs to be there..

MelissaJoanne - 1367 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) It is not at all selfish to consider what is best for your unborn baby, your three year old, and yourself as a pregnant woman. He is being selfish. I'd be pissed! He needs to put you and your children first, and realize that leaving for a week in your ninth month of pregnancy is a ridiculous idea.

katznkt - 1367 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) God, I cant believe he would do that!!! I wouldnt let my husband take a trip when I was 8 months along, and he would have been only 2 hours away. Since it is your second child, not only are you more likely to go early, but also have a much shorter labor- he might not even have time to drive back in time for the birth, never mind supporting you while you labor, or taking care of your child!! And I dont know how he thinks you are going to be able to take care of your kid by yourself at that point. I babysat a 3 year old 9 months pregnant, and it exhausted me, and I barely survived, and that was for a couple of hours not a week. Have a serious talk with him and if he really cares about you, and is a good guy, he will understand your fears and try to work something out with you.

Mindieswan - 1367 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If anyone is being selfish, it's him. I agree with Jaydsmom... that is very selfish of him, I would be pissed

jaydsmom - 1367 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would tell him that if he goes, that is fine, but if you go into labour and he is not there, you won't even bother letting him know. He will figure it out when he gets back from his trip and all his stuff is on the front doorstep. That is very selfish of him. If you were 8 months ok, but anytime after 38 weeks no way!!

liz82 - 1367 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i dont think your being selfish at all you have every right to be concerned . he needs to understand that you need him there for you mainly at that time i was worried about the same thing when i had my last and my husband didnt understand one bit he was like we need money ok i understand that but i didnt want to go into labor with 5 kids all by my self . i hope it all works out for you .

juliealisesmommy - 1367 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) lol i cant stand when men do that!!!! he better be glad im not his wife cuz he would get 2 ears full!!! u r not being selffish, HE is being selffish. tell him that if he takes the chance and leaves and you go into labor and he isnt there, that he better have his shit packed and ready to leave when he gets to the hospital. ( thats what i would do but im dramatic)lol fight the best u can and see what happends.

Julianna - 1367 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) what actual week will you be in when he leaves town? I don't think it is selfish at all. you are being practical

monica9 - 1367 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i dont think you are being selfish. He should be able to go away and have fun, but at 9 months and 9 hours away? what was he thinking? See if he can go for only 1/2 the week or if they can reschedule the trip for a few months from now and family can stay with you. or see if he can make the trip closer to your home. good luck