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baby shower invitees
Added: 120 days ago.
Added by: windchime
Section: General.
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I`m trying to decide if I should invite my MIL to my baby shower (first baby, first grandchild for her). She lives 2 hrs away and doesn`t drive long distances (she`s older). There are a few family friends I could invite too, and my MIL could ride with them, but I don`t want them to feel obligated to come or to buy a gift. But I don`t want to hurt my MIL`s feelings by not inviting her. What do you think I should do?

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gr8scottswife - 119 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Invite her.

mandak - 119 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i would just send her an invite. my mil lives 6+ hours away and i still sent her an invite for her keepsake. she was happy to get one and she sent the gift in the mail.

summerisis - 119 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I recommend inviting your mother-in-law and not worrying about her transportation needs. If she is unable to attend, she will at least feel loved and included by being invited and she'll have the invitation as a keepsake. My mother-in-law has duplicates of my daughter's birth announcements and thank you cards. I also recommend only inviting family friends if you want them to share the day with you, not for the purpose of providing a ride for your MIL. Don't take on any "worries" that you don't need to. Just invite the people to your shower that you would like to have there and everything else should fall into place. (Or maybe I'm full of crap. Who knows!) lol

msmillsap08 - 119 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would think she would want to be there if at all possible. She might feel upset were u not to invite her,then if she decides not to come that is totally up to her, at least she cant say she wasnt invited.

littlecavalier - 119 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Definitely invite her. I understand not inviting relatives that live too far away to drive as my Mom always told me that that is just like asking for a gift since you know they can't attend. This isn't like that at all though as she is the grandmother of the baby, it's her first grandchild and I bet that she'll be there with bells on! You should call her also and see who she would like you to invite that she could come with, family or maybe even friends of hers. My husbands Grandma (baby's great-grandma) was so excited that she invited all of her friends, of course it was at her house. My point being that Grandma's eat these things up and I bet that she wouldn't miss it for the world. You can also have your husband call her if you're really worried and explain that you won't be upset or hurt if she can't make the trip.

moms the word - 119 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think it would hurt her feelings if you didn't invite her. Maybe another family member could go and pick her up to bring her along. If she isn't feeling up to it, then let her know you understand and offer to come to her instead like mariettap suggests.

Holly28 - 119 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I invited mine and she. Of course she wants to be invited this is her first grandchild. Mine took a 2.5hr ferry ride and 2 hrs of driving just to come.

mariettap - 119 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) Sure, invite her. This means a lot to her too. But follow up with a phone call and let her know you wanted to extend a welcome but not wear her out. You could convince her of this by asking her if you and your spouse could take her out to lunch some time soon to celebrate more personally. Then she won't feel obligated to come, but she'll know that her role in all of this is important to you.

agonzales - 120 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Oh ya of course invite her. It would make her feel bad if you didnt. I would think someone would offer to take her along. But let her decide on asking them.

lizzie287 - 120 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would invite her and let her make the decison whether or not she wants to make the trip. I'm sure she'd be more hurt if she wasn't invited.