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His MIL is a HORRIBLE mother, should I let her visit?
Added: 113 days ago.
Added by: kris10
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


My MIL has always been a terrible mother to my fiancee. It is always her way or no way and I do not want her visiting hospital since I am having a c section. She won`t respect us when it comes to our private time. Should I tell her anyway?

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Spike - 112 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i am in a very similar predicament. i wouldnt say anything to her until you know how your husband will react (if he doesnt care what is said then go fo you life!) i have never taken my son to see my husbands mother, and i never erver will. but i have told her if she can be bothered coming to see us that is fine (but i know she wont). If you are still worried about her disrespecting you in hospital, tell the midwives first so that they can come in and tell her to leave after 10 minets or so..... it worked for me......but it does depend on your hospitals policies and such too. in the end its your special day and no one else should be able to ruin it for you! best of luck

moms the word - 112 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Your body, your baby, your choice!! The hospital where I am delivering(also most probably by c-section) is like a bank vault. You cannot accesss any patient rooms in the L and D ward without consent from the patient and only during visiting hours. All the rooms are inacessable without a security clearance card which only hospital personnel carry. I was also told I could leave a list at the reception area to determine who I do and don't want coming in to see me. I think you should tell her bluntly. Don't try to sugar coat it or save her feelings. Would she be so kind to you if it were her? Exactly why I say stick up for yourself and put your foot down. You'll thank yourself later when you have those precious memories of just you and you partner having that crucial bonding time with your newborn. She can come to your house to visit on your terms on your turf. Good luck I have a similar MIL and I know what you are in for.

jessicanewmom2be - 112 days ago Rating: 1 (1 votes) tell her its best if u do that way she can learn her ground shes prolly haveing trouble accepting the fact she is losing her son trust me its normal and trust me u want to talk to her alone if u dont it could ruin ur relationship speaking from experience just tell her in the nicest way possible ...and always rember this is ur baby not hers.....dont let her control that and take that away from u she needs to respect ur wishes

summerisis - 113 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hi Kris! I was really worried about family being at the hospital too. My hubby wanted everyone to fly in and wait for me to deliver (before we knew it would be a c-section). I was afraid that I'd end up with a c-section and they'd all hold Sierra before I got a chance to. My family is wonderful but I didn't want the added pressure of having them there. I didn't want my husband to be torn between devoting his time to me and keeping family "in the loop." They live 3,000 miles away and didn't even want to come so it all worked out for me but here's what I've learned after doing way too much research on the subject of labor and delivery, and guests. 1) It's YOUR decision -- not hers and not your fiance's. This is your day if there's ever been a day in your life that you own. It should be what you want and you should be surrounded by the people that you love and trust and feel safe and comfortable with. 2) You have the opportunity to be completely selfless and give her this gift but you have to want to give it... and you might just surprise yourself. When Baby is here you might just wish that the whole world could fit into the room to see her. I hope that helps. Sheesh... 3 days left is it? WOW! ;)

Julianna - 113 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Yes. Tell her that you will let her know when you are feeling up to visitors and that you have instructed the nursing staff not to let anyone (her) in. Althought this might be the better time for her to visit since she won't be in the way at home....even though you believe she was a bad mom, it doesn't mean she doesn't love him or this grandchild. Give her a "visiting time" window and advise her that you'd appreciate some privacy