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Added: 107 days ago.
Added by: amygirl22
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


Where I live is terrible. Drugs being sold in front of my apartment, fighting, constant loud music, etc... I want to go stay with my mom til we can find another place. I dont want my baby here. This is my first child & I dont want to take the chance of someone fighting & they start shooting guns or anything like that. BUT my boyfriend of 5+ years wont move. He tells me if I want to go, to go alone. I dont know what to do. It got bad today. I gave him back his ring and everything. What would you do? Any advice?

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08*c0nception- - 106 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Thats harsh on his part..sounds like a very prideful man..he needs to put himself aside and put u and ur child first..and u make a stance and not back down since it is in the best interest of ur child..i too had sort of the same problem..i hate this neighborhood its horrible, but the difference is he wanted to move where ever and also that he felt like we should stay in this neighborhood until a little after the baby was born and i WAS NOT having that..i put my foot down ..first he finally saw it my way in that he was willing to move to an area of my liking but he was still bent on not being able to move until the baby was born and i still wasnt having it since we could afford to move out in a few months..after a lot of bickering and me going to my parents house and him seeing how serious i was (he even cried when i packed up my stuff) he finally backed down...he now knows that i will put our child before our own relationship and will NOT deal with anything less than what my child deserves...so if he truly loves you he'll eventually back down

kater - 106 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) when you become a parent, you have a responsibility to ensure the safety of you child. if you are realizing this isnt the best place to have a baby, it means your mothering instincts are kicking in, and you are ready to change your own life to suit your baby. your partner doesnt seem to have reached the same point. you need to explain that as parents you dont have the luxury of making decisions which will affect your baby in a bad way. if he wont listen, you need to move anyway. if anything DID happen, how would you feel if you stayed for his sake? the safety of you child is more important than ANYTHING else.

armybratonboard - 106 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Do what you feel is right for YOUR CHILD AND YOU,your as i call it mama bear syndrome is kicking in and that is your first priority to protect your child. good luck and do the right thing.GOOD LUCK

kimmarie - 107 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Listen to your conscience.....if he is willing to just let you go perhaps he is not the one you were meant to be with. It is up to you to protect your child. Take care and God bless...

professorpreggers - 107 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Those are your motherly and protective instincts coming into play and you should listen to them. If you are able to get out of that neighborhood then do so immediately. Tell your BF that as parents it's your responsibility to put the safety and comfort of your little one ahead of your own needs and wants and even if he's not comfortable with leaving the neighborhood (which many people have trouble with, especially if they have lived there a long time)it's something that has to be done for your safety and the baby’s. He’s really showing you his lack of maturity by refusing to leave and if he doesn’t want to come with you, then as painful as it is, you must go on your own. This is a really wise and adult realization you are coming to and you should be proud of yourself—you are going to be a good mom.

dawnispregz - 107 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Babes!!! Soooo sorry to hear that you are going through the ringer. You are right to want to leave that neighbourhood, it seems that you have become motherly already and decided that the situation is not good for a baby, so let him take his ring back, and if he loves you in the way that he should and understands why you want to move then he'll understand why you are moving. Please do not stay at all - my friend is in a shitty relationship now and she daren't leave now and has a 7 month baby. It'll be easier for you to leave now whilst pregnant then later down the line when the little one has made an appearance. There has to be a damn good reason why he wont move???? Not that i cant think of any, friends family in the same area can travel and see him and the baby, work - people commute everyday. The only thing that i can think of as to why he would stay is because he has been brought into a life of drugs/shooting?? I dont want to speculate because i dont know him but thats the only thing that i can think of. I hope you get it sorted babes,and you and the baby at least move to a better place x x x

carmendayle - 107 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) This is a shitty situation hun and I'm sorry to hear your going through it. Why won't he move? Is this the lifestyle he lives? I hope not for your sake and the baby's b/c I have been in that lifestyle and it's really hard to walk away from. I it's a hard decision but I agree with the other lady's, you should tell him how you feel and leave. If he loves you, he'll fallow, and do whats best. IF not why would you want to stay with him anyway??? I know it hurts and I wish there was something out there to make it easier for you and other lady's in a smiliar situation, but you've gotta do what's best for you and the baby right now...Good luck and if you need to talk please let me know....

jaydsmom - 107 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Tell him you love him, you want to be together as a family, and then pack your stuff and go. It is not fair of him to put your baby in that position. Right now the ball is in your court, so leave. Then it will be in his and he can decide.

JennSever - 107 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) go alone - he is not your trouble right now. you have a respon. to take care of that baby...its sad that he is like that, but you must take care of yourself and that baby first. i would leave and not look back. period. sorry to be so blunt as i know that this is very hurtful for you - but look at it from a non-vested person. if your bff were to tell you this story, wouldn't you tell her to take care of yourself and her needs over that of a selfish boyfriend? what could it hurt to move back with mom for just a little while. might be pleasant and you could surely use the help. good luck honey

becky-135 - 107 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) just like everyone else said, the most important thing is your babies saftey. if that isn't your boyfriend's first priority, there might be a problem.

Mindieswan - 107 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Leave, don't be selfish and stay. Go with your gut. Take care of you and the little one first. He is the one being selfish...one of you has to be smart and do what is right. You have a nice place to stay, so why not go.

heaven - 107 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Leave. your babys safety is way more important than pleasing your boyfriend. i'm going thru the same thing. if you go he will know you are serious and arent willing to compromise your babys safety

moms the word - 107 days ago Rating: 5 (1 votes) Sit down with him, talk to him. Help him understand why you are feeling this way. Let him know that you aren't accusing him of being a bad provider by having this be the place he is paying for the two of you to live in. Just ask him to please understand why you are concerned and offer to help him find a place that is more suitable. Tell him how much you love him and that you want his child to live in a safer place.