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How to nicely tell someone off
Added: 68 days ago.
Added by: jaydsmom
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


I am 22 weeks, have gained 12 lbs (average my doctor tells me). My bump is pretty big. I am 5`6 and now weigh 146lbs. I have been told twice now that its weird to see me so `fat`. Yes, they used the word fat. One lady said `wow its weird to see you as a full figured woman. I`m not used to you having a fat face` and the other said `people that don`t know you will just assume you are a fat girl`. How do I tell them nicely to f-off and the last thing I need is someone telling me I`m fat?

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kater - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) oh i know exactly what you mean. i have had so many rude comments during this pregnancy, i know people dont mean to be hurtful, but they are all the same. i saw my mum for the fisrt time in about 3 months, and she said to me 'oh wow, you have gotten big....all over' i was like 'gee mum, that makes me feel really good' she was really embarrassed, but hey, she needed to know she had hurt my feelings and anyway, surely people know that personal comments-especially unkind ones, are really rude?

karenc - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) honestly, it is totally appropriate for you to say "oh my, that's terribly rude of you to say." and then smile and move on. people can be just incredibly dumb. :-)

harpchick - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) People are so stupid, aren't they? Naturally they don't mean to be cruel, it's just stupidity. As for comebacks, I would mentally be saying, "Wow, it's weird to see you making an ass of yourself. I'm not used to you spouting idiocy." And to the other one, "People that don't know you would just assume you were nice." But of course we can't say that and get away with it. I would put on a look of 'deep concern', put a reassuring hand on their shoulder, and gently say, "What trauma did you have as a child that you don't understand what being pregnant looks like?" and wait for their answer while looking worried for them. I guarantee they'll squirm with embarrassment.

Spike - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) tell them your pregnant if that doesnt shut them up then tell them they could use a few days at the gym themselves! im a big woman and i was fat before i got pregnant, im going to end up massive again. and i did get so sick of ppl putting me down for it, ppl are cruel so i sugest not trying to be nice about it ^_^

mellowyellow - 67 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Laugh maniacally and tell them, I can lose weight but you cant lose your ugliness....

navyprincess0001 - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Cut them off, until you feel like being bothered with them again. I great at doing that. You can't change people so telling them off probably won't help, and you don't want to get yourself all worked up. When they wonder why haven't they heard from you in a week, you simply state, I'm pregnant and just have so much to do. Trust me people will learn sooner or later.

mariettap - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was beginning to worry a little about an upcoming visit with a family member who is notorious for his rude comments. You've strengthened me with your question. Some people treat pregnant people like shit. In the past, I have worried that if I'm rude back, they'll comment about how my hormones were out of control when I was pregnant. But a reminder to both of us (and ALL of THEM): Our hormones are no excuse for their bad behavior. Worth a try: "Do you have something useful to say to me? No? Then don't talk to me. I'm working too hard to put up with your distractions." And if they pull the hormone card, might as well say what I said above about their bad behavior. Or, remind them, "No, when the pregnancy is over, you can continue to stuff your comments, b/c I'll be working hard then too."

thunders79 - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) So bloody rude! I would say something for sure. I am 20 weeks pregnant and have gained a stone already. I feel fat and frumpy but have decided not to let it get me down. I will be slim again and will worry about my weight afterwards. Its not worth ruining your pregnancy over. Don't stress. Just enjoy it. x

Its-Chelle - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) oh that would piss me off! i wouldnt tolerate that.i would tell them the correct term is being pregnant!and that youre not concerned with what anyone else thinks.my mom made the same comment to me about how i looked fat instead of pregnant.and there were times my belly did look that way, but its not a nice thing to hear.you just need to let people know that its a natural beautiful thing for your body to change and that your concern is your baby,and if someone cant say anything positive to keep their thoughts to themselves.so sorry people are rude to you

EniChan - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) how rude! let her know that no woman likes to hear it and if u told her that she was "fat" she wouldnt like it either. i guess most pregnant women are already concerned about it and we really dont need a stupid comment like that. Why try to tell her that in a nice way? shes been rude to u and she shouldnt expect u to smile about that. i wouldn´t hold back and give her a piece of mind.

professorpreggers - 68 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) umm, I'm not sure if people that rude and tactless will understand "nice." Frankly, If somebody is referring to a pregnant woman as fat, they need to be told to shut the f*&% up: say it very clearly, use little words so they understand you:) My mother in law is like this and "nice" does not translate into her vocabulary--I've learned to be really rude and abrupt when she says stupid things like, "oh my God your huge" bluntness sends a better message. On a side note, I've also decided that pregnancy is the one time in my life where I have permission to be rude and speak my mind to people. I can always blame it on the hormones later. In fact, I elbowed a senior citizen in the ribs the other day. (don’t worry she wasn’t that old) I was waiting in a restaurant--28 weeks pregnant, as big as a house, swollen, sweaty, nauseous and starving to death--this woman wants my seat, so she literally sits down on top of me so that she's pressed up against my thigh, pretty much sitting on my lap. I was so shocked and pissed off at her rudeness and presumptiveness, that before I knew what I was doing, I jabbed her in the ribs. That got her attention--she's like, "oh, excuse me," and moved. Ahhh, pregnancy, it's almost a relief to be able to be rude once in a while instead of having to be nice all the time:)