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i need advice with my relationship
Added: 94 days ago.
Added by: jessieeka
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


me and alex have been together for 1 year and a half and i wasnt a virgin when i got with him and i didnt feel like it was any of his business if i told him... and as our relationship grew i didnt want to hurt him so i when he asked about someone i told him no... i evently told him the truth... was i in the wrong. and about a year ago he worked out of town alot and i always stayed home and one day i decided to go spend the day with my sister and a guy i had relaions with in the past came over and now today (a year later) he thinks i cheated on him.. i tried to tell him i didnt... what should i do i cant take the stress from this

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jessieeka - 93 days ago he knew i wasn't a virgin when we were talking before we started dating... i never told him i wasnt... but things have kinda calmed down... thanks for everyones advice

agonzales - 94 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Who you slept with in the past might not be his business but you being a virgin or not is.. especially if you're sleeping together. But I also think communication is very important and being honest in the beginning is the right thing to do. Once you lie its not that easy for him to trust you. Especially when you lie about the littlest things. You two should sit down let him know and convince him that you are being faithful. Good luck and I hope things go well for you two. =)

Spike - 94 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) whatever you did before him is in my opinion none of his busines!! i have found that if you tell them who ever it was you were with before, if ever you se that guy again they will allways asume you slept with them again... guys are just realy strange.... but id let him know that you are faithfull and if he cant take your word for it and trust you then your relationship is probley doomed anyway. There is nothing worse than being in a relationship with someone who doesnt trust you and questions your every move.

reila - 94 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Trying to hide you weren't a virgin perhaps wasn't a great idea, though I understand why you did it, it shouldn't be something you should feel ashamed about. You possibly might regret having sex relations with someone because of the way the relationship ended and that's normal. But what's done is done, you know? I mean I'm not saying you should openly volunteer the information, but its different when he asks you. I know you were scared to hurt him, but imagine the hurt when he did eventually found out. He's probably confused, hurt because you lied and not knowing if he can trust what you say anymore. Because he's afraid that you might come out later and tell him that was a lie too. Believe me I've been in both you and his position. I think the best thing you should do is have a talk with him. You need to tell him the reason you hid the fact you were not a virgin was because you were afraid of hurting him and that you understand even a small lie can be quite damaging and hurtful and you never want to do that again. I think another thing you need to know is if he did get extremely upset because of something you did in the past (like losing your virginity) that happened before you even started dating him then he's the one with the problem and not you. And if he didn't want to know the truth then he should of never asked. And like the other person said below me, if he can't let it go then perhaps you need to re-evaluate this relationship. If he can't trust you, then he can't honestly love you as well. Same as if you can't trust that person then you cannot honestly love them. Someone wise told me that and its very true. Well, I wish you the best of luck!

wilsonwilson - 94 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hi, I would like to say it is important to communicate with your partner. It sounds though there is no trust on his part. You are right to not want to have told him but then you did lie to him about it, so that could be the reason why he is questioning it now. Sit down and talk about and if he can't let it go maybe you need to let him go. Honestly sit down and chat about it maybe you can talk it out and then lay it to rest. I wish you good luck with that and hope I have helped