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professorpreggers - 1319 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Your SIL is not the brightest then. I worked in daycare for years--alternating years between classes of two year olds and three year olds (12 in each) and the most effective way to teach a child not to do something is to say "the stove is very hot, it will burn you," rather than just a loud NO. Follow up with the what they can and should do which is the positive or the opposite of the negative behavior such as "cats like it when you stroke them gently" rather than "don't squeeze the cat." It really does work and you're totally right to be educating your child this way. I suppose judging the way we raise our children is like every other bit of unsolicited advice people think they are in the position to give pregnant women and moms. They ought to be told to blow it up their you know where.....:)

Its-Chelle - 1319 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i would tell her when she has kids she can raise them how she wants, and until then she has no business commenting on how you do your job as a parent!

jeanette - 1319 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I know what you're talking about. People tell me all of the time that I'm spoiling my 4 month old, but he never cries or complains, has never woken up screaming in the middle of the night, and is perpetually pleasent. I know that I'm doing the right thing for him, and that my parenting is working. When someone says that it's not, it doesn't even phase me, because I'm 100% confident that my son will benifit from the love and attention that I give him. I've read the books, and done the research, and I'M the expert on my son. No one will ever know him better than me, so other people's negetivity (though sometimes well meaning) is not even a blip on my radar. In your case i'd say, "Well sil, research has demostrated that this method works, but everyone is different. If it doesn't work for my baby after a consistant trial, then I'll concider you're method. Whatever method I choose, consistancy is the most important thing. You'll understand that when you become a parent."

dawnispregz - 1319 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Just say to her that you have been reading up on teaching and disobedience and its better to say 'that will hurt you etc' instead of 'no' - jsut so they dont rebel and lets them think about the consequences. Also i dont want to be rude, but you dont have children and i dont appreciate you giving me advice expecially when i havent asked for it. x x x

patience21 - 1320 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I have never heard of not telling your child "no" thats kinda smart then that wont be there favorite word when they are two. hmm. good-thinkin! Anyways as for your Q. I dunno what to say i cant stand when people tell me how to raise my child either, id say just smile and say thanks for your advise, when in your mind you are thinkg BS.. kill with kindness.

Spike - 1320 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) yeh my famiily likes to meddle too, nans the worst with the whole well when my kids were younger..... i agree whith saying more than just no, i could say it my son till im blue in the face and it does nothing, but if i ask him to come and look at this or tell him that whatever hes trying to get(like the cat) will hurt him he at least thinks twice about it, then trys to do it anyway! i tried to be nioce to them at first and just ignored their comments but as time got on it got more and more unexeptable, so i told nan that if she could do a better job than me then she could watch him for a hour so i could shop, and he destroyed her house (wich i though was realy funny) since then no one realy comments anymore... well at least not to me anymore anyway

reila - 1320 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I don't think she has a right to judge your parenting skills especially if its not harming the child. She doesn't have children, which means she probably has little to no experience. I think you do need to inform her privately and politely that in the future you prefer her to keep all comments on your parenting skills to herself especially right in front of your child. She has no right to tell you her opinion when it wasn't asked for.