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What should I do?
Added: 60 days ago.
Added by: danahlovesdoug
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


Im 26wks now and up untill my last Dr apt I liked my Dr. But latley he has been making snyde remarks about `I don`t know whats best`....excuse me? This is my 3rd pregnancy and I want a complete natural birth and I just don`t think he`ll respect anything I want to do. I looked into getting a midwife so I could just have a homebirth but no one will travel let alone see me this far into my pregnancy. Then I saw a web site about unassisted births, my husband is all for it and so am I but I`ll have to fight for a birth certificate. So I was thinking of doing it at home and then calling the hospital and tell them I `couldn`t` make it... What do you think?

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Baby3onWay - 59 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I wouldn't risk it hun... I say just stick to your Dr cause there's nothing he can or cannot make you do or not do... (does that make sence?lol) Once your in labor you'll be so focused on your child that you wont care about anyone else but your family!

2b - 59 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You need a professional someone there to assist you and your husband. Not to mention your other children shouldn't see something traumatic and unexplained happen. Please be careful.

aulrobbri - 59 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Go for the homebirth if you want but I have never seen a doc get to the hospital in time to do much of anything but catch the baby so just go and tell the nurses no pain meds

Debra - 60 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i was low risk during my pregnancy and had a midwife, but still felt it was safer to have a hospital assisted birth. Depending on how far you live from the hospital, the travel time might be dangerous if something goes wrong. My baby ended up being breech and we didn't find out until I was 10 cm dilated and ready to push. THen my midwife broke my water and meconium came pouring out. Baby's heartrate was fine, but if I had tried to continue with a breech delivery, there would have been a high likelihood baby would breathe in the meconium on the way out. I opted for an emergency c/s. Your doctor is a human being and you can call him on his negative behavior. You have to loose your fear of him first. Doctors do have a 'close to god' approach to their manueurisms, but that's because people give them that status. If you can't switch to a midwife, then get a great doula and bring her into the delivery room with you. Most important is that she will advocate for you and help you stick to your birth plan. Read Ina May's book "Ina May's Guide to pregnancy." She is the USA's leading midwife and an expert for advocacy of natural births. Show your doctor your birth plan but stay open that if you need to have interventions, you will do what's in the best interest for you and your baby. TO start, get your bloodwork done when you go into the hospital. Don't bother getting cervical checks towards the end of your pregnancy (see my VIP site) and then use the breathing and visualization techniques in Ina May's book to help you through a natural delivery. I was able to just use the gas for pain control, but had the bloodwork drawn 'just in case' (for crossmatch in case of surgery or I really wanted an epi). But having an experienced DOULA in the delivery room with you will enable you to stay in control. The more educated you are (by reading her book) will also enable you to stay empowered and in control. IF you know the rationale behind what the doctor does and his back ground, then you will be able to be more on board with what he does.

gr8scottswife - 60 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You don't owe the hospital any explanation. I highly recommend a midwife. See my blogs for midwife information. You can search the Internet for midwife and find one in your local area. I really do recommend you get a midwife ASAP. Your doctor is trying to talk you into spending too much money on a c-sec., which I don't know if you are high risk, but if you are low risk, to heck with that doctor. Remember there are advantages to him if you have a c-sec. You can also read my blogs under doctor stories, too.

agonzales - 60 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I also say that really risky. I also wonder why your doctor was saying you dont know best about. Are you having any complications during your pregnancy. Just cause everything is fine with the first 2 children doesnt always guarantee with the next. I think if you dont like your ob then find another one or try looking for a midwife that would take you in.

Its-Chelle - 60 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) what did your doc say? i had a doc i didnt like in beginning of pregancy,i had horrible migraines that got worse with pregnancy and all she said with no feelings was for to continue to lay in my bed for a few days til its gone..um ok with 3 kids ?? so i got a new doc who actually listened and cared about not only me but my unborn baby.you can always mention to your doc nicely that you want to get through this pregnancy just like you have your other ones and that it bothers you the remarks he makes.that you would appreciate him being more sensitive to your feelings..but dont go off on your own giving birth,you have already come this far..if you dont like your doc find a new one..good luck

Allioop - 60 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think that's a pretty risky scenario. I understand that you want to have a natural birth and I don't see why your Dr. would tell you can't unless there is some underlying medical reason to be concerned. You have every right to refuse medication and even IVs at the hospital. They can't MAKE you take anything you don't want whether your Dr. agrees or not as long as the health of the baby or yourself is not as risk. Personally I think it's safer to have a midwife or Dr. with you just in case something goes wrong. Giving birth 2 times before with no problems may indicate that everything will be fine or it may not. What exactly was it your Dr. said that you didn't know what was best about?