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anyone elses doctor seem to hate men?
Added: 127 days ago.
Added by: spencerbaby1
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


i brought my hubby with me for my 1st appointment but she wouldnt even let him come in the room! he sat in the waiting room the entire time. she told me once we begin listening to the baby later in pregnancy he is welcome to come but she doesnt want him to come before then. how rude is that??? maybe I wanted him to be with ME for support! anyone else dealing with this?

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boymom - 126 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) She can't tell you that he can't be there. He needs to stand up for his rights, though...not you. He has the right as the father to be in the room. What would they do if he just came with you anyway? I would keep researching another doctor or a midwife or something. My last baby was an emergency c section and my husband was there the entire time. I wouldn't have made it through it without him.

Spike - 127 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) That is not right! I would find a new doctor if that were my situation. It brought my husband so much joy just to be there knowing everything was going well, its realy all they do get to do! Everything else is about you and the baby. I also wonder if this is the attitude now, then whats it going to be like at the birth? will they only let himin once the action starts and then will they kick him out as soon as bubbys born? I wouldnt be able to handle a doc like that, my husband was the greatest support i had in my pregnancy and i couldt have done it without him!

agonzales - 127 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Thats rude and I would find a new doctor!!

mommy-of-3 - 127 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) That sounds like a red flag to me, my doctor encourages my husband to be apart of all my appointments. I have never heard of someone acting like that, it is the father's baby too and if you want him there he has every right to be there because that is YOUR decision. I would look for a different doc...

allioop - 127 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would make it clear that you want him there and that there is nothing you can't say in front of him! It's your healthcare and your right to privacy that you are waving. It should have nothing to do with the Dr/nurse/midwife/whoever!

spencerbaby1 - 127 days ago she told me its something in their policy incase there is something i was to bring up but wont infront of my partner. i don't know. but next time i see her i will bring it up again. but thats not for 3 more weeks

Its-Chelle - 127 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i would mention it to her..its one thing where some men stay home and dont even bother with the visits, but he is going and deserves more than anything to be part of the visits..i wouldnt tolerate it and i would say something,if not to her than someone in charge of her..

lv2bamommy - 127 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Is there ant way you can address this to her? Ask her why, and if that is the policy, or just her rule? I think I would voice the fact that you would like your hubby with you at all of your appointments! Are there other LNP's in that office? Maybe try to see a differnt one. Good luck hun!!

spencerbaby1 - 127 days ago but see i dont have a family doctor and i go to a women and childrens service which has nurse practitioners. this is the only service in the area for patients without family doctors. so i can't find anyone else. no doctors in the area are accepting new patients. i hate being forced to do things! i just want my husband there with me

kayleen - 127 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) No no no... This is just as much his pregnancy as it is yours and if your doctor isn't open to a loving and supportive father, maybe you ought to find a new doctor...

Debra - 127 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i had a midwife! at our visits (which were an hour) we both were welcome and my husband could participate fully. At the c/s, they didn't allow him in the room for the first 30 min, but that's because he would just be in the way and pacing :). Afterwards, my midwife advocated for him to stay with me as they closed the incision when they usually kick husbands out of the OR at this time.