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feeling frumpy
Added: 1287 days ago.
Added by: sexymummy
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


ok so now i have a baby bump i feel really fat and frumpy. i have gained 10lbs so far and it is easy to notice that i am gaining weight. i have always been conscience about my weight.. and i always think that my bf dusnt like me as much anymore because i dont look as good. He`s even started watching porn on the internet .. this makes me feel even worse!! :( any advice??

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caitie - 1286 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Sweetie, i had the same problem. I didnt feel like my hubby was interested in me anymore and i still dont because i am trying to work on losing this weight. And he does internet pron too. The only thing you can do is retaliate and put up pictures of guys all over your computer and see what he says. anyway back to serious (thats what i did and it didnt even phase my hubby cause he is bi). Just know that eventually you will be smaller.

liquidxx - 1287 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) So yeah your not the only one....i cried last night because my baby bump decided to pop up at 3 1/2 months :( i feel so FAT too.. Ugh!!! so not fair man.. i've always been a twig even after my daughter.. but things are different this time... oh well i'll cry with you if you'd like.

moms the word - 1287 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Talk to your bf and tell him it bothers you. Ask him to be honest about how he feels about you and the fact that you are gaining weight. I am sure he is just looking at porn becuase most men like to look at it. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Also consider asking him if he is afraid to "be" with you physically out of fear of hurting the baby. If he expresses concern about that, then assure him that he can't hurt the baby by having sex with you. The best way to handle it is to talk to him now before your feelings get out of hand.

HappyMomma01 - 1287 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Okay so i know where you are coming from with the whole bf thing.. I have always been very tinny and thought that i looked great, well then i put on the baby weight, I have gained 60LBS, yeah thats nuts. so yeah i noticed that my man was looking at other girls online to and i got to the point where i started crying got my self all worked up about it. so i tore him a new one letting him know that i wasnt happy about the way i look and he made me feel like i was nothing when he was looking at them and what not. he hasnt done it since, well that i know of anyhow.. but i would just tell him how you feel, and he should understand but guys will be guys.. Just keep in mind that you have a little one growing in side of you and you are going to get the baby fat but you will lose it when all done and over with... Pregnant woman are so beauitful......good luck sweetie!!!

katiemul - 1287 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i feel the same way, but ten pounds is not a lot. remind yourself that you are a beautiful, healthy woman growing something beautiful inside her. and porn has nothing to do with how you look - its his problem. last year i drowned my bfs laptop in the bathtub when he wouldnt stop watching porn, lol. needless to say, he got the message and, after many tears, he treats me with more respect.

Mrs.M.H. - 1287 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Tell him how you feel and that you didn't get that way alone! He might also need to know that if he really likes the fem figure that you are the most fem it can get and it is rare to experience it because it times out. Oh, and 10lbs? You are still skinny in my books! I've gained 35lbs and I'm only 29wks! Sorry, about how guys are they just don't get it and think it is an excuse for being insensitive. I have nothing against porn I watch it with my hubby as long as it is something we both like and if not it's not getting watched, simple. Sex is still safe for you, I'm guessing, so let him know that it is the best time for him to make his best home runs(if you know what I mean) because you are more sensitive! As for anything stopping him like the bump, let me tell ya, it makes the other positions you can do more fun to experience as a couple too;) Us preggers are fare more rare fem figures and some of the sexiest out there. He needs you, to let him know, that things are bothering you and that you need his help to feel more sexy and less frumpy. Mommas are obviously doing something right and are obviously sexy enough to get the guy so, power to the bump! Fat aaah..NO! Better than a scronny porn star YEAH! So no more porn for him because you are the better and real thing. I hope that this might help out it is hard to be us and harder for guys to get it. Good luck. I hope he gets the picture:)