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Added: 1268 days ago.
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ok so im not the smartest when t comes to legal terms... but my bd and me are not together and he is all mad because i dont want to work things out...well in our court papers it says he pays 79 a week for child support..when i go back to work it drops down to 70 a week...and than it says he shall also pay 50% of daycare and medical etc. well he flat out refuses..says thats what his chil support is for...i will be paying 218 a week in childcare.... i told him if he doesnt help me support the child he helped me make than he will not have his visits...he told me if i keep him from his son he will hold me in content...what does that mean?? i thought it meant that he would take me to court because i am disobeying court papers...now wouldnt that out him in the wrong too?? im confused???

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tto - 1264 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You make sure you do what you are suppose to do- hold up your end of the legal bargain so you don't shoot yourself in the foot. It doesn't matter if he refuses- you can get his wages garnished which means the government will take the money out of his paycheck and give it to you before he recieves his check, like taxes. Also, be careful to not use your child as leverage. You may hate the father, but he's still his father and will learn how to be a father from him. He doesn't sound all that great of a guy, but if you badmouth him in front of your son you will create bigger problems. Try to get this money problem solved and try to find a way to be friendly with the father for your son's sake. It is so damaging for children to watch a nasty divorce- shield him from it. I feel like I am overstepping here, so I am sorry if I offended you.

lexi007 - 1266 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am not sure if you in Oz, but regardless of what he does or doesnt pay (unfortunatly) you can not stop visitation. The law sees what is best for the childs welfare not what suits mum or dad. I was ordered to drive 3hrs each way every fortnight on my own with my son down a lonely highway and he was able to sit in the warmth of his home and have his son delivered and picked up, whilst paying me nothing in child support and he kept taking me back to court and not turning up.. As I have been going thru this for 11 yrs, The law isnt always fair but just do what your ordered to. As gr8scottswife said.. KEEP RECORDS, of EVERYTHING including phone calls, txt msgs, times of arrival and drop off, what he buys for the child,things the child comes home and says, who was there on the visits with his/her dady, absolutly everything. Smile and be nice for your childs sake.. Because when you go back to court with all of the evidence he wont know what to do.. Good luck and in time your child will realise who was there for him/her and who wasnt.. just a long wait..

gr8scottswife - 1267 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) The court order supercedes how he feels about things. If the court order states that he will pay $70, plus 1/2 of day care, etc., he has to do just that. I am very experienced with this situation, and let me give you a few pointers that will tremendously help you and your child now and forever. ONE: Always keep records!!!!!!! That means receipts for medical and anything he is supposed to pay. Document each month his payments, even making copies of checks or noting cash. Keep a very clear record because it is obvious that you will have to take him to court in a year or two, and you will want evidence of how much he owes. For instance, do a spreadsheet for each month: One column is labeled CHILD SUPPORT, another is labeled MEDICAL EXPENSES, and so forth. Under each column write how much he owes you, and highlight any columns that he has actually paid. If your child needs a booster shot, and he pays his 1/2, highlight the amount. If he skips a month of child support, still write down how much he owes, but do NOT highlight it. Attach all receipts and copies of his payments to that spreadsheet. At the end of the year, tally it all up how much he still owes and how much he has paid. TWO: After two years, TAKE HIM TO COURT TO GET THE MONEY HE OWES. If you do not, you will regret it. My husband's ex abandoned her kids to him at the ages of 2 and 1. They are now 13 and 12. So, for 11 years, his ex has been in arrears with payments. For three years she did not pay anything. We had discussed taking her back to court to get the arrearage current, but we kept putting it off, regrettably. Now, since July 29 this year, she has joint custody of the children and we are having to pay her child support. It is unlikely that your ex will want custody of your child, but nevertheless, you need to collect money from him and NOT put it off. Just make sure your records are very clear and complete. It's not that hard to do and is not time-consuming. In a couple years, you will be so grateful you kept records. BTW, the only person in contempt of court is him. The judge will even throw him in jail for not paying what the court papers state he WILL PAY. I worked for a divorce attorney. One of his last cases before he retired was keeping a man out of jail for contempt of court; he owed over $9k in child support. In the end, the man had to pay the complete $9k, court costs, and attorney fees, and that's how he stayed out of jail. Otherwise, he was going to be there fast. YOUR EX IS IN CONTEMPT IF HE DOES NOT PAY THE MEDICAL, DAYCARE, AND WHATEVER ELSE IS LISTED IN THE COURT ORDER. NOT YOU.

dawnispregz - 1268 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If the court paapers say that he has to pay 79 till you work and then 70p/week plus 50% of childcare and medical then thats what he has to pa, whether he likes it or not. it not a random number that they have come to think of in your case specifically, the 70 pw is for food and clothing and the bills etc, the medical care and childcare is rightly so at 50%,these payments are exactly what he would be paying if you were together anyways,so i cantsee his problem,-why shouldnt he pay half of childcare etc?! The 'content' of court is actually in contempt - means that your going against the judges ruling. DO NOT under any circumstances stop him from seeing the baby even if he stops paying,(unless he has got violent etc and ur lawyer advises so) you need to be able to go to court with him and be the shining angel. ' yeah judge he still saw our baby even though he hasnt paid,i dont want to deprieve HER of her dad etc etc.' Unfortunately for him if he doesnt want to pay he'll do jail time and still have to pay anyways! Good luck, and like moms the word said, get an attorney when the time comes. no one will want to take him on as a client as hes directly refusing a court order x x

moms the word - 1268 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think the term you are referring to is to be held in contempt of court which does mean, in a sense disobeying a direct court order. He has to uphold his court orders or he is not entitled to visitation but you cannot make that decision, you have to involve the court by telling the judge that he is not providing his court ordered support as far as the childcare goes. By the way, only a judge can find someone in contempt of court because the judge is the one who made the order. But yes, you are correct, you would both be in the wrong and both of you could be held in contempt which often leads to jail time until compliance happens. Basically, you cannot keep him from seeing the baby if he doesn't pay or you will be in trouble with the court. That is why, you should bring it to the attention of the court that he is not paying his court ordered share of daycare costs. Then the judge can find him in contempt and he will be forced to comply or face jail time just as you would if you denied him visitation without getting legal documentation that states that he is not entitled to visit due to non-compliance with the orgional court documents. Good luck and talk to your attorney or get one if you don't have one.

earthmomma - 1268 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) he will have to have visitation with the baby until you take him to court for not paying child support. as long as a father has visitation rights, he has to pay cs. so when you go to court, he will have to pay you. my friends ex wasnt paying her, and if he didnt pay her all the money he owed her he was going to go to jail. if he no longer wants rights to the baby, then he wont have to pay any more cs.

Lorien - 1268 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) The laws are different in every state but I think in all states you have to let him visit the child regardless of weather or not he is paying. The catch for him is that in most states there are laws that if you don't pay child support/court mandated insurance etc. you can have the money taken from his check and sent to you. I think most if not all States have a child support division to help you do this. If the fathers don't pay they loose there drivers license, pay, go to jail, have there tax returns taken and sent to you. I saw on your profile you are in Maine. If that is correct here is the basic place to get started. http://www.maine.gov/ag/children_families/child_paternity_support.html. I have been through this whole process with my ex so hopefully this will help. Good luck!

CassandraLee - 1268 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Unfortunately he doesnt have to pay child support in order to see his child. However, if he isnt paying what the court ordered him to pay then you need to take him back to court. Here in Minnesota child support is SEPERATE from child care (daycare) and medical insurance. Child support is for the support of the child; diapers, wipes, food, clothing, bills, etc. Take him to court if he isnt paying and see what you can do about getting his wages garnished or his license revoked

Its-Chelle - 1268 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) maybe he meant contempt of court?first off, whatever is in the court papers has to be followed, you stated he is to pay child support and pay for part of childcare..he will get in trouble if he doesnt..but if he also does have some rights in their to visitation you cant refuse him from that either..at least thats my guess

leahs - 1268 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If you have a court order stating he has visitation etc for a certain amount of days per month then yes you would be disobeying a court order. Not sure how the laws work were you are but unfortunately for most places child support and visitation are two completely different things in the eyes of court. You could have a total deadbeat who owes thousands in child support but is still legally allowed visitation rights. If you have court papers stating what he has to pay though then he is in contempt of court as well, you just can't really without visitation rights or you will be in the wrong also.