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Normal or just plain mean?
Added: 1260 days ago.
Added by: reneaj
Section: General.
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my lil girl who will be 1 on sept 10th has developed this thing where if she doesnt get exactly what she wants she will hit, scratch, pintch, and even pull hair. She is also mean to her cousin who is 9 months. she pulls him down and hits him with toys. i tell her no everytime and have even popped her on the hand and given her a time out but she doesnt seem to understand and continues the same behavior. have any of you had this problem and if so what did you do?

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mariettap - 1259 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You've gotten great advice here. Just a pat on the back to you for looking for solutions now. I remember my baby being on the receiving end when friends' toddlers pushed/grabbed/smacked/etc, and it put a real strain on our relationships when they didn't intervene and try to correct their children's behavior. Stay on it actively, stay loving, and you'll find babies grow out of all the rough little phases.

KarenVG - 1259 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Just for reassurance it is very normal. Just be consistant with the telling her No and putting her out of the room until she gets it. I know it can be embarressing when she does it in front of other adults as you know they are watching how you deal with it. so Be confident in yourself and that will make you feel better and them realise you are a good mom and also let your little one know you are not going to tolerate it. However When she does play nicely with others make sure you praise her up for it so she gets positive attention, otherwise she will think attention comes when she misbehaves...

XIDJA - 1259 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) whatever you do stay consistent!

moms the word - 1260 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I also agree with the removal and redirect strategy. Whenever my little girl would do it, I would immediately physically move her away from the situation and take the toy away if she used it as a weapon and tell her NO! She should eventually get tired of being taken away from her playmates and play things and realize that it is the behavior that is causing the removal. Good luck, I know how frustrating it can be but pick a strategy and stick with it until the behavior is corrected. Switching around the way you deal with it will only confuse her more.

Mrs.M.H. - 1260 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Oh, they will all go through this stage and sometimes it is hard to break Some kids are fine after being told no and others do need to be shown how it feels when they do what they are doing. Including my girl when she was small had to be shown how unpleasant it is to have her hair pulled because at the time no was only a sound with little real meaning or reason. Showing is a very obvious explaination for them because a verbal one may not be understood as well. Though some times they will do it again out of spite don't give up they do learn it isn't a funny game eventually. I will say never, ever pop their hand or give them scolding when you are upset or angry you may do harm than good. Good luck and just be pressictant.

reneaj - 1260 days ago I HAVE ONLY POPPED HER ONCE AND THAT WAS BECAUSE THE TIME OUT WAS NOT WORKING. WHEN I POPPED HER SHE STOPPED BUT WHEN I PUT HER IN TIME OUT AS SOON AS SHES OUT SHE DOES IT AGAIN

CassandraLee - 1260 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I wouldnt hit her for hitting others. That's confusing. You cant hit that kid, put I can hit you. I agree with the others, you have to take her out of the situation IMMEDIATELY. As soon as she pinches, hits, pulls once.

Amanda.M - 1260 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hi,well i dont think that shes being nasty,coz my son will be 1yr sept 29th and although he doesnt do that to me he use to, he does it to his dad when jhe gets home,his dad will pick him up and my son will start hitting his face and scratching him and laughs about it and if he doesnt stop after his dad said no 2-3times he puts him down and dont play with him,even when my daughter is holding him he'll do the same thing so i tell my girl just to put him down. My son seems to want to see poeples reactions to what he does and sometimes he thinks its funny if the person says ouch,where as i never give him a reaction and i walk away from him so i guess thats why he doesnt do it to me now. also at this age it is very hard to teach them right from wrong because as you know they dont really understand to much,but what Julianna said was pretty much on the spot by redirecting,goodluck with it,many years ahead for trying to teach them right from wrong,lol.

Its-Chelle - 1260 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) my niece is a bit over a yr old and she is rough playing with her cousins around the same age..my son is older than her, he is 21 mo and she almost knocks him down..now my son is the one who hits bites etc when he is mad..and we have yet to get him under control..

jaydsmom - 1260 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I also agree with babybean... take her out of the situation. Children hate to be alone, so put her in a timeout. Explain why and do it quickly. For hitting etc, I think there should be no warnings (no counting to 3 when someone else is getting hurt).

*3rdtimesacharm* - 1260 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I agree completely with babybean. If the behavior is continuous, "banning them from the herd" lol works. Shell figure out there theres behavior thats simply not accepted and shell have to comply.

Julianna - 1260 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I just want to start by saying I am not judging at all :) First thing you do is redirect and show gentle touch. When you correct hitting with hitting it is contradictive and confusing to the child. You just have to keep up with showing and redirecting....eventually she will understand. Nicholas was hitting people AND the dogs. We showed him "nice" and that you pet the puppy, not hit it and eventually he does this all the time with people and animals. When he hits and we tell him "nice" he stops and gently pets whatever or whoever he is hitting. Your daughter is just testing boundaries & expressing frustrations or emotions. They don't understand right from wrong so it is your job to show her that. I certainly would not hit her to get her to stop hitting. Also, if she is hitting others with objects you just remove the object and give her direction on "gentle" or "nice". Hope this helps. Good luck

xbabybeanx - 1260 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) The best thing to do is just pick her up say "no hitting/scratching/pinching and pick her up and put her away from whoever shes being unkind to. Put her in a playpen if you have one and then ignore her for 1 minute. After this time sya "are you going to be nice now" then let her join in again. She will grow out of it though shes just learning that shes a person in her own right. xx