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Ready to have a baby?
Added: 1235 days ago.
Added by: kmichelle77
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Hi all! I am new to this site and was just wondering how do you know when you`re ready to have a baby? My husband and i are seriously considering having children and he`s told me that he definitely wants them. But i have always been the doubting type, and I can`t seem to give him a firm `thumbs up` to go ahead and start trying to get pregnant. I know that deep down inside i want kids. I`m just afraid of how good of a mother I`ll be. Am I just being too hard on myself? Thanks!

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dawnispregz - 1234 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If you are concerned whether you'll be a good mum or not, then i would say that you WILL be a great mum, because youre so concerned over and you know what having kids mean.Im glad that you have thought about it as opposed to just getting pregs because your hubby wants kids. If youre on the pill or other form of contraception other than condoma, it can take some time to conceive anyways. Just check out your finances, be mindful of income and expenditure, but always know that you can refinance anyways - consolidate credit to reduce outgoings as soooo many people do when a child is on the way. And you dont need to be Mary Poppins to be a great mum, im sure you'll be fab. x

tto - 1235 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I'm proud of you for being so thoughtful about your decision. There really is no such thing as 'ready' because motherhood is like nothing you expect. Some things of course, you know you're going experience, but there is so much more. Babies are expensive so make sure you are financailly somewhat ready- meaning you can afford the $500+ in childcare a month plus everything else. Because you are afraid of not being a good mother, you'll make sure you are a good mother. Plus being a mom is a one day at a time thing. You don't need to know how to mother a toddler, an older child, a preteen or teen until they get there. You only need to know what you're doing for your child's current stage and age. It's a little less overwhelming when you think of it that way. TTC is very exciting! Good luck!

mommad - 1235 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If that's the only thing holding you back, GET BUSY! If you care that much about whether you'l make a good mother, you will! There is nothing like the joy of being a mother. There are so many more and new emotions that you will experience that you've never felt before.

RobinG - 1235 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Let me share a story with you :) Maybe this will help you to know :) I was 39 when hubby said we should have a 3rd. My boys were 7 and 11 at the time. Scary thought. I was on the fence 50/50. So I agreed to try saying that if it was meant to be I'd get pregnant so we will try that month only. So we tried and I was really unsure how I felt about it. Well when I got my period I was DEVASTATED! That was the day I learned what my true emotions were. I think I needed to have the negative to really know. So we opted to try again and bam I was preggers. Even through the pregnancy I had times I was concerned I would regret it but since the second he was born I have never had 2nd thoughts or felt I did the wrong thing. I feel complete now and cant imagine life without him :) If you tried and didnt get preggers and had a sense of relief then you arent ready yet if you are thrilled then you were. Many arent "ready" when they try, my hubby was no wheres near ready when we got preggers for our first but the day I found out I was he suddenly was thrilled and his doubts washed away. If you wait til you can afford them you will never have one. If it really isnt meant to be it will not happen (()) If it does it was meant to be :)

CassandraLee - 1235 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) When you dont have to ask yourself if youre ready. If theres doubt, then youre not "ready"

jessicadarling - 1235 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) From what I have been told by people is that you will always find excuses of why you "aren't ready". The fact that you worry about the type of mother you will be shows that you will be a good mother. I promise you that once you have a child your whole life will be different FOR THE BETTER. It is an amazing love that fills up your whole being. If you aren't ready to start planning then why not just stop using protection and say if it happens it happens. You won't regret it when you have that bundle in your arms

earthmomma - 1235 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) my pregnancy was a suprise...but when you think about it...i dont think anyone is ever really ready! i mean, we dont know how much hard work it will really be until we have the baby here! so if you are both wanting kids, then just go for it. you will be ready bc you will just have to be. if it isnt meant to happen, then it wont!

montanamamaof3 - 1235 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If you both want kids and support yourselves finacially, then you are ready.

12.31.08 - 1235 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) every women is afraid that she may or may not do something that will be considerd ''wrong'' however just keep in mind that parenthood is always a learning experience, no one is born a mother.. we become them. Thats why site like this were made.. when we have a question we may be able to approach another mum who has been there herself and can give advice. Children are so special, and you will never experience love like that, its hard to describe but its the most wonderful thing ever. Family is always important and if your thinking of adding to yurs then go for it. Youll never regret it!

patience21 - 1235 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Afford to raise them?? Hahahaha who really can affored kids? If you want them you are ready!!!

fdstripled - 1235 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You are ready to have children when you can afford to raise them, are willing to make sacrifices for someone else, and are in a good relationship if you are with someone. Oter then that there is no right time or good time. As far as being a good mother, if you do everything that you can for your child to the best of your ability. Then that makes you a good mother. Raising children does't come with an instruction book and all children are diffrent. So ther is no way to tell how they will turn out. Good luck with your decision.

jerri - 1235 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hi! I have two kids, and i don't think anyone is ever ready to have kids haha! But if you both want them why not start trying now, i mean you never know how long it could take. And hunny, everyone worries about what kind of mother they will be but God gives us built in instinct, and some people think they dont have it but it just doesnt come out until you have your own child. but Its there. Well good luck! And dont be so hard on yourself...listen to your heart and pray!

EmmaReed84 - 1235 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) To be honest you know in yourself when the time is right. When you feel ready but you will always worry about what kind of mum you will be, I am on #2 and i still question myself....can i look after 2 kids, how can i divide my attention and such like. Sometimes i think though fate decides when its right lol. Neither of my kids were planned but funnily enough came at the right time. x