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I`m so fusterated( however u spell it) but pls help
Added: 1227 days ago.
Added by: kristina89
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


ok well now I am about 7 weeks not too far along but I really wanna have the baby and my family and boyfriends tell me to tell them what are the pro`s of having a baby and I think the most important pro to me is its my baby and its going to make me more responable than I am now but I`m trying so hard to persuade the Babis daddy to want to keep the baby I know through out the whole pregnancy he`s going to tell me to have an abortion and his family wants me to have the baby and I want to have the baby n my little sisters excited but my family and my boyfriend don`t oh and when should I start trying to get medical and WIC please help thanks ladies I apprishiate it alot and congrats on those of you that are pregnant or already had your babys

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tto - 1226 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) What kind of man would want you to kill the child the two of you conceived in love? Is this really the kind of person you want? There is no love as pure as a child's love for mommy. If you want this baby, keep it. At the very least adopt it out and make some heartbroken couple's dreams come true. Don't throw away the most precious gift ever. I'm not going to lie, having a baby is a lot of hard work but it is so worth it. This is solely your choice and if your family doesn't agree with it, too bad for them. You'll have the love of a baby forever, something you'll never loose. Children love you for who you are and don't care about how educated you are, or how fat, skinny, pretty or ugly you are, or even how good of a mom you are- kids love their moms unconditionally and it is beautiful. Throw away the people who don't see what a blessing this is- don't throw away the baby. No one will love you the way that baby will.

12.31.08 - 1226 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) In the end it will be you to take care of him or her, and to grow this baby well and healthy. I am very against pro choice (abortion) and do not think it should be something taken lightly. I know you must be struggling with your choice, but in all honesty this baby is already looking to you to care for it and be its mommy. Your bf should have realized the chances he was taking when he choose to have intercourse and we all know that sex can lead to a baby if we are not careful. This is a very hard choice for you to make, but i think in years down the road if you were to go threw with it, you may have regrets or even wonder what kind of impact your child would have had on your life.. There is so many beautiful parts to having a child, the first cry, first word, first day of school, and one day graduation when you will feel so proud of the choices you made.. having a baby isnt easy but i will be honest.. its one of lifes greatest gifts. Its such a miracle to be blessed with something like this when so many women cant have babies. I know that if you choose to keep your child your family will be there to support you.. im sure.. and if the father is then that would be great too, but if not then remeber you did the right thing. I too was a young mommy when i had my son, i was 19 when i found out i was pregnant and its not always easy but i couldnt give him up for anything in the world. You should see a doctor before ten weeks. maybe you will be able to listen to the heart beat and make you choice after that. But dont let anyone infuence your choice.. The person who matters the most in this world now is your baby boy or baby girl! - Good luck!

lillyseed - 1226 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i agree with baby-momma. i went thru the same things. my ex had me in tears on an almost daily basis pushing me to abort our little girl. he had friends pooling for abortion $$. it was terrible. i was miserable. he didnt change once the baby was born. he rarely had much to do with her. . . so i left him. today shes a wonderful 6 year old & the smartest kid in her class. i would have missed her terribly. i dont believe in lecturing on "god's ethics" & "murder" because thats not right. whats right for you might not be right for someone else. if you decide not to go thru w/the pregnancy make sure it is the right decision for YOU, not him & your family. be safe & be careful & most of all be happy. good luck to you.

baby-momma09 - 1226 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) first of all its your body. no one can make decisions regarding your body other then yourself. when i found out i was pregnant my baby daddy wanted me to have a abortion. and to be honest i looked into it and decided to go thru with it. but i felt like that was taking the easy way out and i couldn't picture myself going thru with that. so i didnt. he was pissed and would randomly txt me asking me if it was too late to have an abortion. obviously he wasn't ready. so i completely cut him off from me and the baby. i have a family that is willing to help me and support me. i know that raising a baby isn't going to be easy, but that was my decision to keep it. comments below are right you will NOT be able to go out, sleep in, money will be an issue, but if this is what you want then you should keep the baby. you need to think about when your baby turns into a toddler, then when your toddler becomes a teenager and so on. you just cant think if it as strictly a "baby" you have to thinkabout everything that comes along with it.

jaydsmom - 1226 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think if you want to keep the baby, that is completely your decision. Tell the others to stay out of it. Just remember though, this child will not MAKE you more responsible. That is something you have to do. Babies are a lot of work, and a lot of money. You will get tired and frustrated. You won't be able to afford to go out. If your bf does not want the baby, then don't assume you will get money out of him easily to help support the child. Life will be a struggle, and struggling does not make you more responsible. Don't get me wrong, a child is very rewarding. The unconditional love, the smiles, all worth it to me. You need to take a serious look at where you want your life to go. Maybe go see a councellor.... As for those who blame your bf for your pregnancy, it takes 2 so don't lay blame on one party. You can't make a baby alone.

kater - 1226 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) the other comments are right, having a baby wont make you more responsible, but it can bring a person to a new realization about life. keep in mind though, if you badly want to keep the baby-it sounds like you do-how would you feel in 10 years if you go through with an abortion? i personally would carry resentment toward those who i felt had pushed me into doing it. going through with an abortion could create a divide in your family that could be impossible to get over. if you choose to keep the baby, no matter what anyone says now, babies have a way of making people fall in love with them. once it is here, im certain your family's will love and cherish your little bub. sometimes having a baby doesnt come down to pros and cons, it is an emotional experience for you, i believe its natures way of maintaining the species. i would simply say that you are having the baby because, although you are young, you are pregnant, the baby is here, growing in your body, and even though you havent met him/her yet, you love it already. enough said.

alreadygot1 - 1226 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If you want a baby to make you more responsible THEN DO NOT HAVE THIS BABY, OR GIVE IT UP FOR ADOPTION! Do not give a helpless infant a job(making you responsible). Be responsible on your own, do not make your baby "make you responsible" Want to be a grown up and make good decisions? Give the baby a better life and use protection next time.

amanda72385 - 1227 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Ok i'm going to tell you what no one told me at your age when i myself had my first...You are going to lose the life you have now, no more going out with friends all the time and no more getting to sleep in, its gonna be hard and frustrating....Although having a baby will be a great blessing just remember its your choice and no one elses, get on medicaid whenever you please because it will pay for your doctors visits and everything and as soon as the baby is born it will be covered, you cant apply for WIC though until after the baby is born because they will do a minor exam on the baby:weight length and so forth. This baby will help you become a more responsible adult, plus you can always throw this one little thing i'm gonna tell you in your boyfriends face...if he didnt want a baby he should have taken better precautions to keep from having one so its time he grows up and takes care of what hes made. Besides Your family and him will get more into it once things start progressing. Anyway i'm rooting for you and welcome to pre-motherhood, its not always easy but remember its totally worth it. Congrats!

mandeevicious - 1227 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) didn't you ask a similar question a few days ago? part of accessing responsibility for yourself is making the decisions, it's no wonder you're bf nd yr family keep asking you for the abortion, you show fear and lack of confidence and yr not being stern, i can sense the lack of confidence and i dont even know you, stand firm nd tell them and quote for the last and final time you're keeping it, say it with aggresion and confidence like you mean it.

CassandraLee - 1227 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You can apply for WIC and medical assistance now. Giving your child up through abortion or adoption is a forever choice. I dont think YOU want to do that. I think you hear all this noise from other people and it makes you unsure. Like I said in you last Q&A, I think you need more people around you who support you. Not people who want you to give up/abort your child if thats not what you want. Babies dont MAKE you more responsible. Some people dont change who they are at all after having a child. So that shouldnt be a reason to have a baby. But if you are starting to care for this baby and you are wanting to have this child then you should. Youre not 12 years old. You are a grown woman. 19 is still young, but its certainly not too young. You need to spend some time alone with your thoughts without all these people telling you what to do. YOU need to decide what YOU want to do and be strong about your decision. When people start telling you what to do you need to explain to them that this is your child, whom you love, and you are excited to begin preparing for life with this child.

moms the word - 1227 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would apply for the mediacal right now. The WIC is also good for you now since it will give you some staple food items that are important for pregnancy. As for why to keep the baby, personally, I would tell my family that I don't believe in murder and that this life already has a heartbeat and I couldn't live with myself if I was responsible for ending that life (that is if it were me, I don't know how you feel about it but that is how I feel). Tell them that you know it will be hard and that you are going to have to deal with all of that. Let them know you are prepared to do it on your own but that you would love to have their support. I am sure they will come around. The bottom line is that it is your decision alone. This baby is in your body and you are responsible for nuturing it and seeing it through to birth. If you think you are ready, then just make it plain to them that no matter what they say, you are keeping this baby. As for the father, you can't make him take responsibility and there is nothing you can do or say to persuade him to be a dad if he really doesn't want it. I would definitely consider wether or not it is good for you emotionally to be around someone so negative about this pregnancy. Personally, if all he is going to do is bring you down and tell you to have an abortion that you don't want, then maybe he is not such a great person? You have a lot to think about. More than wether or not to keep the baby but also who you want to be in his/her life as well. Good luck and just remember that we are all here for you.

bonnieg - 1227 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You can apply for a medical card right away, if you have the note from the doctor stating you are pregnant. I don't know what state you live in but in Ohio, you get the medical card right away with that note from your doctor. You can also go to WIC now. As far as the abortion thing, my best friend had one about 5 years ago and she totally regrets it now! If you want this baby that is all that matters, there isn't a man on this earth worth giving up your children for! Your family shouldn't pressure you either, it's your decision. They will come around, and after the baby is born (if that is the outcome of YOUR decision) they will love him/her and be glad that you did decide to have the baby! Remember if God brings you to it, He will bring you through it! I will pray for you and hope you let only yourself make this decision.

MelissaLMoore - 1227 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) As soon as your doctor gives you a positive pregnancy with a due date paper, you can get WIC. If YOU want this baby, YOU have this baby. It is YOUR choice. If you do listen to everyone else, you will regret it later and have to live with the "what if's". You have a life changing decision to make and no one else can make it for you. You WILL make it through this. You are already responsible and mature for asking for advice. If you need someone to talk to, I am here. Good Luck.

agonzales - 1227 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I say if you want to keep your baby then keep it. If your boyfriend didnt want a baby he shouldve been more careful about it. I really dont think you should get an abortion.. you will just regret it in the long run.. especially if you do it just because they keep nagging you about it. About the medical, you should be trying to get some assistance now. I believe things happen for a reason and God never gives you more than you can handle.. things will get better and they will soon understand. Good luck and take care. =)

karenmarie21 - 1227 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If you want to keep the baby.... you should... dont let anyone convince you to have an abortion when you dont want it...! If i was you, I would go ahead and file for medicaid now and when you get it back... which for me... it took a little over a month... then file for wic.