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How would ya`ll feel if this happened to you?
Added: 1213 days ago.
Added by: amanda72385
Section: General.
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The other night my DH and i were talking and he knows i`ve hated getting my tubes tied ever since i did it cause i`ve always wanted 4 kids and i was pressured into having my tubes tied by family, well my husband actually told me that having another kid is not totally out the window for us meaning he would consider having another one. i flat out told him i should have just gotten the mirena done since it lasts 5 years and now if we do decide to have one it will cost more because i`ll have to do a tubal reversal or just have in vitro done to have one....i`m completely angry with him and havent really spoken to him for a few days now because i just dont know how to take what he told me. how would ya`ll handle this sittuation?

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melly01 - 1213 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i would go and get your reversal asap. those your tubes first of all. second there are so many other options now, that yes is your not comfortable with your tubes being tied you can protect yourself with many other options and for many years without concern or replacement.

vikki - 1213 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Oh dear, it seems that he has felt the same way as you with the pressure of getting them tided. How unfair of your family to put your marriage in such a position! While I realise that you are probably fine, it isn't up to the family to make decision that are your and your husbands to make. He's probably only just able to talk about it now. My family would like to see me "fixed" too but we don't hold to that and we have to stand up against them all the time. It's hard but we're together in it. Take comfort in knowing that you ARE together in this, even though it's taken awhile to find out. Don't be mad with him, he's probably beating himself up already for not standing up earlier. If you got the reversal it would certainly state to the family that you and your husband are in control of your lives NOT them. I would put the distress where it should be and that's on a family that think they have a right to pressure you in such a way. Talk to your husband and let him know that your just frustrated with the timing and that you know that together you guys can work it out. Oh.. and DON'T tell the family about it. It's your business and yours alone. :-) Well I hope that wasn't TOO ranty, just my thoughts. :-) Good luck with everything.

earthmomma - 1213 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i wouldnt be mad at him. you are the one who gave in to pressure from family. ignoring him and being mad wont change the situation. the best thing to do now is be open with each other so you can sort out what options you have now.

Harpchick - 1213 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Well, it's a tough situation, to be sure, but originally you guys made the decision together to have it done, and being upset with your decision now won't help things. Changes of mind happen, and you can work through this together now by attempting a reversal, but being angry won't solve a thing. Regret about a tubal ligation is not uncommon, particularly among people who are young and have a lot of potential childbearing years ahead of them. You guys obviously never suspected back then you would change your minds... and changing your mind is, alas, a human trait. Take it one day at a time and don't let it hurt your relationship.

nannersmama - 1213 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would apologize to him for not speaking to him...ignoring him for days won't encourage him to be open with you in the future. Also, consider that he may have changed his mind....it does happen.