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problem with baby`s grandmother
Added: 1196 days ago.
Added by: dolceam0r
Section: General.
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does any one have suggestions on how to handle an overbearing grandmother?

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Bienks - 1195 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) My mother-in-law is the same, I kept my mouth shut at first don't do that you will only frustrate yourself. I decided that it's time to stand up for myself if she starts getting difficult I tell her what I think in a nice way I never scream or overreact and if she doesn't like it too bad for her. You should raise your child the way you want to and nobody should tell you what to do because there is no right or wrong way everyone is different and what might have worked for your MIL with her kids might not work for you. So don't let her push you to do things different follow your own feelings and make her understand that (in a nice way, screaming and fighting about stuff is pointless and just hurt everyone more) Good Luck !!!

mariettap - 1196 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) It's so tough. Did you have a good/trusting relationship with her before baby? My wonderful relationship with MIL deteriorated quickly once our baby came. It has taken yrs to rebuild and now I see where it was all coming from. She's frikken crazy, lol. And I see now that she needs me to be firm but kind to her, to take no baloney, but to sock it to her with kindness. I know she would never hurt my feelings on purpose and has no idea that her manner of speaking to me could actually cause me to be as anxious as she is. I'll be trying to keep this perspective as my due date draws near and when my baby is here. I did yell at her last week for the 1st time ever. She deserved it, and yet, she didn't. I can stand to be nicer, but I'll have to mark the boundaries with a thicker marker.

Harpchick - 1196 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) My MIL was the very definition of overbearing. She tried to tell me how to do absolutely everything, and it was never the right thing to do, either. At first I told her that I preferred to sort things out on my own, which insulted her greatly and created more tension. My pediatrician suggested that I should say something along the lines of, "I appreciate your opinion on (insert the issue here). I'll give it some thought. I'm also going to run it by my pediatrician and see if he has a preference for how I handle it. Amazing how many different ways there are to do things these days." That way, she felt gratified that I at least acknowledged her input, but knew right off the bat that I was not necessarily going to do what she was telling me to do. I then promptly ignored whatever it was she had suggested and moved on. It kept the peace remarkably well through several children.

12.31.08 - 1196 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Lol i hate my MIL. But if this is your mom or your hubbys mom and she is giving too much *input* or *advice* i would let her know that you want to learn how to figure things out or do things on your own. Let her know you appreciate everything shes trying to do, but your able to take care of everything!!