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telling my sister
Added: 1170 days ago.
Added by: cantchacitsme
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when my lastchild was concieved over a year ago my lil sister had been TTC for about a year, currently shes been trying for 2 years, my last pregnacy(my 3rd) was a bit hard on her but she did very well about not showing it,here I am pregnant again, 3 months after having my last and Im scared to death to tell my family, shes going to be so upset. any ideas on making it easier????

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stargazer530 - 1168 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I went thru the same thing. With my first pregnancy, I wasn't aware of my sister's yearning for a child, so I ended up telling her first and was hurt by her lack of caring. Only afterwards did I hear from my mother that she was upset because she hasn't been able to get pregnant. This time around, I knew how hard it would be, so I did like some other ladies have suggested and told her in private. I try to include her in baby things I am going thru, but I don't know if it's bothering her or not. My good friend is the same way - she has been TTC for about 2 yrs now and is several yrs older than me so she is beginning to really worry. It was really hard telling her. I always feel guilty talking about the baby around her or my sister. It's a tough thing to deal with, but just be sure to include her in things and let her know she will be a big part of the baby's life.

Avery123 - 1169 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I had a similar problem...my friend has 2 boys and really wanted a girl, but her husband didn't want anymore children. Then she got pregnant by chance and was very happy, but later lost the baby around the same time that I found out that I was pregnant. I felt really terrible, especially because mine was completely unexpected and to make things worse, I'm having a girl. She seems ok, but I still feel guilty when she looks at my stomach. I hope it works out ok for you both in the end.

chelles - 1169 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was in this position not too long ago, I had my tubes tied and couldnt conceive....so I tried IVF, it just so happened that 3 other women I worked with were doing the same thing.....all of them got PG with the first try wich happened to be within weeks of one another. I on the other hand did not and they were all very nervous but did let me know. I ended getting pg 4yrs later after I had tubal reversal surgrey.......its tough and depressing but her time will come:)~

JacquelineTurner - 1169 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) my first baby took alot of work to have and my brother in law got his new gf pregnant by total accident and on top of that my now ex husband already had one kid... so it was rough on me and it was my hubby who knew how upset i was going to be ... so him and the new gf in law set me down in private and told me about it and they were both very cool and understanding when i began bawling and needed some time to be alone to cry... but it took a couple hours and i was then very happy... and 5 months later i finally conceived... so i agree with all the other lady's ... approach her first and just keep in mind its not your fault when she is totally upset... its not at you... its just a sucky position for both of you!!

mariettap - 1169 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I agree. By making it clear to her that her happiness and her feelings are important to you, and by giving it to her one on one rather than letting it go through the grapevine, you can soften the blow and also set her up to have good feelings for you. I lost multiple pregnancies, all the while watching my friends start and finish their family-making. The only one that was hard to learn about in all that time was one that I heard about from other sources.

RainbowRach - 1169 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) When a member of my team got pregnant, she approached me in private first, and told me. It gave me time to get over it before she annouced it to everyone else. Its a really difficult situation to be in, I am so pleased you are taking time to consider her feelings whilst you are in the middle of great joy at finding out you are pregnant. Congratulations on your BFP!!

katey25 - 1169 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think your amazing for being so sensitive. I was having trouble conceiving and my sis in law fell pregnant so she knew I would be upset. She told me when no-one else was around and was fine when I went upstairs to have a little cry and at the end of the day I was so happy for her and to know I was going to have another niece or nephew. x