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Added: 1073 days ago.
Added by: daydays mom
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What can i do as a woman to get my relationship up to par. Im not interested in my husband sexually, im not interested in him hugging me or touching me. But i want to be interested in this. I want to be happy. It just seems like all we do is bicker and im like blah ya know, i dont want to have nothing to do with him and i dont know why. Can somebody help me??

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gr8scottswife - 1072 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) In the meantime, psyche yourself up by thinking of all your husband's good points.

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MomOfAlmost3AtHome - 1072 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think the the physical part of the relationship is very big. It is even a bigger deal to men, even if they don't necessarily say it. I have been in times when I am not interested, and I would do it anyway. It can make a big difference. Men are grumpy when they are not getting any. If you want to grow closer to your husband in ways that make you feel closer, do what makes him feel closer to you. I hope that made sense and it helpful.

aussie-jess - 1073 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hi there! I was exactly the same as you! I never wanted affection of any type during pregnancy and after when I was breastfeeding! I found that I was paranoid about sex hurting too. So it made it worse for me, I was always worried about it hurting. My son is almost 14 months and I am 10 weeks pregnant again, so my feelings havent changed. But I find myself wanting to 'fix' our relationship. It got pretty bad. We never had conversations, or touched at all. My husband also broke down and we had big talks over it. And I realised that I need to make an effort. Men are made for sex, its like a necessity to them!! So now I try and offer or say yes to him when he asks about 2 times a week. Plus making an effort with cuddles, kissing etc. I am trying but it is still hard, because I dont think about it when he does. So when he gets upset about me never cuddling him or giving him a kiss, I honestly never think of doing it! Our lives are completely taken up by our precious babies! We get tons of affection from them, so I feel as though I dont need it from my husband! But I forget that he needs it too!

voncoco - 1073 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) do you have any other signs of depression... might be a good idea to talk to your doctor... good luck

Avery123 - 1073 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) This happened to me when I first got married, because my husband was my 1st and it seemed like it hurt every time, so I just always said no. He finally quit asking and was feeling pretty unhappy about the whole thing. Luckily things are much better now and I think sometimes we have to force ourselves until it becomes more natural. Marriage is hard work, but if you start by telling yourself that your into your man and maybe approaching him for sex (he'll love that, by the way) even if you don't feel like it. I find that you can trick yourself into wanting it, even when you don't, just by acting like you do and the more you do it, the more you will WANT to do it. I hope that makes sense.

mylittleman - 1073 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Wow, this is exactly how me and my hubby are. Ever since getting pregnant w/ my son who is now 14mo old, I've just been not sexually attracted AT all...just very rarely. Then with breastfeeding, my hormones were still a little whacked. When my son finally started bf less, I started feeling a lot more normal and then got pregnant again!! So w/ having a 14mo old, being pregnant adn working full time, I have been stressed and lately it's like everything just stresses me out..even driving!! I didn't realize how negative I had become until the other night my husband finally just broke down and told me how awful I was making him feel. gotta tell you, I felt terrible. I really just had no idea I was letting my stress affect us that way. I've been depressed in the past and I know it's not depression. I just have been stressing about every little thing and it's affected us so negatively. I mean seriously, we bickered all the time too. But once he was straight w/ me (granted it was only 2 days ago!!!) I feel so much better about everything and I even made a note to myself he can give me to read when I'm freaking out, yelling at him and basically being unreasonable. I just wrote on it the things that I usually go off about and how it's ok if they aren't done or doen perfectly, do I want my marriage to suck, do I want to lose my best friend over something so stupid?? then a list of all the wonderful positive things I have in my life. So I can read it when I'm mad and just calm down and think about what really matters. If you're feeling more depressed than definitely speak w/ a doctor as alot of times depression is an actual chemical imbalance that needs meds to correct it. However if you're like me and just a high stress, high anxiety person, you can fix it with self help. I think what hubby and I are going to do is talk about it like every week or something and just point out things that have worked and what we can both still improve on. Sorry this is so long! I just don't even feel like myself these days and it's been happening ever since my son was born. I just didn't even realize it..I was losing my best friend. I feel so much better after we talked though. I mean we were both crying..it was an emotional mess. But so worth it. Sit down w/ him and tell him exactly how you feel and ask him to be straight w/ you and tell you what he's feeling.

nnjmommy - 1073 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Have you spoken to your doctor about pp depression?