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I need help!!
Added: 1064 days ago.
Added by: 2b
Section: General.
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OK we`ve been letting Isaac sleep in bed with us...Everyone has warned us its a no no but its so easy for all of us (me to feed him, him to eat and my husband to sleep...) ANYWAY, lately, Isaac basically wants to sleep with my nipple in his mouth. I hate it! The second I remove it or it falls out because he`s gone to sleep, he wakes up! I`m exhausted. So, last night I said that`s it! He`s gotta start sleeping in his own crib and I kid you not the baby wouldn`t sleep more than 15 minutes! I know people say to let them cry it out but even the idea of it breaks my heart. And he can`t possibly be that hungry! He is almost 12 weeks and about 17lbs. I`m afraid I ruined him :( He used to sleep 9pm-2am then wake to eat and get a diaper change then back to sleep till 6am or later... What have I done and what should I do??

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mariettap - 1063 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You will find something that works for you. My input is this: I recently read a passage about babies and sleeping and Ohhh how I wish I had read it when my first child was a baby, b/c I needed to hear it. "A baby's ability to sleep through the night has much more to do with the temperament of the child than the quality of the parenting." I hope that does something for you. Keep on loving your baby. It's a shorter period of time than it seems.

wisfarmgirl - 1063 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I don't think you can spoil a baby. They really need the nuturing and closeness. I didn't move my son into a crib in his own room until he was about 4 months old and when he woke in the middle of the night I breastfed him back to sleep. Sometimes I'd put him back in his crib and sometimes we'd both fall asleep. He is 17 months old now and sleeps in his crib all night just fine and is not spoiled. Just relax. You're doing just fine and you baby is benefitting and feeling very secure being next to you. Good luck!

mommy-at-home - 1064 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Your baby is not ruined, it will just take some time to break a habit. He is used to being with you and will miss the comfort, but he will adjust. Hang in there! You may need to nurse him often, say every 2 hours at night, and try patting, binky, briefly holding him between feedings. That way you will know he's not hungry and he will know his mommy is still available. He will eventually settle into a better routine, hopefully sooner rather than later! I was in a similar situation with my little one because I kept falling asleep in the rocker with him at night! Once I figured out a way to keep myself awake we were into a good routine within a few nights.

xolblondieox - 1064 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I'm sorry if it comes off as uncompassionate, if I was able to talk and not type you could hear my voice and see that it is of concern, not contempt. I promise you. It is just so so dangerous. I don't want you to be a statistic and I also don't see any point in lying to people or sugar coating. I would want the truth and that's why you ('2B') poted this question, because you want honesty.

mommy-at-home - 1064 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Wow blondie - a little compassion for a weary mother is in order here!

xolblondieox - 1064 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You sound like a wonderful mommy that loves her little boy very much, but this is a case of 'I told you so'. Sometimes other people really have valuable input. You did not ruin your little one, but cring it out is the only way this will be fixed. For someone to paint rainbows and tell you differently is a lie. It's not going to be fair to him and it's going to suck for you but it must be done- you created it. And at 12 weeks old, it's going to be one hell of a battle (at least 3 nights). Just be grateful that nothing bad ever happened having him in bed with you! My aunt works for the health department in my county and sees 1-2 babies a week that are suffocated, even at 6-9 months, due to co-sleeping and everyone said 'it will never happen to me, I would wake up first'. For his sake it must end.

2b - 1064 days ago We have tried several binkies and have found one he will take SOME time but he prefers to suck his fingers and even that comes well into fits of crying...

mamalvs4 - 1064 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) have you tried a binki(pacifier) maybe that would keep him asleep long enough to get into a deep sleep. and i know letting him cry is hard, i didnt like it either with my first son, but it litterally took about 2 days untill aidan figured out some self soothing tricks of his own....also i swear by the muscial aquarauim that hooks to the crib, maybe that would soothe him to sleep? good luck

kenyanmama - 1064 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i agree with Aubrey ...its time to get a pacifier...

AubreyP - 1064 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Do you give him a pacifiar? Maybe now is the time to introduce one if you don't. I bf my daughter and didn't want to give a Pacif. but ended up doing b/c she always wanted to be sucking or attached to me. It worked pretty well and at 8 months old she gave it up on her own.