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terrible twos?
Added: 1056 days ago.
Added by: xmistylynn08x
Section: General.
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My daughter brooklynn is 15 months. and im starting to wondering if she is going thru her terrible twos a little early! is this possible so soon? ehh i dont know what to do. She is a monster! She doesnt listen to anything we say. She crys over everything throws herself on the floor. Crying NONE STOP! over silly stuff. i tell her no she freaks out!! i dont know what to do. i though motherhood was easy until now!! help pleaseee! and if everyone that can help me could add me. i just renewed my site and i cant add anyone for some reason! i have had my site since i was pregnant and i deleted everything and started over. so please add me and give me some advive!! thanks!

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JuliMomOf4 - 1056 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I agree, there really is no reasoning with a 2 year old. I find that no matter how often I say, "now daniel we don't do that." Or "Daniel please don't do that." In a calm voice, the only thing that works (for my LO) is saying no in a very firm and louder than usual voice. I don't shout, but it's not my "calm mummy" voice. My hubby just deepens his voice and all 4 kids obey him... Wish I could do that. My youngest has been going through the terrible 2's since he hit 1, my 4 year old is yet to finish his terrible 2's. My older 2 kids never went through the terrible 2's. They aren't kidding when they say every kid is different.

xmistylynn08x - 1056 days ago thanks ladys for comment me back! i do want to clean something up i should had when i 1st wrote this. I dont give into my daughter and yes i do discipline her! i try to explain to her to not do that or that wasnt nice and explain why if she does it again we give her a little smack on the hand.. NOTHING works...

gr8scottswife - 1056 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) P. S. For a child at that age, use simple phrases, "That's for four year olds. You are two." or "That's breakable. We play with things that are unbreakable." I also read that if a child wants to go outside without a coat, for instance, but it's really cold, instead of arguing about it, take her outside to let her feel how cold it is. She will probably change her mind and decide on her own to wear a coat. There's no since reasoning with a 2 year old. They don't reason. They follow directions (lol. mostly). My SIL makes "deals" with her kids, too. If you x, you can "x". Deal? Deal. Then they shake hands. Her kids are 2 and 4.

gr8scottswife - 1056 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) By the way, Ada is five months, and she throws tantrums. Part of it is frustration and part of it is overtiredness and sometimes it's just an out and out "I want my way NOW!" tantrum. I have learned to tell the difference. If she's tired, she takes a nap. If she's near nap time but not quite ready or if she's been trying really hard to get something, I cheer her own and try to make her smile to help her keep going and to stop crying and sometimes I just distract her with something else. If it's just pouty, pouty, whining, I just ignore her or finish what I'm doing and then check on her to move her to a different playing position or whatever. Most often, in the last scenario when she's just being demanding and pouty, she stops after a little bit if she sees I'm not coming to her immediately. Again, this is 5 months old. I'm sure things will change a bit, but some of these strategies will work at most ages. Oh, and things that are absolute nos, such as blind cords, I just pull her hands away and tell her that those are for big hands and that she has little hands. If she crise and cries, I distract. She can cry for one hour about not getting her way even after I have distracted her, so for the last week, I have been putting her in her bed every time she cries because she didn't get the blind cords or whatever else it was that was for big hands, not small hands. She doesn't sleep. She just stays in there long enough to stop crying. I get her outo f the bed, and she's a totally new girl, like the bed just erased all memory of whatever she wanted. She is happy after I pick her up again. Once, I read in an article that for certain behaviors, you can tell your child, "The doctor said that (fill in the blank, i.e. lies, pouting, etc.) is caused by a lack of sleep, so in order to fix the problem, the doctor said that you must get more sleep, so you have to go to bed (or take a nap) now since you need sleep, Insert Child's Name." However, that's pretty much the same thing as a time out. Also, something that wasn't mentioned, is that telling (not preaching, lecturing) in the simplest way possible that screaming is unacceptable is good, but you must also tell the child the correct way to ask for things. When s/he screams after you have said no, it's time out time. Maybe you should say things like, "We'll see or maybe or let's write that down or we'll do x at x time (and then write it on the calendar or board or something and follow up)." My husband used to use, "We'll see." It worked like a charm because then he wasn't saying no when he was saying no, but the kids never figured it out until much older.

NeverPreggers - 1056 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I agree with Melissa. Watch Caesar Milan, the Dog Whisperer. Obviously he talks about training your pets but the same principles work with kids, especially young children. Also watch Nanny 911 or that other nanny show on TLC.

emma32uk - 1056 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) its possible!!!! lol they are so lovely as babies......wait till she hits 3!!!

mama2 - 1056 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Oh lord I feel your pain! I have a 15 month old son and he is the EXACT same way. But i've found that he is this way only in the afternoon until bed time. I figure it's just his cranky time.

sarahchihuahua - 1056 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) My ds is nearly 5 and i have had ongoing behaviour problems with him but he was exactly the same at that age when he had a tantrum screaming or throwing himself on the floor i ignored him after a few weeks it didnt last for so long as he knew he wasnt getting a reaction - but now as he is older i tell him im ot his friend cos i dont like naughty little boys and generally he comes to me and says sorry and gives me a hug - i have tried the placing him on the stairs for a few mins he just couldnt care - aother good punishment we have in place is a binbag and he has to put one of his favorite toys i there when he is really naughty ad he cant have it back until he is well behaved for a full day

MelissaLMoore - 1056 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) They can and do start early, but it sounds like you have a discipline/routine problem. Children thrive on routines and knowing what to expect and do not like surprise or change. Perhaps you expect too much. You are still learning, but what you are doing is not working. No child is bad, it is just ineffective parenting!

shala - 1056 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) When my oldest threw fits like that I would completely ignore him and just walk out of the room. Once he realized he wasnt' getting the reaction he wanted he'd stop his tantrum and go back to doing whatever it was that he was doing. My youngest isn't to that stage yet but hopefully the same approach will work with him!

Its-Chelle - 1056 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) my son started his terrible 2's before he turned 2.. it seemed almost overnight. he is almost 2 1/2 and is the same if not worse..but he has lots of other good qualities about him of course, i have 3 daughters he is my only son and from what i have been told boys are worse..lol i believe it, my girls were not this bad.

twins!! - 1056 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) yes it is sooo possible for her to have early terrible twos, cause mine did. Time outs work as well as sternly looking her in the face and telling her its not ok to do that. ocassionally ignoring a tantrum works as well... lol what stefflily said about the squirt bottle sounds like what u do to doggies to train em, i woulda never thought of that but hey everyone disciplines their kids differently.

steffilily - 1056 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I also felt that way when my son started throwing screaming fits. I thought that did not start till they were in their two's. I would try ignoring it at first to let him know that kind of behavior does not get attention from me. But if it gets really bad, I have a spray bottle filled with water and I would squirt water in his face. It works most of the time. He would be startled, and look at me for a moment. Then if he starts up again, I squirt water again. He has gotten better and does not throw screaming fits as often. A new thing he has started though, is banging his head on the floor when he is upset from us saying no. He would have carpet burns on his forehead, sigh. After he hurts himself a little, he'd stop and give us a big pouty frown.

AubreyP - 1056 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) My daughter was like that and still sometimes is. She gets so easily frustrated and is so demanding. As soon as she wants something she starts yelling and whining. Sometimes if what she is screaming for is rediculus we just ignore her (as long as she can't hurt herself). We also tell her that screaming like that is not ok and if she wants something she needs to ask right. It is really frustrating because now that she can talk good even if I tell her no on something she just keeps asking and asking and whining and it can drive me crazy. If she talks really mean and screams I will give her a swap on the butt. It doesn't really seem like there is any great cure. Just make sure you don't give in to her while she is screaming and crying b/c then she will think that is the best way to get what she wants.

gr8scottswife - 1056 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Have you watched Super Nanny? That show will give you lots of good tips. It looks like it's time to start time outs.