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Husband sleeping in guest room a bad idea?
Added: 1055 days ago.
Added by: mominmay
Section: General.
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Hey ladies, I am thinking I will let my husband sleep in the guest room at least a couple of days in a week when the baby is born-to allow him to get a full night`s sleep.He travels 2 hours to and from work and is exhausted everyday. I saw my brother struggle with sleeplessness (He has a 2 month old) and I felt sorry for him! You ladies think this is a really bad idea?

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wwatters18 - 1054 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) not a really bad idea. you have to do what works for your family. my s.o. pretty much sleeps on the couch and part of me resents him for it but part of me likes the bed to myself. mine is for different reasons though

AverysMommie - 1055 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I don't know if my bf & I have a backwards relationship or what, but I was out of work the first 7 wks. I pretty much did night shift, he'd help if it got bad. We slept in our bed, baby slept in bassinet til 4 wks. I went back to work, she would wake up around 3 for a feeding boyfriend would go feed her, change her & put her back to bed. Been like that since 2 months, he doesn't mind it, I def. donot mind it.

JuliMomOf4 - 1055 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I do the same thing with my hubby sort of. He works evenings so he sleeps from about 3am in with our sons. He drives a bus for a living and has other people's lives in his hands. If he's exhausted and has an accident with a full bus... The potential for disaster is just far too high. Your hubby has to drive a long way to and from work, if he falls asleep at the wheel due to being exhausted... I think you're doing the right thing, BUT on his days off, he sleeps with you and he helps with baby! I make hubby do this (hehehehe) and it gives me a chance to recharge my own batteries.

karenbg - 1055 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) bottom line is you both have a "job" to do the next day so whatever works for you as a family is a fine idea; just be willing to renegotiate the ground rules if needed...I would "try" something out for 2 weeks and check in with the other person rather than letting it get to a point of no return...

steffilily - 1055 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) LOL. I was reading MelissaJoanne's message and she is so right about feeling resentful towards your husband when he is alseep. I cannot tell you how many times I've given my husband the evil eye while I was sitting in bed holding my son and watching my husband snoring and sleeping peacefully. There were so many times I wanted to just push him awake and say "oh? did i do that???"

steffilily - 1055 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I thought the same way about letting my husband sleep becuase he worked. However, I was in for a rude awakening when I realized how sleep deprived I was and did not even have a chance to rest at all during the day until my husband came home. I noticed the more sleep deprived I was the fussier my son would be because I was short on patience from having no energy (which makes me even more worn out) so I relied on my husband to help out during the nights. My husband usually just has to get the baby, change his diaper and hand him to me then he will fall back alseep in seconds while I would breastfeed and then try to get our son back to sleep which can take up to an hour. So he has no problem going back to sleep while I could not sleep like I used to because I just keep wondering if the baby is breathing, if he is warm enough, etc... After few months, when our son was not waking up that often, we came up with a solution....if our son woke up after 3, I would be up to get him and stay up with him until he falls back to sleep. If it was before 3, then my husband would do it and use pumped milk to feed him. He wanted at least few hours of undistrubed sleep before waking up for work. It helped both of us big time!

shelley75 - 1055 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) no, I don't think its a bad idea...i think you are being considerate of your husband.

mariettap - 1055 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) The right thing to do is the thing that works for *your* family. Whatever helps you so you can function as a team and enjoy your baby.

Bangel - 1055 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) sounds like a good idea....you are very nice wife!! :)

MelissaJoanne - 1055 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You'll both be entering into "survival mode" when your baby arrives. Do what you need to do to get through it. We did a variety or me + baby in bed with husband on couch, him in bed with me + baby on the couch or glider, baby in bassinet with both parents in bed, etcetera. At this point all three of us are in bed together and we all get the most sleep that way! If your husband needs to sleep in the guest room to be rested enough for work there then go for it. (warning - it sounds sweet now, but when you're completely sleepless with baby you may feel a *little* resentful if he's getting great sleep in another room! I would get SO mad if my hus. would mention feeling worn out when I had gotten literally no sleep, and he'd slept just fine in another room) :-p

Its-Chelle - 1055 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) if you and your husband are ok with this then why not? the first week when my son was born i slept in the living room. it was honestly the most comfortable place for me and my son to sleep-on the couch. i kicked back the recliner and had him next to me and it was easier to sleep and adjust. i tried going to bed but didnt work. my hubby would still get up and help, he was tired but didnt mind losing some sleep. i think its very thoughtful of you to think of your husband.

luvbeingamom - 1055 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i am not the best example (my husband and i are now separated) but for both my first and second son we took turns taking night breaks. Him during the week and me on the weekends to try to 'catch up' on sleep.