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No sex drive
Added: 1031 days ago.
Added by: amygirl22
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


I had my son like 5 months ago. Ever since I had him I have had like no desire for sex at all! My bf gets upset bc he initiates it 99.9% of the time. And when we do have sex or do other sexual things, I`m just not into it. What can I do? I have no idea. LoL.

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antsmom - 1030 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) This is normal. Your body is tired from caring for your infant 24/7. Your hormones may still be adjusting even 5 months after delivery. I had zero sex drive after my son was born until he turned 6 months old. That happened to be when I got my first post partum period as well. I'm not sure if the sex drive came back because the period was back or it just took my body that long to become ready for sex again. My husband was just as tired as I was so it wasn't a big deal that we weren't having much if any sex during that time. If you still feel a lack of sex drive in another month or two, you can mention it to your doctor and see if maybe your hormones are still out of whack. Good luck!

Bienks - 1030 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Ok, this is going to be a long note. I had the same thing. After my son was born I kept hubby away from me for about two months (was not on contraceptives and didn't want to get pregant again) I finally had to give it to him (not wanting to) but anyway, I kept trying to avoid it saying that I'm too tired and that he doesn't do enough (bla bla bla) which is excuses that we all use, well it got to a point where he wanted to leave because he thought that I didn't want him anymore, which was not the case, we then dicided to change things to find out why I don't want sex and instead of fighting about not getting or giving it we started to investigate it. We googled and read everything about getting our spark back, the first true way to start getting it back is to talk, talk about what he expects, talk about what you are able or willing to give, when, what time, how long, and yes in the beginning it feels like a schedule but it works. After a while of this we started downloading some video's and the kamasutra for some new ideas, we bought some toys to spice it up. And if I must say so myself some of them are so awesome. Sorry for being so graphic but the only way to address sex issues is to talk. Ask you man to tell you want he wants in very specific ways and then you tell him what you want, talk about you fantasies try to make them come true, talk about the solutions and not hammer on the problems, tell him to help you and not blame you for not giving him any, this attitude change in my hubby made such a big differance in my sex drive, him complaining all the time does not help and made me want it even less, so talk about solutions, the problem won't end if he keeps blaming you. In the beginning it felt like too much work to do, but in the end it's so worth it. Now our son is 8 months old and our sex life is better than before. If you want more tips feel free to ask me on my page send a private message, talking about this can feel weird, but after discovering all these great things I feel more confident in myself (weird !) I don't want to say too much here, might be too graphic for some.

secondandexcited - 1031 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I'm the same way girl!!! I think it happends to most women at least a little bit after you have a baby. Maybe it's because you are so tired from dealing with the baby, plus if you are breastfeeding a lot of women see their bodies as a tool for their children, and not their own or for sexual purposes. I know that when I was breastfeeding and sorry if TMI - I would be on top bouncing and milk would come squirting out, or if you are doing doggie style it would come out (like a cows utters) and the bed would be wet...funny, but so unappealing! But it's totally normal! Maybe you could try to pop in a sexy movie after the baby goes to bed and you and bf can watch it together. Ya know, try to get into the mood. Or if that makes you feel weird, start watching one by yourself and then shut it off and have bf come in the room. Hey it might work, might not. But it's worth a shot. Good luck!!!!

raquels - 1031 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) lol i am going through the same thing my son is 4 months and i dont want it at all. My husband is getting mad also i told him to go rent the porn channel....lol but my aunt is a nurse and told me to go see my gyn , something may be off. Good luck!

jaydsmom - 1031 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Maybe the 2 of you can go to councelling to find out the reasons why you don't want sex anymore. There has to be a reason. My ex and I went through this after our daughter was born, and it tore us apart. We went for councelling when she was 3, but it was too late. The rift was too big. Look into it now, because you need to get the "spark" back.

tommiesmommy - 1031 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Same here. My OB told me that I can get testosterone pills or injections and that would increase my libido but I can't because I am breastfeeding. So, if you aren't breastfeeding talk to your doctor!

amy2088 - 1031 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Oh i am the SAME way. My son is 5 1/2 months old. I want NOTHING to do with sex at all. My boyfriend is starting to get mad lol. Maybe there is a pill for girls like viagra. I dont knwo about you girls, but i feel so unsexy since i had my son, i think that is possibly the reason.

ashysmm1 - 1031 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) my daughter is almost 2 and im in the same situation you are in im not sex at all my husband is wanting it but im not