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Should I say something or leave it alone?
Added: 1002 days ago.
Added by: amygirl22
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


I lived with my mother from the time I was 4 months preg til the baby was 5 months old. So needless to say they are pretty attached. But she is always trying to correct everything I do. It`ll be 90 degrees outside and she`ll be complaining that he is cold and needs socks or long sleeves. She claims that when he coughs he wants picked up so she picks him up and walks with him every time he coughs. He throws fits when he is tired and cant fall asleep. She will try to take him and walk with him or comfort him. Even if I tried everything in the book, she claims its not good enough or I`m not doing it right. He is 6 months old now and yesterday I noticed he was saying `mum` alot when he was talking to me. I was excited! Until I told her. She said he`s been saying `mum` to her for a couple of days now. 1st question: should I say something about her always trying to correct my parenting? 2nd: Should I be worried about him calling her mom instead of me?

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izziebo - 999 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) deffo say something my love my mum does this allll the time and its so irritating n it makes me get really upset. i just tell her when shes stepping over the line from grannyhood to mummyhood. she gets upset n sulks at it but then she says sorry coz she knows that she is GRANNY and I am MUMMY. shes probably just trying to "show her little girl how its done" and thinking "iv been there before" etc but it really doesnt help lol. dont get upset by it tho your his mummy not her! and secondally hes saying mum to her and you? lol amy calls me dadda dad and mama its just a noise they associate with sum1 who gives them love. Amys first word was dada and she called me it my mum it andy it andys mum it etc etc etc they just know it means someone who loves them n they love they dont assopciate it with an indevidual person for a while so dont you worry:D:D:D your a fab mummy and you son loves you and your mum will be proud of you for standing up for your self love you xxx

mariettap - 1001 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Exude un-ending confidence in yourself and your entitlement to your son as his mother, and it will go away. When she comments about how she thinks you ought to be doing things, do not argue your reason for doing what you do--Argue your parent-ness! Simply say, "I've got this, mom." or "His Mama is going to call this shot, Mom." If you feel like being very sensitive to your mother's craziness, you could say some time, "Mom, I'm this baby's mother, and I'm going to have to learn, just like you did when you had me. You're going to have to give me some room to make my own mistakes. Please try to respect that." As for the "mum" part, if she tries telling you that again, just pretend she never slighted you: "Oh! Thanks for teaching him to say my name!" Then turn to your baby and tell him, "You have such a special Grandma! I'm going to have to start teaching you to say Grammy!" Let it roll off your back and it'll really tick her off! ;)

LizetteCheree - 1002 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I agree with what the others have said.Why the hell do older people think a baby should ALWAYS be dressed warm.!??

vickiessecret - 1002 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Well my mom isn't like that with me, she'll offer me advice..and with him calling her "mum"... When I was a baby my grandma watched me alot...both my mom and dad worked and my mom told me that I called my grandma "mama" I did know who my mom was and I called her "mama" too... I don't think it's anything to worry about. But if your mom always correcting you is bothering you, which if my mom did that it would probably bother me...I'd bring it up to her.... Take Care :)

wwatters18 - 1002 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i felt like this awhile back too until i could clearly see that my daughter knew who i was. my mom watches my baby about 3 days a week since i work 12 hour night shifts and i was noticing that my baby acted as though she preferred my mother. and my mom always kept telling her to say mum and i felt like taylor was gonna think my mom was her mom. and my mom always has to be in her face too, lol. its not as bad now as i thought it was, especially since my daughter definately knows im her momma:) but i know how you feel. i myself just let my mom know in a round about way how i felt cause i didn't want to hurt her feelings either.

tommiesmommy - 1002 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Canadababy is right. It is only going to get worse. And to tell you the truth, he doesn't know what mom means, he is using it indiscrimitively. Its just a new sound his mouth makes, so don't worry about that, he isn't calling anyone mom on purpose. But, you should def. talk to her. Maybe you could say something like 'While I appreciate your help, and while I know you did a great job raising me, its my time to be a parent and I need to learn how to do it by myself. I appreciate all of your advice but, I need to be a mom now and I will make sure to ask you for advice when I need it because I know you will help me when I need you.'

canadababy - 1002 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) lol, my grandma and my mom are constantly trying to correct me and it always causes a fight because I tell them to stop! My baby is not being abused, she is VERY well taken care of :) Just because I choose not to put a hat on her when it's +15C outside does not make me a bad mother and does not warrant me being criticized. So when I get in an argument with them I see it as them picking the fight and me reacting. Of course I could choose not to react but I see that as condoning the unnecessary criticism. Good luck! If I were you I would end this now, it's only going to get worse.....