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crying it out
Added: 982 days ago.
Added by: mother649808
Section: General.
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Hi ladies! I have 3 month old twins that feel the need to be eating or be held before they will go to sleep. Their father works shift work so a lot of the time I`m here by myself and of course they always are up at the same time. Does anyone have any ideas as to how I can get my lil ones to sleep without making them cry themselves to sleep?

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LizetteCheree - 981 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Tracy hoggs aproach is alot like kim wests approach but i dont think baby realy crys.Mmmm ive gotta finish that book.

jaydsmom - 981 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I used the Kim West method from Good Night Sleep Tight. To get your babies to sleep on their own will be almost impossible with absolutely no tears, but... there is a nicer way to do it than just leave them alone to cry. The issues with crying it out actually are that they become overly clingy because they need that feeling of love, not that they don't get attached. With the method I tried, you start in the room with the babies. You pat their bellies/backs, but not in any pattern. So pat for 30 sec, stop for 30 sec, pat for 20 sec, stop for 40 sec etc. Then if they are calm, sit next to their beds and leave them be for a bit. They may cry/whimper a bit. If they start to really cry, then give them a cuddle and then do the patting thing again. A few nights later you pat them less and don't stand next to the crib, but still be in the room. You can talk to them a bit to keep them calm. A few nights later move further. I think you can get where this is going. This is a gentle method because you are right there for them, they can feel you, yet you are not holding them or feeding them to sleep. They DO cry, but not like when you just dump them in their cribs and walk away.

LizetteCheree - 981 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Btw i dont have twins but tracys approcah has advice for mothers of twins.My hubby also works shifts so i get where ur coming from.message me if u need any thing else:-)

LizetteCheree - 981 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hun first off please DONT let them CRY IT OUT.Its just not nice,some people has had a great routine from the start so their babies dont have to have a routine broken so its easy for them to talk,sorry for that rant.Getting back to your question im in the same boat hun,as i also tried the supposed crying it out and never in my life again,its heartless,when u need to break a habit it WONT be only 15 minutes of crying,i know,my lo cries for hours,she wont sleep.I bought the book the secrets of the baby whisperer by tracy hogg and she has a much better approach,i love the book so id suggest getting that book a.s.a.p.Hope i didnt offend any one.Hope this helps:-)

M2G - 981 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Do they sleep together? I wouldn't recomend crying it out at this young age. My daughter didn't fully start to settle on her own and get into a good night time routine until 4 months. Make sure you have a good bedtime routine as well.

xolblondieox - 981 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I have 4 month old twins. I always just put them to bed groggy. We do bath, bottle, bed but they aren't allowed to fall asleep with the bottle in their mouths. I rock them at their crib sides for a minute and then lay them down. See I've been doing this since birth- making them put themselves to sleep, so crying is rarely an issue. But sometimes they're in a mood and start to cry when put down. I just let it go, it never lasts more than 15 minutes. So long as I know they have everything they need- full tummy, clean diaper, favorite blankie...they're on their own. It's not all terrible making them cry themselves, I don't know why people talk about it like it ancient Chinese torture. It builds self soothing skills and if you don't do it, you will be rocking and feeding them to sleep until they're a year old (seriously read some women's testimonials and problems on the site :-/). It's a life sentence. Letting a kid cry for 15 minutes doesn't prime him to be some sociopathic serial killer, who has attachment issues and thinks mommy doesn't love him. It's just sleep training. My kids are utterly attached to me and they are left to cry (have been since just a few weeks old) all the time for various reasons. I know it's not what you want to hear, but it's the only thing that REALLY works. This is coming from another MOTHER of twins. Best of luck :o)

everythingX2 - 981 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) hiya, i have 11 mnth old twins. were ur babies early? mine were 8 weeks early and even now they sometimes are either rocked to sleep or have a little drink then fall over half way through. if they looking to fall over while feeding i remove bottle and just rub back for a little while. i know it maybe not help but babies are determined little bandits sometimes and play on ur strengths and weaknesses. mine did to start with and i ran myself ragged trying to pacify both of them at the same time. neither take a dummy. i noticed that u do bath, bottle bed routine. please stick with it. it will work eventually. my twins are up and down just now but this is because they are teething and my little girl had a lactose intolerance she has now grown out of but trying to get her used to normal dairy type foods at the mo. bear with it and it will get better. i promise. my partner works mon- fri 8-5pm but even when he in i tend to do things because its easier. when mine were really bad about 4-5 months my doc actually advised me to give them to my mum for 2 nights and 2 days with no visiting. i was drained and had no energy and the more tired i became then i felt worse.... my mum took them for me on a thurs night and kept them through to the sun and after i felt id had a break and felt ready to take the world on again with a new approach. i know this isnt always possible for everyone and my family are very good to me. but maybe if u could get even 2 days and 1 night to yourself to rest. then it maybe make the sleep thing now seem as bad. a story or a nursery rhyme also works quite well. ifyoud like to email me then please do - i will be more than happy to chat etc with u and give u my private email also. best wishes, kimberley

Khloes Mommy - 982 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Do they sleep together? Could you put them next to eachother and rub their backs till they fall asleep & slowly stop doing that? I don't have any great words of wisdom but maybe get them doing something that will work for you & them for awhile then if you want to stop doing that you can break the habit later?.?.

happyforest - 982 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) oh sorry i thought u meant is there a way to get them asleep besides feeding them before bed. i still have to rock my son to sleep with a bottle at night and he is 7 months old so i dont have any easier or faster advice...

mother649808 - 982 days ago They DO get fed before I put them down ladies. Seriously...did u think I was making them starve through the night. Obviously they need to eat before bed and at least every 4 hours thereafter. I didn't ask if I should feed them I asked for other suggestions. They shouldn't get used to falling asleep with a bottle in their mouths. So just to clarify....they get baths , then fed, if they are awake we play for a little while then about 9 or so they go to bed.They do have periodic awake time thoughout the day so they don't sleep all day.

happyforest - 982 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) most 3 month old DO NEED fed before they go to sleep. do not make the CIO yet b/c they will go to bed hungry, and then also will not sleep as well because of it.

RobinG - 982 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Please dont do the CIO ~ esp this young :( if they need to be held or fed it is because they NEED it not just because they prefer it. Swaddle them good, use a glider, pacifier, swing, rock them then place them down after they are asleep ~ etc etc at 3 months many still need that to go to sleep ~ mine all did. I have two sets of twins in my family hugs I know how hard it is ~