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First Cousins wanting to get married...What should they do?
Added: 977 days ago.
Added by: 1st-time-mommy-2-b
Section: General.
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IS IT ALRIGHT FOR 1ST COUSINS TO MARRY? 1st cousins, Best Friends and lovers! A baby 2getha! Read the bible and don`t find where it is wrong for cousins to be together! Everyone says that it`s in lev. but in lev. it list who is wrong for sexual sins. It doesn`t list cousins. also it has 1st cousins in the bible getting married and having kids. Deep in love and want 2 get marrried.

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tiffyy - 975 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) you can say i am too traditional, but w/so many pple on earth i would never marry my family. it's disgusting. you have to have a limitation. we should change rules/laws to accomodate our present but not to a point that could cause chaos. i mean honestly sex used to be a sacred thing for a married couple, but now it's almost just a game or something pple do when they're bored and it doesn't matter who they do it with; so i can do it w/my bro. if i married my c1st cousin and my children want to married each other one day, i honestly have no real reason to stop them.

jpcm - 975 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) the "piece of paper" that comes with marriage, is why so many people take getting married for granted, they think it's ok because it's "just a piece of paper", legally, and it's not, that piece of paper, is a commitment, in itself, it protects your spouse, your partner, your husband/wife, in events such as hospital stays, choices, insurance matters, very important moments in life, when a person with no "piece of paper" would otherwise be told they have nothing and are not allowed to interfere with their significant other's legal matters. I for one, hate the "just a piece of paper" label, people give marriage. The problem with relying solely, on heart, instead of "paper" is that the hearts feelings change....I know, I love my husband, but if he was to decide different, and to walk away, that "piece of paper" will protect what i have brought into our relationship, and what i will walk away with. As for cousin's marrying, anyone can say, well i LOVE my cousin....it's my heart, i should be able to marry them....then two days later....someone will say, i wanna marry my dad, my uncle. Rally don't need the opinions of a whole website for moms and women, need to be asking the courthouse more, I seriously doubt there will be a big uprising and a movement of cousin's wanting to marry cousin's.

mummyyumyum - 975 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Just purely from a legal stand point (no personal judgement) I think in the UK where I am from, I am not sure if you are able to marry a 1st cousin...but I think you are able to marry a 2nd cousin.

nutnut - 976 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) sorry i was trying to correct something and it double posted and wont delete =/

nutnut - 976 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) and just a note, if you believe in the bible, you believe in adam and eve. so in theory, we are all related. also keep in mind, there are many others out there fighting for the right to marry whom they choose. marriage by state is a piece of paper, it has power because people believe it does. marriage of the heart is a lifelong commitment to another human being. if people had more faith in the heart aspect rather than the paper and legalities, perhaps the world would be a happier place? just because certain situations carry higher risks, doesnt necessarily mean we shouldnt take the chance, just that we need to be prepared to commit to the results.

nutnut - 976 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Typically, if i have nothing nice to say, I say nothing.But i will try not to offend anyone. Im not sure if you will get any positive replies to this, and i wish i could give you one. while i am all for freedom to love and marry who you want, im not sure legally this is possible. The world cannot be governed by the bible. there is too much diversity in the world, too many seperate sets of beliefs, and the bible also says its ok to have slaves, and stone your children. im not putting down religion, and don't want to spark any debates over what is written and what is understood to be true. what i do want to say is this, it has been scientifically proven that inbreeding holds a higher chance of birth defects, genetic defects, retardation, etc. years and years ago, cousins were married off to cousins, to uncles, etc. this is an individual moral issue, that comes with certain medical risks for any future children. there are children who are seperated at birth, who meet a sibling or cousin as adults, with no knowlege they are in fact related, and some dont find out until after they are married. there are also many many children born of donor eggs and/or donor sperm who grow to adulthood never really knowing for sure who they are biologically related to, should these people not fall in love, not marry, not have children "just in case"? personally, i would never want to marry my any of my cousins, but that is just me. =) You are asking a question that will most likely not generate any positive replies. its a matter of one's own feelings. My advice is this. Don't read the bible to figure out if this situation is ok. You can either love and be there for the persons you are referring to, or you can let them live their own lives and move on from them. if the stuggle is within yourself, on whether or not you feel its right, well honestly its not anyone's place to judge them. they have the baby now, and the focus should be on the baby, not on anything else.

mckrush - 976 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) actually unless they are immediate family mother, father, bor, sis there is no chance for birth defects or as to what we learned in biology when i was in college.... i wouldnt marry my 1st cousin but im sure ppl have done far worse in life

happyforest - 977 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i dont think its right AT ALL that is crazy!! wtf are they doing having babies together?! im not saying any of this bc of the bible, you cant base your life off of something written that long ago, cousins used to marry all the time back then bc people didnt understand genetics and stuff. i hope their baby is ok and i also hope they dont risk getting pregnant again and having a baby that has problems the rest of its life :( why do they need to get married anyway, they are ALREADY family

jpcm - 977 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) LOL, had way too many typos in there....oops, sorry!

jpcm - 977 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i think question is worded wrong, if you mean is it legal for them to marry, it depends on state, and referring to other post, LOL, "down south inbred".....in state of Louisiana you have to be ATLEAST 4th cousin's...can't marry 3rd cousin, 2nd or 1st. Most peopel i know anyways, say theys till wouldn't marry 4th or further IF they know they are cousins. Everyone in my family, an I mean everyone, LOL, had to find our SO's elsewhere. I do have a daughter born with a birth defect, doesn' tstop her at all, and her parents, grandparents, noone on either side is "inbred". If you are asking for just, judgemental opinions, that is what you will get, judgemental ones...not legal ones...as just opinion..like question asks for...no, i don't think it's right.

Bangel - 977 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) many people carry genes for incurable conditions/diseases, and they still take a chance and have babies. Don't see how thats any different than 1st cousins taking a chance at birth defects.

misz-cashis-april09 - 977 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i agree with everyone else on the issue of birth defects. like others have said even if their kids are okay, their kids kids could have major problems. 1st cousins is deff a little too close in my opinion. but if they are soooo in love they will probably get married anyway. even if a million people say they are wrong. i just think they should be prepared for what they are getting themselves into cuz having a child with a birth defect is tough.

diane-taketwo - 977 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) The Bible aside, right or wrong, the concern of birth defects is the real issue (in biblical times, there was no knowledge of genetics). If not in your own children, when they have children is when the defects may appear. Certain states have laws on how closely related people can be before marriage will be allowed as well. Just facts, not judging!!

nicnmicsmom - 977 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) It's not for me to say what's right and what isn't ..for anyone other than myself. However, since you DID ask.... Having a baby with a first cousin is like playing Russian Roulette. You share the same grandparents and all the same DNA which gives your child a VERY high risk for birth defects.

jessicadarling - 977 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think first cousins is a little too closely related. The possibility of birth defects alone is a little frightening. I know it isn't that uncommon for distant relations to marry especially in the past but first cousins is a little too close for comfort. My great grandparents got married and they were like 6th cousins or something but the time in the 1900s were different and they were farmers and they didn't even know they were related until they did their family trees because their relation was so distant.

summermomma - 977 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) well, I am sure you are going to get a lot of different opinions on this, so I wont give mine, however, I do want to point out the possibility of birth defects in the baby, because First Cousins share a same set of Grandparents, which would mean at some point you would share DNA with this person and it can cause a range of birth defects in a child. Just my two cents.

Its-Chelle - 977 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i dont think its right but not my business..who knows what the laws are where you live..im sure theyre gonna do what they wanna do..

novinsmommy09 - 977 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) uh idk seems a lil down south inbred to me, not to be mean, its just not right, it can cause mutations. in the bible they didnt really have a choice in the beginning on who to marry there wasnt alot to choose from, not the case today with 7 billion people on the planet lol