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mom`s with children at least 7+ years apart
Added: 976 days ago.
Added by: nutnut
Section: General.
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did you find it difficult having such a huge gap between them? my daughter is 6 and will be 7 in july. i am 8 weeks along, and was worried about how she will handle the transition. any suggestions? thanks. and sorry about the mistake in posting the first time. i got distracted by kids begging for me to let them on the trampoline =)

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mariettap - 973 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I have a 7 1/2 yr old and a 6 month old. My big girl was very excited, wanted lots of jobs. When we got home from the hospital, I think I gave her too many jobs though! They still need to be little :) What's great is that at this age, they have sophisticated coping strategies to use: Can talk w/ you about their adjustment (if given the opportunity) instead of acting out as a preschooler would. Can use baby as inspiration in writing assignments at school, talk about new baby at school, etc. Mine found the first few mos hard--"The baby gets all the attention!" And I could explain, Yes, she does get a lot, and you did too, and it's what she needs to survive. I could promise her that it would get easier at around 4 mos, and tell her that would be around April, so she had something to hold onto. She loves her and is sisterly, not maternal, which I think is just right. The baby *loves* to watch her big sister, and my big girl can see that, which makes her feel good. All age spreads are good--Family dynamics (loving/shameful/supportive/every man for himself/etc) are what determine how things go and what they remember and how they feel about it years later. Enjoy!

megeanua - 975 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) My brother is 7 years younger than me and I really enjoyed when my mom had him. I am not going to lie, it took some adjusting, but she made me feel really special by letting me help out with him as much as I could. She also always made sure for me and her to have time together after he was born. I am 23 now and he is 15 but I still help her with him as much as I can, haha especially when it comes to school work.

sheenat3 - 975 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I really like this question it helped me alot. i will be having my 2nd girl in october and my oldest will be 10 in aug. i was worried about sisterly fighting but i dont think there will be too much of a problem especially when she told me that when she is 17 and her sister is 7 they will go shopping together. so i cant wait.

jaydsmom - 975 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) My daughter turned 7 last august and I have the baby in oct. My daughter LOVES her little brother, and dotes on him, I just found that we really had to spend some quality time alone with her. Either step-daddy and her or mommy and her. We kind of dropped the ball on it in the beginning because we were so caught up in the new baby, but our daughter started to get a bit whiney and cried real easy, so we took a step back and realized that we were not giving her the attention she needed and deserved. She never had any jealousy toward her brother, which is good, and we love love love the age difference because it is so much easier, we just had to consciously make an effort to not ignore her.

nutnut - 975 days ago thanks all this is making me feel sooooo much better. my daughter is good with babies in general, im trying to keep her involved with the pregnancy but only as much as she feels comfortable with. she doesnt want to see the baby on the ultra sound. she said it scares her a little bit, so im not going to force her. she has been drawing pictures on her dry erase board of "the baby seed" and making a time line with pictures. she keeps asking me how many more month, and what month are we in, so she can change her timeline. she told me last night "oh this is taking forever" LOL! i told her its gonna be a lot longer and she said "ugh, ok". so maybe this is her way of being excited and i shouldnt worry so much. =D

♥mommi - 976 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) my mom just recently had a baby (my brother) feb 17 of this year. there's a 19yr old(my sister), me(17yrs old) my little brother (15yrs old) and then the 3mo old baby. hehe. 15yr gap. they all think she's crazy but it's actually very settle in the house considering we are all older and such. now my kids arn't even a year apart =/ and it's a lil hectic. lol

RobinG - 976 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Heck no!! The spread is AMAZING!!!! I wouldnt have it any other way :) My kids are 13.5, 9 and 19 months. I LOOOOVE the spread!! They are SO helpful when they are older :) When people see my kids together they always compliment my kids ~ they always say the love the older two have for the little guy is so obvious :)

mommad - 976 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) My first 2 were 9 years apart. My oldest has never shown any signs of jealousy. She is a huge help. She acts like a little mommy. She loves being a big sister. The other day my baby had to get her finger pricked at the dr and my oldest was making her laugh so she wouldnt cry. The nurse said she'd hire her for a summer job to come make babies laugh. She was so proud. She loves making her sister happy and showing her new things. She started reading to her when she was just a few weeks old. I hope your child accepts the new baby as much as mine did.

mamacakes - 976 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) my youngest is 8 months and my oldest is 11 years old..i found it to be easier,....IN SO MANY WAYS! LOL.... :)

nutnut - 976 days ago tks ladies =))) im just worried. this summer ive been spending every minute i can with her doing things she wants to do etc. she seems excited about the baby as well. thats for the great advice =D

Austin::and::Alexs::Momma - 976 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) My oldest was 2 days shy of turning 9 years old when my youngest was born. When my oldest found out I was pregnant he had a lot of mixed emotions through out the whole pregnancy. But as soon as his brother was born it was all set aside and he loves his baby brother dearly! He is very helpful and very proud! Be sure to include your oldest in as much as possible - doctors appts, ultrasounds, shopping, taking care of baby, etc. I think she'll be fine, just make sure you show her a lot of attention too and include her. Congratulations and good luck! =)

mommy-at-home - 976 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) My oldest daughter just turned 10, a daughter who turned 5 in January, and a son born October 2008. My daughters are very nurturing to the baby and love him with a passion. Girls that age are often loving and nurturing to babies in general so I think it is easy to instill a sense of love and caring for the baby. Some girls though will tend to just ignore the new bundle of joy. My suggestion is to create a sense of importance with your daughter and a sense of awe for the baby - she is a big sister now, the baby will grow and will look up to her, she can help mommy take care of the baby, isn't it amazing how tiny the baby will be!, can you pick out a special blankie so our new baby won't be cold?, etc. And be sure she continues to get special attention from you.