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Having another baby
Added: 966 days ago.
Added by: femi
Section: General.
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I once posted that I already wanted another baby (when my daughter was a few months old). Now, I am so worn out because she`s so active (high-needs baby, so I guess high needs toddler and is already walking!). I don`t think I could do this again ... the diapers, the formula / breastfeeding, the teething, the sleeplessness, the constant supervision, the crying .... I think she may be the only one! Does anyone else feel the same? Did you once feel the same but now you have more than one child? OR did you once feel the same and you made sure to only have one child?

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athenaB1984 - 965 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I'm going through the same thing right now. I love being able to spoil and endulge my daughter with awesome things and trips..adding another one to the mix, I'm afraid might put a little damper on the "fun"ness of things for a while. We have put off TTC until a few years...we were going to try in December but we have decided to wait..or just have one child, period.

nutnut - 965 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i was only going to stop at one. now nearly 7 yrs later i am expecting number 2. this was a planned affair. the first year is extremely tiring. it gets better. i regret waiting so long to try again, but everything happens for a reason. take your time with things, and dont worry so much about having another right away. when youre ready you will just know. and if not, thats ok too, there are many families who choose to have only one child. good luck in whatever you decide.

Baby Jaidalynn - 965 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was excately like you. I didn't want to have anymore my daughter is now 2 years old, and you know I am actually really sad now she is not a baby. She is a handful but I love her to pieces. And although I am trying to start potty training, I am going to get through it. Once she si older then maybe I will try again. It is alot of work yes, and I know I rather wait because I felt so stressed out at the time. Now I am getting used to.

juels101 - 965 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I did on and off after my first, but as she got older and her needs became less I certainly wanted more. Just wait until she is older and see how you feel. Don't rule it out, but dont begin to try again while your unsure ^_-

sarahann - 965 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hi, my story is almosst exactly like Anesha and there would have been only 22 months between my kids, but we lost the second. My first is about to turn 2 and I'm due again in February. To be honest, as difficult as my first one was/is, I think once she has a sibling she will be less reliant and demanding on us for attention as she will have someone else to play with. Yes, it will be hard initially while the new baby is a newborn, but soon enough they will be able to play together and keep each other occupied. At least that's how I'm hoping it works out!

Cindie - 965 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Nope... I always wanted more than one. my son TJ has down syndrome and is Special needs/high needs. When he was 6 months old my husband and I planned on #2 and 2 months later we succeeded. I'm now just about 14 weeks due xmas. Hubby and I are 22 yrs old. (yes young for a child with DS, but it happens)

1sttimemum2twins - 966 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I have a friend who felt she was ready for her second when her first was only a few months old. Once her daughter was on the move she told me she was glad she didn't start trying again and wasn't sure if they wanted another one. Obviously she got to the point where she felt ready again and now has a well behaved 3 year old and a beautiful 9 month old.

jaydsmom - 966 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) My first was also high needs. I thought she was going to drive me crazy. No sleep, always wanting my attention, clingy etc. I was horrified with the idea of having another one. Like RobinG and mommy-at-home, I waited. There is a 7 year spread between my kids and I LOVE it! My son is very content and happy and my daughter adores him. Also like mommy-at-home, my daughter became less high maintenance when my son was born.

mommy-at-home - 966 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) My first was a very high needs child - still is, and she's 10! I definitely felt like she might be the only one I ever had because she was so needy/clingy/wouldn't sleep/ etc. (sounds like you know the drill!) When she was about to turn 4 we thought hey, let's try for another - LOL that lasted ONE NIGHT and we chickened out. But, one night is all it took and number 2 was on the way! Amazingly, once daughter 2 was born, daughter 1 became less clingy, less needy! She is still very high maintenance and I figure she always will be. I'm so glad we have daughter 2, and now we have a son! My kids ages are 10, 5, and 8 months...and like RobinG, I love the spread and wouldn't have it any other way!

RobinG - 966 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) When new moms say they are interested in having another I always recommend they wait til their LO is up and running all over before they go for it ~ it is a whole different ball of wax when you have a toddler on the go and add a newborn into the mix. Many do it and do wonderfully at it and love it but it was def not something I wanted and very happy I had the spread. For some it isnt as easy as they thought it would be. I would even imagine for some that while they would never say they regret having a second so close if they knew then what they know now they'd wait a bit longer. Not saying all feel this way but you def are not alone in realizing that what you thought you wanted isnt so much now ~ My kids are 13.5, 9 and 20 months. I'd not have it any other way ~ I love the spread and it really was easier :)

tylersmommy54 - 966 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i felt that way like the first month but now that things have kinda fallen into place i know he can drive me crazy but i also know i'm gonna want a brother or sis for him so my thinking has changed alot. i just know i'm not ready for another one yet but i will be in a couple years. plus i was an only so i know i want siblings for him. :)

mariettap - 966 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) With my first I was so worn out that I usually wanted to leave the room if people started talking about trying for #2. When I felt ready, we got back into the game. Life does what it does, though. We can plan away our lives, but sometimes things work out just a little differently. ;)

Anesha - 966 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hi! My firstborn was/is high needs! She turns 2 tomorrow btw. lol. And I just gave birth a month ago to baby #2. I know how you feel. I felt the same way. My 1stborn barely slept, she cried, she was awake alot, always had to be held, nursed every hours, very demanding, wouldn't play alone, etc. It has gotten better with time. She is currently not like she used to be. She is much more independent. So yes I did feel the same but she has changed as she has gotten older plus I knew she needed a companion.