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family taking joy out of not knowing
Added: 953 days ago.
Added by: bratgirl65
Section: General.
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Is anyone else dealing with this? My inlaws are adament I`m having a boy. They push it like its a competition with me. At first I said I would like to have a girl. My sister inlaw and neice said it was a girl then my other neice got pregnant and they want her to have a girl so now they say I`m having a boy like as if in order for her to have a girl I have to have a boy. Its not just a ` oh I think you`ll have a boy ` Its YOU ARE HAVING A BOY!!! Of course it doesnt matter to me but it makes me resent them because they make me feel like I will be disappointed. I told my mother inlaw No one better come in and say I Told You so. She said she was going to. I know it sounds petty. But it really is bothering me. I hear it almost every day.

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chrissy-511 - 951 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) that's just stupid. what you are having has nothing to do with what she will have...they just sound ridiculous...it would irritate me too.

mariettap - 952 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Yes, they are a Pain in the... I got a lot more of that kind of input with my first than my second. See my blog "the Peanut Gallery" for more on that. Maybe it'll give you something to look forward it. I'd make myself very busy, anywhere that they are not hanging around.

juels101 - 952 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) They need to be much more respectful. I did'nt have that in my inner famly circle, just friends and aquaintences and it drove me nuts just in those situations. There shouldnt be any pressure to have a girl or a boy. Try to let them know it's hurting your feelings, you'd just like a healthy baby and you don't need your baby in competition before it's even born. Be open and very honest about your feelings. Since it's your inlaws your husband should step up as well and let them know there crossing aline!!!! Good luck

nutnut - 952 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i dont think they mean any harm. be happy they are showing interst in the pregnancy and are excited about it. my family pretty much ignores the whole idea im pregnant. we have had a rough time with family loss recently, so i suposed this could be the reason, who knows. anyway,if its really annoying you, you could tell them to knock it off, in which case they may get offended, and say" well someone is overly hormonal... i was overly hormonal and i had a boy" LOL. now i know its not funny bc its obviously bothering you, maybe you should try to talk to them. when i ws carrying my daughter, everyone in my family said "youre having a girl, girls steal your beauty". OK, so THAT was insulting to me, they were basically saying i was fat all over and ugly too LOL. i wasnt mad about them constantly syaing i was having a girl, i just didnt want to be called ugly lol. they didnt mean any harm, its just old wives tales,maybe your family doesnt mean any harm either. you can talk to them or just let it go. good luck

bratgirl65 - 952 days ago Thank You for support!

EmmaReed84 - 952 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If it were me and I was getting pissed off I would just make them look stupid....I would point out that it's a 50/50 chance of them getting it right, they are only guessing. When they keep going on about the sex, I would just look down at them and smartly say....well I don't mind what I have, I wont love my baby any less if it's not what I thought...Will YOU? Or something along them lines. Also when the baby is born if it's NOT the sex they guessed, I would smuggly say "I would say I told you so, but I am not that childish" lol

sarahann - 953 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Some people are odd. That would really bother me to the point where I would have to keep away from them. I don't know what your solution is, but I wish you all the best!